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I can’t take her to her friends party can I?

116 replies

MissingOutAgain · 04/03/2022 18:14

7 year old DD.

Has a cold I think.

No temperature, negative LFT, slight cough but she is asthmatic. Very snotty.

She’s fine in herself, eating and drinking fine, but very very snotty, blowing her nose and sneezing a lot. She’s been to school today but was sent home after lunch due to the snotty nose, told to test her.

She’s had covid over Christmas and was really ill with it, ended up in hospital for 48 hours and has only just gone back to school full time (since half term). She’s also only just returned to her activities and is still on medication due to effects of covid.

I can’t take her to her friends party tomorrow can I? Sad She’s so excited and so desperate to go but I don’t think the other parents would appreciate it. Yet again her poor immune system means she’s missing out.

Just moaning as it always seems to be when she’s looking forward to something she gets ill. She missed a school trip last half term due to her recovering from covid, and she loves her activities as well and her friends.

But I’ll do the right thing.

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winterchills · 04/03/2022 20:13

I would take her. She will have been mixing with these kids already at school

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MissingOutAgain · 04/03/2022 20:16

I've messaged birthday girls mum to see what she says.

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MargeSimpson79 · 04/03/2022 20:19

I would take her and not give it a second thought. She’s recently had covid. She’s tested negative. She sees these children everyday.

Wellbythebloodyhell · 04/03/2022 20:27

@TyrannosaurusRegina

No, she can't. But buy in her favourite snacks, stick on a movie she loves and have a cosy day in. Shame.
May aswell keep her locked up forever then as her asthma is always going to present like this 🙄🤦‍♀️ Confused
KosherDill · 04/03/2022 20:29

That's unpleasant for others and quite possibly contagious. She'll have to miss the party.

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MissingOutAgain · 04/03/2022 20:31

@Wellbythebloodyhell May aswell keep her locked up forever then as her asthma is always going to present like this 🙄🤦‍♀️

I feel like thats what people expect me to do now, I get such funny looks when her asthmas bad and she's coughing a bit now.

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Friendshipqn · 04/03/2022 20:33

To be honest on the basis of a negative lft and her being just snotty i would take her

Same. And if I were the host, I wouldn’t even blink at a snotty nose at a party!!

If I were you, I’d take her. They’ve missed so much. It’s just a cold.

Hydrate · 04/03/2022 20:42

Even before COVID I would not send her. Nobody needs to catch a cold.

MrsSkylerWhite · 04/03/2022 20:46

ZenNudist

I'd just send her. Negative LFT. It's a cold FGS.”

Colds laid our asthmatic youngest low for at least a week at best and hospitalised him twice (as OP will appreciate).

If nothing else comes out of these past months, surely not intentionally going somewhere with lots of other people when you have a virus should?

TotalRhubarb · 04/03/2022 20:51

I'd LFT her again tomorrow and if negative, let her go to the party. We can't keep children at home because of colds, they'll be home half the time for 8 months of the year.

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MissingOutAgain · 04/03/2022 21:03

@TotalRhubarb

I'd LFT her again tomorrow and if negative, let her go to the party. We can't keep children at home because of colds, they'll be home half the time for 8 months of the year.
@TotalRhubarb Even more for children like DD who pick up the slightest sniffle if it's within a mile of her - her class teacher joked that the HT could sneeze in her office and DD would get whatever made the HT sneeze, she picks up everything. She's had covid twice, the second time was also way worse than the first.
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FindItStrange · 04/03/2022 21:04

No one likes to have a cold. I wouldn't send her if she's very very snotty and sneezing a lot, nope. Not really fair on the others regardless of whether she sees them all the time or not.

See what the mum says!

I personally wouldn't do it.

MrsSkylerWhite · 04/03/2022 21:07

@TotalRhubarb Even more for children like DD who pick up the slightest sniffle if it's within a mile of her - her class teacher joked that the HT could sneeze in her office and DD would get whatever made the HT sneeze, she picks up everything. She's had covid twice, the second time was also way worse than the first“

Sorry but in that case why are you even asking?

How would you feel, were it your child’s party and the guests turned up with colds?

OnceuponaRainbow18 · 04/03/2022 21:11

When I had covid I only coughed to clear my throat, I hate it when parents message me asking their opinion as she’s obviously unwell as you are messaging and it’s awkward for the other parent to say no.

I just would ride this one out

OnceuponaRainbow18 · 04/03/2022 21:12

Also I sneezed loads with covid… was so weird

TotalRhubarb · 04/03/2022 21:12

How would you feel, were it your child’s party and the guests turned up with colds?

It would just be business as usual. Kids always have colds.

Kids here have been going to school and other events with colds, provided they're negative. I'm not aware of parents being bothered. We're in London and life has pretty much returned to normal in all respects - buses and tubes just as busy, less than half wearing masks.

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MissingOutAgain · 04/03/2022 21:13

[quote MrsSkylerWhite]@TotalRhubarb Even more for children like DD who pick up the slightest sniffle if it's within a mile of her - her class teacher joked that the HT could sneeze in her office and DD would get whatever made the HT sneeze, she picks up everything. She's had covid twice, the second time was also way worse than the first“

Sorry but in that case why are you even asking?

How would you feel, were it your child’s party and the guests turned up with colds?[/quote]
@MrsSkylerWhite I'd assume they'd done and LFT and it was negative. If my DDs going to get their cold she'll get it, whether they're sat on the opposite side of the room from her in class or right next to her at her birthday party. I don't wrap her in cotton wool as much as I'd like to because she'll never build up her immunity to anything if I do.

I accept that some things will make her really ill and may mean a stay in hospital, but even her asthma consultant insists that she leads a normal life.

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TotalRhubarb · 04/03/2022 21:14

@TotalRhubarb Even more for children like DD who pick up the slightest sniffle if it's within a mile of her - her class teacher joked that the HT could sneeze in her office and DD would get whatever made the HT sneeze, she picks up everything. She's had covid twice, the second time was also way worse than the first.

Well you can't keep her away from school for more time than she's there!

Sorry she was so poorly with Covid, that sounds awful.

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MissingOutAgain · 04/03/2022 21:17

[quote TotalRhubarb]**@TotalRhubarb Even more for children like DD who pick up the slightest sniffle if it's within a mile of her - her class teacher joked that the HT could sneeze in her office and DD would get whatever made the HT sneeze, she picks up everything. She's had covid twice, the second time was also way worse than the first.

Well you can't keep her away from school for more time than she's there!

Sorry she was so poorly with Covid, that sounds awful.[/quote]
@TotalRhubarb Tbh the doctors where more worried than I was, not because I don't care, but I'm so used to DD being ill and much iller than other children her age that I just though "She'll shrug it off in a few days" it wasn't until I mentioned her HR to the GP when calling about another issue that he asked me to take her down and then sent her to hospital.

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Wellbythebloodyhell · 04/03/2022 21:19

[quote MissingOutAgain]**@Wellbythebloodyhell* May aswell keep her locked up forever then as her asthma is always going to present like this 🙄🤦‍♀️ *

I feel like thats what people expect me to do now, I get such funny looks when her asthmas bad and she's coughing a bit now.[/quote]
Some complete ignorance on this thread its embarrassing 😳 many asthmatics cough throughout the year and even present as snotty and sneezy due to allergies like dust, pollen or animal hair ,the change in the weather from winter to spring or summer to autumn are often really bad times for asthma/allergy flare ups. FYI for all you in blinkered ignorance Asthma isn't contagious!
OP do not give this a seconds thought let her enjoy her friends party and live her childhood to its fullest, if others have an issue then that's on them, they need to get over themselves.

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MissingOutAgain · 04/03/2022 21:30

@Wellbythebloodyhell & snotty and sneezy due to allergies like dust, pollen or animal hair ,the change in the weather from winter to spring or summer to autumn are often really bad times for asthma/allergy flare ups

DD gets flare ups from pollen, I hadn't even realised it was the time of year but makes sense it could be that causing it. I'll try her on some of her antihistamines.

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Dutchesss · 04/03/2022 21:37

95% of parents I know would send their child to a party with a cold. If a child is well enough to run around at a party then they are well enough to go. If they want to lie down and rest then they are not well enough to go.

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MissingOutAgain · 04/03/2022 21:41

@Dutchesss

95% of parents I know would send their child to a party with a cold. If a child is well enough to run around at a party then they are well enough to go. If they want to lie down and rest then they are not well enough to go.
@Dutchesss She's absolutely fine, eaten all her dinner, was apparently running round at playtime and lunchtime fine at school, she actually didn't want to leave school and got upset because Friday is library day and she wanted to choose a new book. Even the poor HT looked like she was debating with herself whether DD needed to sent home, hence the line about it being "policy" not bashing her btw, she's a fantastic headteacher and always puts the school and the children above even her own family
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Wellbythebloodyhell · 04/03/2022 21:42

@MissingOutAgain I hope she's OK and that she enjoys her party 🥳

DearlyBeloathed · 04/03/2022 21:42

@TyrannosaurusRegina

No, she can't. But buy in her favourite snacks, stick on a movie she loves and have a cosy day in. Shame.
Why?