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Isolation away from kids?

53 replies

mamaez · 04/01/2022 16:28

Hi!
Tested positive for Covid this morning, PCR was yesterday....
I have 2 kids aged 4 and 2, we have decided not to send them into school/nursery (and made the school aware) just to limit the spread, although my OH had negative PCR and both kids are negative on LFTs.

Given the age of my kids I really dont want to be apart from them. They are so young and need their mummy sometimes, I have already listened to the 2 yo screaming for me at nap time. Plus the 4 year old has cottoned on to the fact I am upstairs behind a door and keeps asking why Im upstairs and not with them.

My OH and I clash on this one, I think we are already down the rabbit hole, just isolate us all together. He wants me behind a door and away from the kids until Im in the clear.

No underlying health issues any of us....

What would you do?

OP posts:
NeverSurrender · 04/01/2022 17:01

We decided not to isolate from our dc if it came to it, obviously rest if needed away from the dc but physically isolating from them for up to 10 days is too much IMO. My DS would really struggle with not being able to see me. I wouldn't want to put him through that.

TooMuchSugar22 · 04/01/2022 17:06

I wouldn't isolate from my dcs!

Useruseruserusee · 04/01/2022 17:07

I isolated away from DC aged 4 and 7. I only did that as our 4 year old is vulnerable and was originally on the shielding list. It wasn’t nice for any of us but he didn’t catch it from me so it was worth it. I isolated alone until I started getting negative LFTs, which was day 6.

In your situation, I would not isolate away.

Starlightstarbright1 · 04/01/2022 17:09

With no special vulnerability i would not self isolate.

I do worry the damage the forced isolation is doing.

parietal · 04/01/2022 17:10

Isolate as a family. it is cruel to shut yourself away from your kids for days.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 04/01/2022 17:11

I did not isolate from my 8 year old and if anyone had told me to do so I'd have told them to get fucked basically.

milkysmum · 04/01/2022 17:16

Isolate as a family- awful to shut yourself in a bedroom away from your children!

Youarethecarcass · 04/01/2022 23:45

I’ve isolated from my family (DH and DS7) - it’s been horrible. Main reason was to prevent DS getting it and testing positive a few days after me and effectively the 10 day clock starting all over again for them.

That being said, I totally accept that isolating after sharing beds, towels etc is probably closing the stable door to some degree. (However we’re on Day 8 and they’re both still negative so who knows?)

I can’t wait to hug them both in a couple of days

thewhatsit · 05/01/2022 00:22

Oh God, I couldn’t even comprehend isolating away from young children unless one was extremely vulnerable.

Lessofallthisunpleasantness · 05/01/2022 00:58

Since the health risks to children is so low I don't think I would attempt to isolate from children so little.

StressyWoman · 05/01/2022 01:07

I’ve got it and haven’t isolated away from my 8yo. It’s a rare occasion that I get half an hours peace so no chance of doing 7-10 days. It’s unrealistic for most families and must be very upsetting for small children.

sunflowerroses · 05/01/2022 01:07

I didn't isolate but we had all the windows open and I wore a mask. Avoided passing it on.

greenweepingwillow · 05/01/2022 06:31

nope. I had it over Christmas. definitely didnt isolate away from my family and my dc are much older than yours. Absolutely no way I would even contemplate iolating from such young childrne, unless they had specififc health issue that made them vulnerable.

icklekid · 05/01/2022 06:33

Send them to school and isolate or keep them at home and don’t isolate… 🤷‍♀️

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 05/01/2022 06:38

Didn't isolate from each other when my 10 year old had it , didn't isolate when I got it a few months later or when my 18 year old Got it. We didn't manage to pass it between us

Saying that I was in my 26 year old house for a couple of hours NYE and now I have it again and so does he and his gf. As yet none of the other docs have it. Isolating from them really isn't practical for me though

Florin · 05/01/2022 06:43

Our ds and I got it but didn’t isolate from dh we just isolated as a family. We hugged, dh and I slept in the same bed and he still didn’t get it. He said he really didn’t want to be separated from us and to be honest I didn’t really fancy isolating in one or 2 rooms for 10 days. Our son is a lot older too, unless underlying health issues I would just isolate as a family.

treeflowercat · 05/01/2022 07:13

If:

a) none of you have any health issues that would make you vulnerable to Covid,
b) you and DH are vaccinated,
c) you're well enough to help look after kids despite having Covid
d) and having Covid isn't going to cause you money worries,

I would carry on as normal and not isolate from each other - it's disproportionate to the risk, and it's very likely you'll all get it sooner or later.

KCee30 · 05/01/2022 08:04

Dp got covid last month and was mainly asymptomatic. We didn't isolate him in one room, our house isn't big enough and my children are young with sen, it would have been hard to do so. I caught it too and with both of us having it, it would have been impossible. I also kept the kids off when they were still negative as it was hard to get them there plus it felt responsible given current times.

We did end up all catching it. But all our symptoms were minimal! I wouldn't have even known Dd had it without testing as totally asymptomatic.

Bagelsandbrie · 05/01/2022 08:18

Completely depends on your circumstances but with very young children I probably wouldn’t isolate away from them.

My dh has covid at the moment and is isolating in our spare room and using a separate bathroom. I’m putting meals / drinks etc outside the door for him. We’ve both been double / triple jabbed but I’m in the clinically extremely vulnerable group and we’re doing everything we can so I don’t get it. Yes chances are I’ll get it at some stage but I’d rather not! A weeks or so shut away is worth it to us. We have a nearly 10 year old ds and he understands. He’s been chatting to daddy on FaceTime and playing minecraft with him online and talking to him through the window.

Glitterypinkmoomin · 05/01/2022 08:52

With no underlying health conditions and with DC so young I'd SI as a household.

We made the decision as soon as I tested positive that we'd rather risk getting it at more or less the same time and all SI together, rather than separate periods of 10 days over the next few months. DCs tested positive within 4 days if me.

Covidworries · 05/01/2022 08:59

We would isolate from children.
One child is CEV and the shielding letters told us to isolate child imaway during whole of shielding. We didnt do this as that would have been imposible and cruel.
We do however, take as many precautions to avoid as a household as possible.
I just feel that if one of us gets it it is likely we all will.
The younger children wouldnt cope tbh with being apart for a hr never mond longer. The older children would likely stay in their rooms as much as possible and wear masks in other areas but we would also want to make sure they were ok and support any illness as much as possible

Covidworries · 05/01/2022 09:00

** sorry mistype we wouldnt isolate from children

Cocothebear · 05/01/2022 09:07

I feel you I’m in the same position 7 days in. Normally we’d have isolated as a family but my DD 5 (4 then) had Covid over Christmas 2020 and was really poorly with it, we had her booked into rehab April 2021 the tiredness and coughing were relentless. Her 8yo sister batted off in 2 days. Never knew why it hit her so hard but I’ll do everything in my power to stop her getting it again. Been stuck in my bedroom 7 days now. She will prob go straight back to school and bloody get it there anyway.
From what I’ve heard most kids are doing fine with it so I think it’s just a personal choice.
I wouldn’t make my kid sick for a cuddle either way though, that I think is cruel and I love my cuddles more than anything in this planet. Kids are pretty resilient they bounce back with stuff like that fine.

britneyisfree · 05/01/2022 09:10

Why take them out of nursery and then hide from them anyway? Either they carry on with life as normal or you're all together. You can't isolate them from their routine and have them all cooped up as well as taking away all your cuddles/love and interaction. It's only 6 days but that's a long time in the world of an under 5.

Why are people doing this Sad

Cocothebear · 05/01/2022 10:14

@britneyisfree

Why take them out of nursery and then hide from them anyway? Either they carry on with life as normal or you're all together. You can't isolate them from their routine and have them all cooped up as well as taking away all your cuddles/love and interaction. It's only 6 days but that's a long time in the world of an under 5.

Why are people doing this Sad

Perhaps because we don’t want to make our kids sick if we can help it??

Saying you’d rather cuddle your child yet risk making them ill (however mild) instead of letting your hubby cuddle them for a few days and not make them feel unwell is a no brained for me. Cuddles are the most important thing in our house but I’m not going to put a cuddle over making my kid feel like shit for a week