Everyone else is worried about cancelled Christmas while I'm worried about cancelled chemo

[nettie68]

Husband currently undergoing chemo, treatment will be delayed if any of the household test positive or they don't have enough staff on the day because too many are off isolating. Meanwhile, the rest of the world is worried about having their Christmas plans disrupted.

I'm with you. DH has just finished chemo and radiotherapy which was a stressful few weeks. Now we're waiting on scans and then hopefully surgery in a couple of months, so I'm worried about him getting seriously ill from covid, him testing positive and so having scans and surgery delayed so the tumour starts to grow again, ICU being full of covid patients so his surgery gets delayed. My patience for people whinging about the not very onerous rules or refusing to be vaccinated is through the floor. It's not about personal fucking choice, if these people want to risk getting seriously unwell through their own stupidity that's one thing but they've got absolutely no right to drag my husband down with them.

People have no idea, do they? Or don't want to have ... until it affects them directly.

Stage 4 lymphoma. Sitting at home with my PICC line in ready for my chemo to start… but there is no bed available. They’ll try again tomorrow.

@Dammitthisisshit

Stage 4 lymphoma. Sitting at home with my PICC line in ready for my chemo to start… but there is no bed available. They’ll try again tomorrow.

I have a PICC line too and get my 3rd chemo on Thursday. Good luck with your journey, I hope they get a space for you soon! Mine is only day chemo, so no bed required.

I hear you. I despaired of people complaining last year which was before I had a cancer diagnosis this March. So many people only care about themselves and my patience has worn so thin.
I finished chemo a couple of months back but hearing people moan about holidays, testing on return etc over the summer really got to me. I just wanted to scream at them that in the grand scheme those things were so insignificant and holidays are choice, cancer treatment isn't!
My oncologist said it could take up to 6 months for my immune system to be fully recovered so we're not seeing anyone over Christmas. SIL is annoyed we won't see them but her DH has just had Covid plus they have two young kids who may well be asymptomatic.
I hope nobody's treatment is delayed because of this. I'm due to start radiotherapy in the new year so don't want that to be delayed, my turn to be selfish.

There is always always someone somewhere worse off, that doesn't invalidate people's struggles, even if they seem to have it worse off. Life isn't a race to the bottom- we can be sad about multiple things of varying degrees of tragedy. I think people are allowed to aspire to be happy and have good quality of life. I'm so sorry for your situation but that doesn't give you tragic top trumps.

@Receptionclass

There is always always someone somewhere worse off, that doesn't invalidate people's struggles, even if they seem to have it worse off. Life isn't a race to the bottom- we can be sad about multiple things of varying degrees of tragedy. I think people are allowed to aspire to be happy and have good quality of life. I'm so sorry for your situation but that doesn't give you tragic top trumps.

Yes it does. Sorry but a person waiting for chemo is definitely struggling more than most other people.

Thanks Nettie and so sorry to hear the hospital had no beds for your stage 4 cancer treatment Damn, its appalling.

@mildtomoderate What about a person in a third world country waiting for chemo, living in a shanty town? Or a toddler waiting for chemo?
My point isn't that the OP's situation isn't desperately sad, it's that other people are still allowed to feel sad about things even if they're "better off". Life is all about shades of grey and it isn't fair to belittle other people's suffering because it isn't "sad enough".

I couldn't give two shits about Xmas OP but like you I worry about not being able to have a major surgery that I very much need quickly. I really hope your DH gets the chemo he needs without issue!

@Receptionclass

There is always always someone somewhere worse off, that doesn't invalidate people's struggles, even if they seem to have it worse off. Life isn't a race to the bottom- we can be sad about multiple things of varying degrees of tragedy. I think people are allowed to aspire to be happy and have good quality of life. I'm so sorry for your situation but that doesn't give you tragic top trumps.

I aspire to having A life, and not have my cancer treatment delayed/stopped.

[quote Receptionclass]@mildtomoderate What about a person in a third world country waiting for chemo, living in a shanty town? Or a toddler waiting for chemo?
My point isn't that the OP's situation isn't desperately sad, it's that other people are still allowed to feel sad about things even if they're "better off". Life is all about shades of grey and it isn't fair to belittle other people's suffering because it isn't "sad enough". [/quote]
You're just being facetious now.

@Receptionclass

There is always always someone somewhere worse off, that doesn't invalidate people's struggles, even if they seem to have it worse off. Life isn't a race to the bottom- we can be sad about multiple things of varying degrees of tragedy. I think people are allowed to aspire to be happy and have good quality of life. I'm so sorry for your situation but that doesn't give you tragic top trumps.

I'm so sorry for your situation but that doesn't give you tragic top trumps.

A life vs a small dent in your social life? I think the former does win 'tragic top trumps' - which is an appalling phrase.

I'm not being facetious. So people can't feel sad because other people have it worse? That is what you're all saying.

@Receptionclass

I'm not being facetious. So people can't feel sad because other people have it worse? That is what you're all saying.

Oh do go away.

Nobody is saying other people can’t feel sad, but the people who have extremely serious things to worry about are entitled to talk about how it makes them feel to see lots of people worrying about relatively trivial things, without being accused of playing top trumps.

It's a bit weird to come into a thread about people with legitimate health concerns and complain about "top trumps".

Sadly some shallow, selfish and completely self absorbed people have lost all sense of perspective.
They are completely blinkered to the plight of others.
Instead of focusing on what priverledged lives they already have, they whinge on and on about a (possible) temporary inconvieniance.
It must be so frustrating for someone like yourself, and l really hope your husband gets the treatment he needs asap.
Good luck.

@nettie68, please do ignore the derailing poster.

It is a rubbish situation and my heart goes out to you.

Handhold for you and your DH. I find it soul destroying how people are behaving (depending what thread you read) and being unwilling to see the big picture such as you're facing. Words are inadequate but I think positive thoughts that your DHs treatment can continue

OP, I hear you.

OP and others facing the same thing, I m very clear that protecting the NHS needs to be the number one objective, specifically to protect the health of those of you for whom treatment means everything.

Thinking of you, fighting for you.

I wish you both all the best
Some of us do care and will follow any restrictions we can. We test regularly and wear masks. I know it isn't enough but rest assured not everyone is so self asorbed.

I hate that so many people can’t see the wider consequences of high levels of Covid. This is why I’m as careful as I can be so that people can get the medical treatment they need. I really hope it all goes to plan for him.

I hear you OP, I care and will follow restrictions