Everyone else is worried about cancelled Christmas while I'm worried about cancelled chemo

[nettie68]

Husband currently undergoing chemo, treatment will be delayed if any of the household test positive or they don't have enough staff on the day because too many are off isolating. Meanwhile, the rest of the world is worried about having their Christmas plans disrupted.

Sorry to hear you're having such a worrying time OP and I will be thinking of you and your DH and keeping everything crossed that his treatment will go ahead as planned. We will also be sticking to any guidance and doing everything we can to reduce spread

We have a family member gearing up to start treatment.

We will be following the guidance.

Wishing your husband the very best.

I hear you op, I am waiting for a much needed op, not cancer but it can be quite hard reading all the threads about relatively trivial things that make me think ‘I wish I had your worries!’

Best wishes to you all, such a horrible time to have to go through this x

I promise you it is not everyone else. It is not the whole world vs you no matter how hard it is for you now. There are lots of us in the same boat xxx take care and good lunch

*luck even!

I care Op. And most of the people I know care as well and are acting accordingly.
Good luck to your family.

It must be such a stressful time OP, I really feel for you and hope very much it goes smoothly for your DH.

My mum is due to have a mastectomy ( then probably chemo) next week. In normal times, I’d be visiting as much as possible, especially to help put after the op. As it happens we moved our Christmas celebration to last week and I’ll do a grocery drop and wave from the driveway in a week. I can’t risk anything more, she’s so scared of pick up Covid right now.

I have children who are 10 and 12. While I could perhaps isolate to enable me to see her and dad, I don’t feel I can ask them to give up their Christmas celebrations. It’s so hard 😔

I hear you OP.

This is the problem with the 'let people make their own risk assessments'/'just shield the vulnerable' mantra. If everyone who is not vulnerable carries on as normal (no masks, no distancing, no isolating etc) most of them will be fine but it's people like your husband who will pay the price. I've come across this a lot IRL recently as well as on here. People seem to forget that this is not just about protecting the very elderly (who I don't think are as disposable as some seem to think) but also younger people who will suffer the knock on effect of covid hospitalisations.

I'm neutropenic, I get it totally

I hear you. My 4yr old DD went in today for 8 days chemo so we're missing Christmas all together. We had our Christmas dinner yesterday in fact and she got to open her pressies. We've been delayed before but it's usually due to bed shortages. It's all relative I feel and I don't want to disregard other peoples concerns because they are not as 'serious' as ours. Good wishes to your husband

Most people care.

Don't judge the British people by the Mumsnet covid board "have a tantrum in public" threads.

Yes, I agree with OP. Back in Mar 2020, my OH was about to start his chemo treatment, which they cancelled on the morning, literally just as he was ready to leave the house. Despite them saying they'd contact him to reschedule, they didn't and he had to continually chase them up to get a start date. Eventually, it started in July!

He has chemo appt for the first week in January, and we're very worried that they'll cancel it again, and again, we'd end up in limbo for weeks or months until they start again.

I hear you, DH is home with stage 4, care has been cancelled until 23rd and I am already on my knees. Oncology appointment on 24th and I know the news is going to be shit.

I hear you OP and agree. MIL had cancer just before COVID and was finished her treatment but we are super careful because everything that could go wrong due her during her illness went wrong.

I just want you to know the silent majority are with you - I get disheartened reading the many anti vax and anti mask and anti social distancing posts on here, but then I remind myself that it is the Internet and every forum is full of those posts (even a property forum I used to be on🙄). It’s as if the internet has been infected with its own virus!

@ToddlerMumma

I hear you. My 4yr old DD went in today for 8 days chemo so we're missing Christmas all together. We had our Christmas dinner yesterday in fact and she got to open her pressies. We've been delayed before but it's usually due to bed shortages. It's all relative I feel and I don't want to disregard other peoples concerns because they are not as 'serious' as ours. Good wishes to your husband

Sending love and hugs and so sorry that your DD has this dreadful disease. Hope treatment goes well x

I’m sorry @nettie68 hope treatment goes ahead as planned . Such a bigger picture then omicron just being mild so we’re all ok . When you have staff needing to isolate .

It’s situations like yours I keep in mind and why we follow the guidelines .

Thanks again for all messages of support, it really does help to know that people out there who do understand. Good luck to anyone else undergoing treatment at this difficult time.

I hear you too OP. This time last year my SIL and young DGC were both neutropenic and on chemo and radiotherapy. “Missing” crimbo was the least of our concerns and have zero tolerance for some of the idiots on the internet who I believe are not representative of most people. Thinking of you 💐

I am sorry OP , not cancer but my DF had a lifesaving op last week and we were very much running the clock to get him in before the wave of cases hit. Even now we see praying that he recovers enough to get him out and safe away from the hospitals before the cancellations start. It's horrific to be in your situation now and to hear all the stupid statements online at the moment.

I do fully get that some people are genuinely impacted by their MH and everyone's problems are valid but my god its hard when you see statements saying g some refuse to comply because they want to tantrum or for political reasons forgetting that real people are facing awful times rather than for genuine reasoning. I truly wish you the best options at the moment.

I am sorry op, and hear you

This is what worries me the most, and it really upsets me that lots of here don’t see the bigger picture

Hope everything goes ok

Try and remember that the people who wouldn’t follow the rules on MN are a vocal minority in real life. Every single time we’ve had to introduce restrictions so far they’ve done this and every time, most of the country does follow the rules. Most people do know what the right thing to do is. And in fact people will start to do it before the government gets their act together.

Hope everything goes well.

I hear you and sincerely hope that treatment goes ahead.

I have had family members in the same position and it is heart breaking.

The ignorance of some on MN who say they are "done with covid" and other such stupid statements is soul destroying. But as others have said in the real world of people I know, they do see the bigger picture and don't have such a narrow view of some on these boards.

There are many who simply can't compute that we need essential services to still run and that the NHS being overwhelmed isn't just about patients with covid it stretches far, far wider than that.

But as said, most with an ounce of intelligence can see the bigger picture beyond the necessity of a turkey lunch and gatherings for all and sundry because "they deserve it and they won't be told what to do by their corrupt party loving government."

Good luck. There are many, many people who do understand.

OP, I am with you. I went through chemo from August until November 2020, and surgery in December 2020. The thought of having my treatment postponed/delayed AND/or contracting COVID while immunosuppressed filled me with the most awful anxiety. Even now, after my active treatment has finished I get really anxious about medical services (in my case, oncology) being postponed because of staff absences. All because of the short sighted minority (I hope it’s a minority) who can’t see wood from the trees. Wishing your husband all the treatment he needs without any delays. It is absolutely terrifying being diagnosed with such a bastard disease like cancer, let alone having to worry about the possibility of delay to your treatment and the thought that the cancer has the potential to advance due to any delays. Awful! Wishing you well.

Sending you every good wish, and assuring you that there's nothing I would be doing that can't wait, and wait I will. (As most people will, too)

Another one saying that people care and think about consequences. I'm not scared of covid for myself but worry if I did get it what the consequences would be for anyone I might pass it to. Yes it is horrible having to isolate/lockdown/not see friends and family but the alternative is a lot worse.