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MIL in hospital

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Choccyoclocky · 01/12/2021 19:33

I have name changed for this because people close to me would recognise this.

I'll start from the beginning..

17th - 19th - We saw MIL each of these days
20th - My daughter tested positive (PM)
21st - 22nd - MIL said she felt a bit off all weekend
23rd AM - Myself and DS tested positive
23rd PM - MIL tested positive
Myself and children started feeling better around days 4-5. All fine now.
MIL was still struggling - wasn't hungry, coughing, tired.
29th PM - I got a phonecall from MIL partner. He said her blood oxygen level was down to 82 and she was in hospital. They only knew because he had one of those finger things from when his mum was ill.

I messaged MIL after getting off the phone with him and she replied a few hours later saying she had oxygen and IV drip, and was feeling better than she did earlier. That is the last time I spoke to her.

MIL partner knows a nurse at the hospital so she has been keeping him updated and he has been passing the messages to me. I have attached the messages. The medication one was yesterday PM and the one saying Morning (with a name covered) was this morning.

I messaged MIL again this morning just checking in so she knows we're thinking of her. But no response. All we know is what I have added below and that she went to hospital because the blood oxygen level was "82 over 90" but we don't know what any of this means.

MIL is 53 and otherwise healthy so her having to go to hospital has really surprised us. She has had both jabs and I think she had booked her booster.

Before it gets questioned.. Contact always goes through me because I always have my phone, DH is pretty rubbish with taking his off silent. I see MIL more than DH does, I absolutely adore her, she is one of my best friends. I usually see her Wed, Thurs afternoon for a couple of hours then for 10 hours on a Friday. It's a running joke that she comes here to see me and the kids, not DH.

DH knows how worried I am and I think he is trying not to show just how worried he is because he is comforting me when I get upset.. but it should be the other way around! He is NC with his Dad so I think this is a tough one because she is all he's got and she is here a lot. He acts like he's annoyed she's still here, but we all know that's not the case and he likes that she is so involved.

I feel awful that she caught this from DD and that she's been in hospital a few days now. I just need to know that she'll be okay. I even painted my downstairs toilet with a paintbrush just to distract myself from worrying.

I don't really know what the point of this thread is. I don't know what blood oxygen level means in terms of covid but I know under 90 isn't good and she was at 82.

I (well we obviously) just want her to reply and say she's absolutely fine and leaving hospital.. but how long will that be before it happens.. I can't begin to even think about what if that doesn't happen Sad our children (9, 8 and 3) are all asking when we can see her and they have no idea she's in hospital. I am so worried that DD will blame herself as she caught it at school and gave it to the rest of us.

If you got to the bottom, thank you for listening to my ramblings. I just want everything back to normal SadSad

MIL in hospital
MIL in hospital
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Choccyoclocky · 04/12/2021 19:41

I have spoken to MIL again today. She is still in icu but feeling okay. She said they have given her an ipad so she can watch Strictly! Smile

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Mindymomo · 04/12/2021 21:10

Thanks for the update. I had a special relationship with my MIL. I think it was because DH was an only child, therefore she never had a daughter of her own.

Prescottdanni123 · 04/12/2021 21:47

You don't know that she caught it from your daughter. This virus is everywhere at the minute. She vould have caught it from the door handle of a shop, or an infected stranger could have sneezed when they walked past her in the street. And even if she did catch it off your DD, it is still no ones fault.

Choccyoclocky · 04/12/2021 22:37

@Mindymomo Probably quite similar here.. MIL has 3 boys so I am a very welcome addition!

I have actually spoken to her quite a bit on WhatsApp tonight, she is typing like her normal self and sent funny gifs which is really good.

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Choccyoclocky · 04/12/2021 22:40

@Prescottdanni123 That is true but looking at the timeline, we are the only people she saw. She didn't go in any shops or see anybody else.

It also makes sense because me, DS and MIL all tested positive on the same day. DH hadn't been around DD as much as we all had so I think he caught it from me.
MIL partner tested positive 2 days after her and she went to his on the Saturday afternoon.

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Prescottdanni123 · 04/12/2021 23:32

Still nobody's fault though.

I hope that your MIL recovers quickly.

Choccyoclocky · 06/12/2021 16:26

MIL is out of icu and back on the normal ward.

She said it is really boring. Icu gave her an ipad but the current ward don't have anything and she only just got her phone back so I'm not too sure whats going on there.

I asked if her partner can bring anything in for her.. hopefully he can drop her ipad in so she has something to do!

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Mindymomo · 06/12/2021 20:02

Good news, she must be feeling better if she’s bored.

Toddlerteaplease · 06/12/2021 20:21

Your friend could get the sack for passing on medical information like that!

TillyTopper · 06/12/2021 20:38

Why can't your DH call the ward as he next of kin? If you have questions you should be able to take them up with someone who is looking after her.

Northernlurker · 06/12/2021 20:52

Those wielding pitchforks re info need to calm down a bit and have some humanity. It sounds very much as though the mil had consented to info being passed to her partner and then he has passed it on. And if that isn't the case then mil can sort it out when she's recovered.

Glad she's getting better op, sounds like a classic presentation and pre vaccination could have been another story but now they have the drugs, they have the treatments and we are winning this war for so many patients.

Choccyoclocky · 07/12/2021 13:20

@TillyTopper We phoned the helpline in the end and got told some news. MIL messaged us the day after we did that so haven't needed to phone again.

@Toddlerteaplease Imagine if you went into hospital and were too unwell to speak to anybody. Including your long term partner, parents and children. If there was somebody there who could ease the worrying for those people, wouldn't you want that?? I know I would.
She has been a neighbour of MIL partner for a long time and was very good to him when he lost both of his parents. She was a nurse at the hospital then and would check on his parents when he was at work. They both died within the last couple of years so he was understandably terrified he'd lose MIL too. The nurse-friend was able to keep him updated.

@Northernlurker I am so thankful for the NHS after this. I was anyway but even more so. It could've been so much worse!

I spoke to MIL on WhatsApp for quite a while last night and again this morning. I just can't wait for her to be back sat on our sofa drinking a coffee out of her designated mug!!

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Choccyoclocky · 13/12/2021 11:52

MIL is being let out today!!! Grin

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MalbecandToast · 13/12/2021 11:59

Oh amazing news! I'm so chuffed for you all!

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