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How many of you will comply?

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LifesTooShortYOLO · 21/10/2021 10:34

I am interested to know if people will comply or not if they bring in Restrictions again about not mixing households, not seeing family or lockdowns etc again.
So many people I've spoken to are pretty much all of the same mindset of 'Fu#k that I'm not not seeing my family again, enough is enough and we have to get on with our lives now'
I also read this a lot on comments of articles where people are saying no they won't do it again and not see their loved ones or be told what to do over Christmas etc.

What are everyone's overall feelings as things stand right now?

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ilovesooty · 22/10/2021 18:26

@Reallyimeanreally2022

Thankfully, I’m not alone In fact the majority
I agree with you - though not with the 'thankfully' bit.
Pixxie7 · 22/10/2021 18:26

Yes I will like many have said I don’t trust this government but we all know the things to do to stop the spread so have a moral duty to comply.

WrapAroundYourDreams · 22/10/2021 18:30

I want to be sure the people I choose to mingle with have had their vaccinations thanks. But common sense will not prevail in this country. It’s a joke

You know what I find a joke? The NHS were so incredibly keen to get the covid vaccine into the arm of my 90 year old grandparent who is incredibly unwell and has no quality of life.

My son was 3 months too old to receive the men B vaccine on the NHS. They'd confirmed that the jab would be available when his older sibling who is 2 years older, was a baby, but 2 years down the line, he still didn't get it. Was he less at risk from meningitis? Both he and his sister weren't, were they. But it was ok for them and all other children in their age group to be put at risk of another (far deadlier) illness. The government made that choice not to prioritise their health and well-being- of children- who should have their whole lives ahead of them. I paid privately, with the help of above mentioned lovely grandparent.

It's so completely ridiculous and my grandparent agrees with me.

PrincessSD · 22/10/2021 18:37

Don’t really have much choice but to comply as my Mum died in January because her appointments with her heart consultant were over the phone rather than having a scan and ECG as she would have had in ‘normal’ times which would have picked up that she needed further surgery.

Clusterfckintolerant · 22/10/2021 18:44

We'll follow restrictions if re-imposed.

Calling it "compliance" is quite provocative in itself. It suggests that the Public don't appreciate the reasons for the restrictions and are too selfish to care about others.

We do and we're not.

Kettletoaster · 22/10/2021 18:52

I will (and do) wear a mask in all shops and at work. I will (and do) still keep my distance from people. I have had 3 doses of vaccine. I lateral flow test every other day. I will not stay away from my family this winter.

TheKeatingFive · 22/10/2021 18:53

I'm definitely not on board with this idea that it's my 'moral duty' to separate myself further from my elderly parents and that I'm 'selfish' for not doing so. That's so far beyond what the state has any right to expect of me.

My parents are in their late 70s with various health issues (not particularly serious) m. They're not exactly low risk. But they're not prepared to spend vast chunks of what might be their final years separated from the people who love them. Life is about much more than simply not dying.

I'm not separating myself from them for others either. If that makes me selfish then fine, think what you like.

PurpleOkapi · 22/10/2021 18:57

@Thisgroupneverceasestoamazeme

Yes, I would comply. I’m still social distancing and wearing a mask too. It seems as though clinically vulnerable people are just being expected to stay at home so the rest of us can carry on as normal and it seems incredibly ageist, ableist and selfish to me. If it was people putting themselves at risk then fine but when it’s risking other people’s lives I find it baffling that people aren’t willing to be in the slightest bit inconvenienced to protect others
I'm not expecting them to do anything. If they prefer to stay at home, they can stay at home. If they want be out and about wearing N95s, they're free to do that. Or if they want to roll the dice on resuming normal activities, I'm not going to tell them they can't. Sometimes life is about quality rather than quantity, and if an adult for whom covid would be a death sentence thinks the experience of going to restaurants, etc. is worth the risk, that's their decision to make.

But I'm not going to impede my own normal activities just so they can have a false sense of safety while going about theirs.

WrapAroundYourDreams · 22/10/2021 18:58

*I'm definitely not on board with this idea that it's my 'moral duty' to separate myself further from my elderly parents and that I'm 'selfish' for not doing so. That's so far beyond what the state has any right to expect of me.
*
I agree with this- it's far more than the state has a right to expect and any other member of the public too.

PurpleOkapi · 22/10/2021 18:59

@Clusterfckintolerant

We'll follow restrictions if re-imposed.

Calling it "compliance" is quite provocative in itself. It suggests that the Public don't appreciate the reasons for the restrictions and are too selfish to care about others.

We do and we're not.

No more so than the CEV people demanding the restrictions are selfish for demanding everyone else's activities be restricted to accommodate them. Everyone's acting out of self interest here. The difference is that one group is trying to control others' actions, and one isn't.
Burgess67A · 22/10/2021 19:01

I will comply. I like WFH!

Fetarabbit · 22/10/2021 19:06

@Reallyimeanreally2022

Thankfully, I’m not alone In fact the majority
The majority don't think the government should have implemented reasonable and effective measures in schools that don't actually affect pupils much- such as creating appropriate airflow rather than ah just crack a window if you can, or siblings of positive cases to isolate which would just be for 10 days if that? It's weird that other countries that have much lower rates have done the above, and without much defiant I'm not doing that. It's ridiculous to not bother with the small measures they help suppress numbers, I don't think anyone on this thread is calling for a full lockdown are they, just some common sense and people not being arseholes. Obviously too much to expect of course. I am also against things closing again or banning mixing, but the best way to prevent that as we go into winter is to do the small steps that make less of a difference to people, surely?
GrasssInPocket · 22/10/2021 19:08

Vaccinate the kids, work from home where possible, masks in public places and on public transport, and vaccination pass/negative test (or "Covid recovery" certificate, which we don't even have yet in this country) to enter pubs, restaurants, theatres, etc..... they're doing all this in mainland Europe and their transmission rates are far lower than ours. Happy to comply with all this, but NOT a ban on household mixing ... we can do our own risk assessments!

MercyBooth · 22/10/2021 19:08

@TheKeatingFive Ive had the vaccine and so has my brother and my niece.
My 85 year old parents dont want it and neither does 71 year old DH. I cant stay away from DH and i cant stay away from my parents indefinately. I cant make them have the vaccine. Its too much to expect families to stay apart from this length of time.

Incidentally how and will the police enforce it anyway. Community relations are already in tatters from previous over zealousness.

Fizbosshoes · 22/10/2021 19:10

Its much easier to be "unselfish" and "do the right thing" when its not likely to have a drastic adverse effect on your own or your families health, or finances.

Most of the people I know who were the most vocal about STAYING AT HOME last year, were those who were likely to be the least impacted, in any immediate way. (They or their DH had secure public sector jobs that could mostly be done at home, or they wfh anyway )

Malteser71 · 22/10/2021 19:10

Not a chance

TheKeatingFive · 22/10/2021 19:13

Incidentally how and will the police enforce it anyway. Community relations are already in tatters from previous over zealousness.

They won't, which means that practically it's dead in the water anyway. But I think it's important to stand against at this narrative that complying with lockdown (at this stage) is the 'moral' thing to do. It isn't. It goes against all of our natural human instincts.

MercyBooth · 22/10/2021 19:15

@TheKeatingFive I quite agree. Its far FAR too much too ask.

DamnUserName21 · 22/10/2021 19:21

Mask wearing, definitely. Seeing immediate family as I support them with care needs.
Not concerned about seeing friends.
Will be working outside of the home (healthcare) as normal.

TheNoonBell · 22/10/2021 19:23

I will not comply.

If the MP's can't even be bothered to vote on the law I don't feel obliged to comply with it.

Sassoon · 22/10/2021 19:24

@smilingthroughgrittedteeth

I will comply with any restrictions, i have a CV child and partner and DM is the manager of a care home for extremely vulnerable people some of whom werent able to be vaccinated so as a family we are being cautious and have done our best to stick with guidelines however i wont be judging those that dont comply. That said id like the same respect and understanding back from those not complying and for them to give the whole 'sheeple' type comments a rest, when they have a child who ends up in hospital on oxygen for a simple cold perhaps they will realise theres a reason some people are being careful.
This. The total lack of respect for others in most of this thread is why Britain is in the grim situation it's in now while most of the rest of world are getting themselves out of this mess. The government are a disgrace tbf but that doesn't mean the rest of us have to lose any humanity we have left too. No wonder we're the laughing stock of the world while also being pitied by them.
XenoBitch · 22/10/2021 19:26

@Fizbosshoes

Its much easier to be "unselfish" and "do the right thing" when its not likely to have a drastic adverse effect on your own or your families health, or finances.

Most of the people I know who were the most vocal about STAYING AT HOME last year, were those who were likely to be the least impacted, in any immediate way. (They or their DH had secure public sector jobs that could mostly be done at home, or they wfh anyway )

Yep, easy to take the moral high ground when you live in a nice house, with a nice garden, family there with you, WFH, baking bread, dressing up for Zoom parties, and watching Netflix.

Funny that all the "stay the fuck at home" vitriol never seemed to come from people living alone.

PurpleOkapi · 22/10/2021 19:31

@Fizbosshoes

Its much easier to be "unselfish" and "do the right thing" when its not likely to have a drastic adverse effect on your own or your families health, or finances.

Most of the people I know who were the most vocal about STAYING AT HOME last year, were those who were likely to be the least impacted, in any immediate way. (They or their DH had secure public sector jobs that could mostly be done at home, or they wfh anyway )

Most of the people I know who are the most vocal about how everyone should STAYING AT HOME on social media, to the point of calling those who disagree mass murderers, are doing far more covid-risking things than the norm. I know this because I'm out and about enough to see them doing those things. Someone who never left the house unnecessarily would have no idea. I think this is really skewing some people's perceptions of what's common and normal.
DaisyStiener · 22/10/2021 19:32

Non compliance in my city had us in stricter lockdown longer than anywhere else in the U.K. Sad
My family complied as best we could, for so very long.
Still required to wear a mask , which I do ,
Put my reservations to the side about a vaccine ,
Got my vaccines even though I was breastfeeding and freaking out ,
Didn’t bother my GP if could be avoided ,
Had my baby in second lockdown, alone for 23 hours if the day…

Why are people still sick and dying ? I truly have tried to as advised/told - but it seems completely pointless now? What more can they ask of us?

I was happily to “save” the nhs and not risk the staff ?
I was happy to protect the vulnerable and elderly?
It doesn’t seemed to have made a difference?

Why SAY that the vaccines will stop 90 % of transmitted when it clearly isn’t? I mean , none of us are going about LICKING each other? How else is it getting about?

*also England WHY do you keep voting these arseholes IN? You’ve SEEN with your own eyes what they’ve done/ how they’ve schemed/backpeddled/broke their own rules etc ?
The worst thing is you sacked Hancock cos he SNOGGED some bird? Never mind the rest of his shenanigans???!
Cheers , Rest of U.K.

beentoldcomputersaysno · 22/10/2021 19:32

@Fetarabbit "The majority don't think the government should have implemented reasonable and effective measures in schools that don't actually affect pupils much- such as creating appropriate airflow rather than ah just crack a window if you can, or siblings of positive cases to isolate which would just be for 10 days if that? It's weird that other countries that have much lower rates have done the above, and without much defiant I'm not doing that. It's ridiculous to not bother with the small measures they help suppress numbers"
Many parents, amongst others have been desperate for some measures. It is a sinister policy to infect loads of kids and tell teachers to suck it up. Do not count me in on that 'majority', wherever that 'poll' came from. Abhorrent. As for not wanting to take small measures to protect the vulnerable, how many more kids will now be counted as vulnerable due to this despicable policy?