Going out with covid is it ok? Or aibu?

[boredoffmatleave]

I'm 37 weeks pregnant and tested positive yesterday I seem to managing ok with just rotating paracetamol. I need to pick DD up from her nans she's been there since Monday as she went to their holiday home in Wales with them.

DS is bored and wants to get out in the sun and I have a lot of things to get done OH does everything half arsed so I would rather just crack on with it myself instead of just lying in bed.

Is it ok do we think to just carry on or a big no no? Of course I don't want to make people sick.

I know we don't need to self isolate anymore but it still feels a bit odd not doing so.

You’ll be fine going out if you’re not in close contact with anyone and stay outdoors. Ignore the hysterical people claiming you’re killing grannies.

I wasn't too sure that's why I came here to ask when I've been looking at the guidelines it says you don't need to self isolate anymore. So then im thinking to myself am I being silly staying in my room all day shall I just carry on or what even though it doesn't feel right to start going out.

If OH was good on his own i wouldn't care but he's useless, he will go to his mums now to get DD and will sit there for hours not thinking about doing a food shop before he comes back.

Then your oh needs to stop being useless and step up.
Not just because you have covid but because you are about to have another baby. Thinking about going out with covid instead of addressing that is the wrong focus

Give him a list, he can do it before collecting dd, or arrange a click and collect.

@Neurodiversitydoctor

Also don't give it to your DH or you will have to give birth alone as no way will they let him anywhere near maternity ward if testing positive.

He doesn't have to test to be with his partner

But being in the car with her Dd is high risk to the Dd, so they end up with a poorly child in 3 days, 10 days isolation for the Dd, likely grandparents shouldn't look after a positive child, no childcare setting will touch her, how is that going to work with the new baby coming ?

The guidelines say you dont legally have to isolate but you should.

*Also don't give it to your DH or you will have to give birth alone as no way will they let him anywhere near maternity ward if testing positive.

He doesn't have to test to be with his partner*

OMG are you seriously suggesting it is in anyway ok for someone who is or knows they might be Covid positive to enter a healthcare setting 😯😯😯😯

If he’s this useless now what will he do when you have just given birth?
Sort your Dh out and stay inside.

The guidance is still to isolate. It is just no longer a legal requirement.

You have an OH problem. You don’t get to opt out of adulting by being useless.

If you died he’d have to grow up.

I despair at the world. I’m assuming your OH is an adult as he has a child and another on the way yet he can’t be trusted enough to run errands so you think it’s the better option to ignore government guidelines and spread an illness.

I think it’s fine to do outdoor stuff away from others but not to go to play park or shops.

It's guidance to isolate.

The same way it's guidance to isolate for d and v and chicken pox etc.

So yes, legally you could go out. But morally it's a totally different argument.

@georgousbold You do at my hospital, the husband is tested with a rapid test, takes about an hour to get the result.

And you are having a child with this supposed adult?

If he comes home with out doing the shopping, send him back out again. Are you expecting him to do much when the baby arrives?

Going out to an isolated spot is all very well, but what if you were in accident and needed the emergency services?
What if you ended up in an ambulance unconscious?
Just stay at home OP, you know it’s the right thing.
It’s a pandemic for God’s sake.

[quote TakeYourFinalPosition]@georgousbold You do at my hospital, the husband is tested with a rapid test, takes about an hour to get the result.[/quote]
You can refuse. It's against nice guidelines to make someone or refuse access is they say no

To be honest he was good when we had the kids but I feel that he will crumble this time round but we will see!

I am staying in anyway and will do a click and collect for him to pick up on the way back.

As long as you wear a mask, sanitise and stay distanced from others I really don’t see an issue with going out and about with it whilst you feel well enough.

You’re not going to pass it to someone with short encounters practicing those measures.

Ridiculous!! Wtf cant you just stay in? If you had chicken pox would you go out?

Me and DH tested positive on Weds and we are going out to walk the dog a couple of times a day making sure we stay away from other people. We're not going inside places and not mixing with anyone else but feel a walk outside with the mutt is pretty low risk and makes us feel better

@boredoffmatleavewhy do you think he will crumble this time?

The reply’s are interesting op.
There was a thread the other day where people said they weren’t testing their unwell kids and still sending them to school.

That’s apparently ok?

But going out knowing you have it isn’t? Right.

Mind boggles.

at least when you know you have it you can take more protective measures for others.

You’re not going to pass it to someone in a supermarket.

If DD has to come home, get her but have windows open and don't go near your DM.

Don't go to any public places. We have it at the mo and we're going to wide open spaces every now and again or we'd go mad with two small DC at home. Staying away from people though.

You've only just tested positive, it might ramp up in the next few days and you'll wish you'd rested instead of fitting bookshelves or whatever. Besides the whole conscience thing.

@georgousbold

Doesn’t really matter about the law, morally anyone who goes into a hospital, knowing they have / might have covid is an arsehole.

They’re knowingly spreading a virus which kills vulnerable people, and hospitals are full of vulnerable people