Everyone else is worried about cancelled Christmas while I'm worried about cancelled chemo

[nettie68]

Husband currently undergoing chemo, treatment will be delayed if any of the household test positive or they don't have enough staff on the day because too many are off isolating. Meanwhile, the rest of the world is worried about having their Christmas plans disrupted.

And yet, there is a nurse who has started a recent thread asking if you would judge her for not being vaccinated. A nurse who says they worked on a covid ward.

I am so sorry op that you and your partner have to deal with this uncertainty. The more I hear about the things people like you two are going through, the more angry I get at the antivaxxer s and those who blatantly break the law

[quote Receptionclass]@mildtomoderate What about a person in a third world country waiting for chemo, living in a shanty town? Or a toddler waiting for chemo?
My point isn't that the OP's situation isn't desperately sad, it's that other people are still allowed to feel sad about things even if they're "better off". Life is all about shades of grey and it isn't fair to belittle other people's suffering because it isn't "sad enough". [/quote]
You are completely crass and tone-deaf coming on here talking like this. Have you got any idea how you come across.

@picklespark

I’m really sorry. Just wanted to come and tell you that some of us do care about this and would follow any rules imposed to protect people like your husband who desperately need their treatment, as much as we may not like it.

Yes we want to see our families, but a lot of people need to have some perspective and stop acting like the virus isn’t there. The social sacrifices we make are nothing like the sacrifices families like yours are being forced to make against their will.

Absolutely agree. I find the 'Well, Boris had a party so why should I follow the rules' people very childish.

I'm so sorry OP.

Thinking of you and your DH, and others in your situation

I'm so sorry, OP. I hear you. People have lost all perspective. I hope your DH can have it soon.

I have a knee replacement due on the 31st. I'm dreading any of the household testing positive or it just gets cancelled. Thinking of you op

I understand but a different reason. My toddler is due to have his leg amputated in January. I'm so looking forward for him getting his prosthetic leg and finally learning to walk. Now I'm worried his surgery might get cancelled

We have DC with Covid so the few plans we had to see family are cancelled. OP I don't care.
Nor do DH or the kids. It's only a day. We can see family in a few weeks.
We are so aware that people we know are in similar situations to you. DC aren't eve ill

I'm with you, and everyone else (almost) on this thread.
I'm praying that the NHS will be able to continue essential treatment for everyone who needs it.
I am taking the precautions very seriously.

@wingingit33

I hear you. I'm worried about giving birth without my husband being allowed with me

That's not quite the same thing though is it

Yanbu OP. The 'I'm not following the rules anymore' brigade utterly disgust me with their selfishness. They are so shortsighted.

Hope things go smoothly

I’m on immunotherapy which for my last dose I was lucky to have as they were so short staffed and that was in November- next one due 28th December
All our family can do is try our best not to mix and they will all do lft before coming to us Xmas day.
Hope everyone having treatment gets to have it to schedule and stay a well as can be expected

I think I would take what some people post with a pinch of salt. Many people are fed up and might come to have a good moan about how they are not doing lockdown again or to vent about the government not following their own restrictions. It doesn’t necessarily translate to them actually not reducing contacts or taking care in real life. The vast majority of people will follow whatever rules are in place to protect essential services. Most people we know are doing regular LFT before any meet ups and are already reducing activities they have planned in run up to Christmas. We went through this week and decided we would keep a party last weekend with kids from my daughters class, a visit to the national trust and a local outdoor museum and a private pool hire we are sharing with another family whose kids go to school with our two. We’ve cancelled two evenings out with friends, a play date with some baby group friends whose kids all go to different schools and an extended family get together. I don’t know anyone in real life who hasn’t done similar. I hope your OH gets in for his treatment ok and that it is successful x

I'm so sorry, if it's any consolation I think many people who are worried about Christmas being cancelled aren't really worried about Christmas but it's a good cover if you get my meaning. Won't go into details but we have a number of family members myself included waiting for urgent medical treatment but I keep telling people I'm worried about Christmas when I'm not really it's just easier to say that than confess your real fears xx

@ttcpatronisers

There's no hierarchy here hon, childbirth is very dangerous for women, having had a dreadful experience myself where I nearly lost 2 full term babies I don't know how I'd have got through it without my husband so pipe down.

We have a child on a neonatal intensive care unit at the other side of country (over 100miles away) at the moment on breathing support, born at 26 weeks, we are desperately trying to avoid everyone and testing daily, biggest fear is we or someone else takes it in there, or it goes through the staff causing shortages

Hope all goes well for you OP, that’s really tough.

@Spongey85

[quote Georgy12]@ttcpatronisers

There's no hierarchy here hon, childbirth is very dangerous for women, having had a dreadful experience myself where I nearly lost 2 full term babies I don't know how I'd have got through it without my husband so pipe down.[/quote]
Why don't you pipe down, because your tone is NOT appreciated.

Some of us have had to be told their full term baby had died, without their husbands there, long before the pandemic. So I don't care for your patronising shit thank you.