Why I'm angry about the May parties at Downing Street - share your stories

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No agenda, just a whinge to demonstrate rhe millions of individual reasons people are angry about BYOB parties in Downing Street whilst the rest of us were in Lockdown. I've heard so many stories of loved ones dying alone, loneliness and heartbreak.

For me, when the party took place on the 20th, I had been struggling in a domestic abuse situation for months. In lockdown. I'd been on my own trying to deal with this situation. I felt like I was trapped. It was an incredibly painful and difficult time of my life. Three days later, feeling terribly guilty, and despite the restrictions, if went to my sisters as the situation had become so bad. But because of those restrictions, I stayed in that situation for so much longer than I should have done.

Come the GE, vote accordingly 👍

@EngTech for me it goes without saying, but so many will not and it just baffles me.

I was working, managing a labour ward. We had to continue to provide normal service (no delays or postponing in our line of work..), plus factor in managing Covid patients. It was a frightening time, we had no idea of what numbers we would see or how covid would affect pregnant women or their unborn babies.
My children struggled through home schooling, without a parent at home to help if needed. (DH also out at work throughout)

We followed the rules.

I am so angry that this government carry on brushing more and more blatant rule breaking aside. How on earth can BJ continue, when he does not have an ounce of credibility or the respect of the country!?

This disgraceful man needs to step down. Each time a new story breaks of his disgustingly arrogant behaviour and disregard for the general public, I think this must be it now. I really hope this is it now.

I am angry because I believe that the leaks about these parties are coming from the PM or No 10 as a smokescreen.

They definitely happened and it is disgusting that this is what we got from our supposed leaders but they know that nothing will come of releasing the "leaks".

Now the latest leak is the big issue in the press, in the HoC and also that the public are talking about.

Personally I think that instead the issue should be "what the fuck is happening to this country and what the fuck are you going to do about it as our Government?"

I think that the Covid situation is insane and I personally cannot see how it ever ends to be honest.

I am disgusted that 170,000 people have died and there is little acknowledgement of the sheer tragedy of this.

I personally think that all this BS about "living with Covid" and pretending it has gone away is only making the situation worse and making the damage more severe and that twat in charge needs to answer for that not be sidetracking people with yet another "leak".

I do think that in the future there are several people in Government who should be up on manslaughter charges (at least).

Some people will say this is OTT but when I was a child there was an outdoor education centre near me who made a mistake, took some kids canoeing in bad weather and sadly there were fatalities.

No intention, just not cautious enough of the dangers and the deaths were the result.

They were found guilty of manslaughter.

This Government's actions to me are absolutely so far past this that I cannot see how they should not at least answer for their actions in court.

I am angry because this was six weeks after the Prime Minister had been in intensive care in hospital.

I have opposed the death penalty all my life, which is the sole reason why I do not think he should hang.

I had to sit alone, with my husband waiting in the car park, whilst they told me they couldn’t find the heart beat on my 28 week pregnancy. My husband cried in the car as I text him the news. I sat alone.

My dad was dying in hospital and I couldn't visit him. I couldn't be there at the end. I couldn't touch the coffin. There was only 10 people at the funeral. Someone reported our wake (of 6 people) to the police who turned up the next day.

Fuck.Them.All

@feathers7 it must have been so difficult. And I totally agree. I believe the only reason he remains PM, is because nobody else wants the job because all this sh*t is likely to stick to the next person. Bearing in mind most senior members of the party are likely to be up to their necks in it as well.

My Dad's best friend died in late April, his wife (my mum) died less than 12 hours later. Both Covid and unable to visit.
Mum's funeral early May, 10 people there all sat separately no wake. Best friend's funeral later in May, I drove Dad but couldn't support him at funeral as again only 10 people.
But party with 100 invited!!!!

I'm angry because earlier in the same month, my DD's 6th birthday party had consisted of meeting with two of her friends ON ZOOM. She didn't complain about it once.

I was almost suicidal due to delayed cancer surgery in May 2020. I did eventually get surgery but who knows how the delay due to Covid affects my prognosis? To see the PM and others out ignoring the rules really boils my piss.

I don't have anything as sad as most on this thread (some really tragic stories), but I missed going to the funeral of a close friend, who I still miss, and had to watch the livestream online. It was a beautiful funeral. I felt most sad for her young daughter who didn't get to see how many friends her Mum had and had to sit socially distanced from her relatives (she was primary age).

But yes, 100 people invited to a garden party.

When the party was happening, my foster son's mum was going through an emergency admission to a mental health ward. He couldn't visit. All we were allowed to do was drop off some clothes and toiletries for her.

And even now, even though there was nothing we could have done, she resents us for it and it has worsened her relationship with her child.

The Tories need to be held accountable for all of this and voted out.

FWIW, it wasn't just Tories there, it was civil servants too I think. Which almost seems worse. We know the Tories are scumbags, but civil servants? They're directly employed by the taxpayer - they're meant to work for us.

Isn't Martin Reynolds (who sent the invite) a civil servant?

FWIW, it wasn't just Tories there, it was civil servants too I think.

You're right, but the civil servants in Downing Street are all Tories. In theory most should be politically neutral, but in reality they're there because they'll happily subscribe to the Conservative agenda.

We lost a child in the family (not to covid) it was very sudden and horrendous. We couldn’t visit the child in hospital, hold his hand, kiss his face and say our last goodbye’s. I couldn’t comfort his parents and other family members. My DC were unable to attend the funeral and say their goodbyes. Many had to stand outside and watch on a horrible screen like it was a tv show. Even worse is we had attend another funeral the same way months later of my grandad.

on the 15th May 2020 I was begging to be allowed to see my dying husband and was denied that very basic human right. By the 20th I was telling my 95yr old MIL that her first born was dead.

I doubt that any political party is blameless but bloody hell I'm angry.

Oh this thread is so sad

I missed out on so much time during the last five months of my sister's life because we weren't meant to visit her in lockdown. I still remember the phone call with her in May (it was on my birthday which is why I remember) where she told me she was afraid she would never see any of our family again.

I won't lie, it was after that phone call I said 'Fuck this shit' and started going to visit her. I did only sit in her front porch though while she was on the sofa.

I’m so sad to read these stories.
My mum died in hospital after a month of being conscious on high flow oxygen and alone all that time. I could only visit her as they turned off her ventilator.

I clicked on this thread to add that his stupid party was 3 days before my wedding was supposed to take place, but frankly I feel that is very small and insignificant compared to what so many of you have been through. I am so sorry to all of you who have lost loved ones.

I am beyond angry with this shower of fuckwits running the country and honestly this is the final straw.

This was a few weeks after I went into a labour ward alone in agony, had no visitors and then had to introduce my baby girl to family through a window. I can't believe I let that happen looking back. Also on this day I was juggling a newborn with homeschooling 2 children on my own all day whilst my DP was at work.

Because the mental health of a family member was seriously damaged during those lockdowns and despite having care needs and a clear exemption was too scared to travel for support or to allow anyone to travel to them. Their anxiety meant they couldn't face the thought of being a rule breaker.

At one point during a lockdown they came close to ending their life.

I'm furious, and disgusted and hate them all.
The torment we went through to keep ourselves and others safe whilst these scum partied away, travelled, had affairs then constantly lied. Looking after the interests of them and their friends. Squandering cash on crazy contracts with their mates. Treating frontline workers with contempt then clapping on their doorsteps.

Anyone who votes for them again should be utterly ashamed of themselves. They are no better.

I will be angry to my dying day that for my mom's funeral I could have only six people and nothing afterwards. This was May 2020. Worst thing is I don't know who to be angry with but it hurts.