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Everyone else is worried about cancelled Christmas while I'm worried about cancelled chemo

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nettie68 · 20/12/2021 13:37

Husband currently undergoing chemo, treatment will be delayed if any of the household test positive or they don't have enough staff on the day because too many are off isolating. Meanwhile, the rest of the world is worried about having their Christmas plans disrupted.

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wingingit33 · 20/12/2021 13:39

I hear you. I'm worried about giving birth without my husband being allowed with me

RachC2021 · 20/12/2021 13:41

This would have been me last year. If they do end up delaying chemo due to lack of staff they will decide who is “safest” to be delayed. I ended up with three doses being delayed in total, one due to bloods (low neutrophils), the other two due to another health issue (not Covid-19) and admin issues. It’s actually quite common for delays of a week for these things. If it’s a staffing issue then hopefully they can just juggle people by a day or two instead. Hoping it all works out OK for you and DH.

DolphinFC · 20/12/2021 13:42

I'm so sorry for the pair of you and the many others like you.

I hate the fact that so many on here ( more so than in real life) and proclaiming their intentions to carry on as normal no matter what even when it is pointed out to them so many times that carrying on as normal will ultimately have dire consequences for others.

PAFMO · 20/12/2021 13:44

So sorry.

picklespark · 20/12/2021 13:45

I’m really sorry. Just wanted to come and tell you that some of us do care about this and would follow any rules imposed to protect people like your husband who desperately need their treatment, as much as we may not like it.

Yes we want to see our families, but a lot of people need to have some perspective and stop acting like the virus isn’t there. The social sacrifices we make are nothing like the sacrifices families like yours are being forced to make against their will.

Blinkinname · 20/12/2021 13:45

I'm so sorry op. I'm also worried a medical thing I've been waiting 18 months for that is finally scheduled for January will be cancelled. It all sucks and is avoidable if everyone had the vaccine

Silkieschickens · 20/12/2021 13:45

Yes its scary at the moment, I have stage 3 breast cancer and if you get covid there is a 7 week postponement to surgery as well plus all appointments were I am are alone and there are delays. I hope your DH can start his treatment soon.

Greenfields124 · 20/12/2021 13:46

So sorry

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nettie68 · 20/12/2021 13:52

Thank you all for your messages of support, it really does mean something to know that there are people out there who can see the bigger picture and what it means for all those that are vulnerable to covid.

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nettie68 · 20/12/2021 13:53

@Silkieschickens

All the best with your treatment x

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Phatsia · 20/12/2021 13:59

So sorry OP. Its absolutely heartbreaking to think of families in your situation. I really hope he gets the treatment he needs asap and that it all goes well

mildtomoderate · 20/12/2021 14:00

I'm worried about your husbands cancelled chemo. People just lose perspective when it's Xmas time. They don't realise their privilege, even though that's kind of the point of Christmas.

LadyLaSnack · 20/12/2021 14:04

So sorry OP. I agree completely with your sentiment. It’s just a day, and it pales into utter insignificance. Sending hugs.

Ocdsucks8613 · 20/12/2021 14:05

This is what worries me too and people just don't see it. The constant, I'm not going to stick by the rules posts are doing my head in. It's not just about covid itself but the consequences it will cause to all the health services. I'm so sorry you're going through this at the moment OP xx

Garysmum · 20/12/2021 14:11

I care about this. I care that people might miss vital treatment.
If my DC or I test positive I will spend Christmas alone. It’s one day. I am CV and have an appointment tomorrow for medicine that will improve my life but also my health such that my immune system will improve. It’s been cancelled so many times.

Thinking of you and your family

M0rT · 20/12/2021 14:13

I get it, my chemo was pre Covid and tense enough then trying to keep yourself well enough to be treated each time.
People never do get things until they affect them directly and even then some people shrug it back off again when it no longer feels so personal.
I hope all goes well for your husband.

Blinkingbatshit · 20/12/2021 14:16

Oh op, yes - I agree, all these people who are saying they won’t respect new restrictions and are just not thinking about those who it will truly impact. I’m sorry that so many in the Country (& sadly on Mumsnet if you looked at the thread yesterday about who would follow new rules if they came in😔) are such selfish b@stards. 💐💐

IWannaWishYouANutNutsChristmas · 20/12/2021 14:24

I'm on another thread ranting about not knowing if I need most of my flippin' Thursday night supermarket delivery or not, but I promise I do worry about your husband's chemo.

I also worry a lot about all the stuff that's not happening while we keep the NHS too busy with covid to keep up with all its regular work.

My aunt had a heart operation rescheduled over and over again. The last few times when she was actually in the hospital ready, because there were no ICU beds for her post-op recovery.

StarDanced · 20/12/2021 14:24

Wishing you and your DH all the very best. I cannot imagine the worry that you must be going through at an already stressful time. I just wanted to echo the sentiment that there are people who care and worry about this. My family are following all the rules and will not carry on regardless if new restrictions are put in place. We are concerned the pressure on the NHS will impact on those people who need non-covid treatment. I love Christmas and always have, but it is in no way more important than people's health and well-being. Thinking of your family at this time

ChardonnaysPetDragon · 20/12/2021 14:27

Sorry it’s so uncertain for you and your family.

Can’t believe we’re here again.

PastMyBestBeforeDate · 20/12/2021 14:28

I hope it can go ahead as scheduled and his treatment works

WeeFae · 20/12/2021 14:28

I'm currently going through chemo myself, due my next on Thursday (yay, shit Christmas for me!).

I am not as worried about delayed treatment (a few days/weeks won't make a huge difference) but I am worried about catching it as chemo patients are one of the highest risk people.

I wish I could beg people to get vaxxed/boostered and do everything to stop the spread, but everyone is so tired of it now that I know the majority wont. So I need to hide instead and hope nobody brings it to me.

DespairingHomeowner · 20/12/2021 14:31

@nettie68: sorry to hear that, hope it can all go ahead.

It situations like yours, & compassion for doctors/nurses & everyone else who keeps things going that we need to keep in mind x

Skap · 20/12/2021 14:34

This time two years ago I was mid chemo. It was scary without covid. The prospect of the slightest infection causing serious illness. My family were hand sanitising and social distancing before it was a thing.
I have the utmost sympathy.
One of the things that enrages me the most is that classic anti vax question "but did they have underlying conditions". As if that means it's all ok.

Many cancer patients will make a full recovery and live out a long life. But they are hugely vulnerable during chemotherapy treatment which is both life saving and life risking.

I hope all goes well for your DP

Definitelymaybenot · 20/12/2021 14:34

We hear you and we care. My thoughts immediately go to those being treated for critical conditions in all of this. I know it doesn’t help but please know lots of people do give a shit. Good luck X

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