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DD fed up of covid isolation

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toastedmarshmallow · 28/08/2021 10:11

2 of my DC have tested positive, we are just waiting on PCR results for rest of family (our lateral flow tests have been negative)

We have a 3 storey house and both positive DC are isolating on the top floor at the moment whilst we wait to find out if any of the rest if the family us have it.

Older DC coping fine so far but DD11 fed up and really sad. She keeps texting asking for hugs and woke up in the night very upset. I really don't want to catch it , I work in a school and I would hate to bring it there but she is so upset and lonely. I have given her short hugs and spending lots of time chatting at a distance. Any good ideas about how I can help her?

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Seriously79 · 28/08/2021 10:16

Surely if you live together, your probably gonna get it anyway.

Hug her if she's sad.

meow1989 · 28/08/2021 10:22

I understand your concern completely but I'm not sure I could not hug my child if they were sad and asking for one. I'm not sure there's really a replacement for a good hug from your mum when you're feeling poorly. Can you isolate too?

titchy · 28/08/2021 10:23

Are you not vaccinated then? That would significantly reduce the risk of you catching it.

But honestly - the idea of isolating children was NEVER keep them in a separate room away from their family. They should isolate within the household with the whole family. Anything else is utterly cruel for a young child.

SnarkyBag · 28/08/2021 10:25

If you’ve given her short hugs then you may as well give her proper ones. I think it’s pretty unfair to isolate an 11 year old away from everyone.

LittleRedPill · 28/08/2021 10:27

I agree. I’m double vaccinated but even if I wasn’t, I couldn’t ever not hug my distressed child. Not ever. You live in the same house. It’s likely you’ll get it anyway. I don’t understand your stance tbh.

AccidentallyOnPurpose · 28/08/2021 10:32

Why are you doing this? She's 11!

She's ill(even if not very poorly with it) and sad and lonely, of course you should be with her ! If you get it,you get it. When does school start where you are?

RhymesWithOrange · 28/08/2021 10:32

Don't isolate them in their own room by themselves, that's horrible

Knittingupastorm · 28/08/2021 10:32

I wouldn’t be isolating her from the rest of the family.

BigRedBoat · 28/08/2021 10:35

Hug your poorly child, 11 is still young she's feeling rubbish and wants her mum.

CinderFuckingRe11a · 28/08/2021 10:35

Wow

NerrSnerr · 28/08/2021 10:36

Give her a hug!

PeonyTime · 28/08/2021 10:41

I think this is where the no household isolation required falls down. My 12 yr old got covid at a time where we were all stuck inside. We opened the windows, but for the first time in a few years I got into bed with him some nights. It would have been a tough decision if I had to go into work the next day, but ultimately, unless you work for a company who decide employees with covid in the household should stay at home, the decision you need to make is the immediate benifit to your child vs a possible risk to an unknown. I think my child would come first, along with a daily LFT. This is why CEV and families of CEV people are so concerned currently.

Go hug your child, OP. They are ill and need you.

coffeeisthebest · 28/08/2021 10:41

She is your child and you work in a school? Please hug your child. She needs you.

OfNick · 28/08/2021 10:48

Hug your child! I know not all cases are the same but as a positive example... DD, 8, tested positive with symptoms. I'm unvaccinated and my two teenagers are also in the household. DD slept in my bed every night, ate dinner with the rest of the family, I didn't overly clean and guess what? None of us caught it! Of course this won't apply to every case but she's only a child and she needs her mum.

Sirzy · 28/08/2021 10:50

I would much rather isolate with my child then leave them isolated alone

Choconuttolata · 28/08/2021 10:53

Your poor daughter is probably not feeling great and just wants her Mum. I would ventilate the room, both wear a mask and maybe spend some time with her, you could read to her, play a board game, watch TV all at a distance.

My family all had Covid pre vaccines and my then 11 year old was fine, as were the younger children, but she had headaches, abdominal pain and nausea so just needed some TLC. We didn't isolate the children.

I know that the rules for double jabbed isolating with a positive case in the household are different now, but if you test positive you won't be going into work anyway. If you test negative then taking it into work isn't an issue.

Imnothereforthedrama · 28/08/2021 11:07

Dear god do people do this isolate a child in their own room why ? I get you don’t want to get it nobody does but I think it’s highly likely you will get it at some point . If your double jabbed and not a high risk hug your bloody child and stop isolating her in room alone ffs.

GoldenOmber · 28/08/2021 11:13

Oh please hug her and stop isolating her in her room. 11 is so young and she sounds so sad.

Jumpingintosummer · 28/08/2021 11:16

You are working in a school but you have a sick child at home. Stay off and take care of her.

Abraxan · 28/08/2021 11:18

I'm an adult and even I didn't have to spend the ten days on my own in a room. My isolation in hospital was bad enough. I couldn't have stayed isolated at home too.

Dh and teen Dd didn't isolate from me. Dh slept in the same bed - his choice. Dh and Dd encouraged me, when well enough, to eat with them, watch tv with them, etc.

Neither caught covid from me. That wasn't delta but it was ore vaccines.

My Dd is 19y and if she caught covid now there is no way I'd be isolating her on her own if she felt sad, poorly and needed us.

I'd she'd been 11y there is no chance I'd be trying to isolate from her, despite being cv.

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MillieMumsnet · 28/08/2021 13:27

Hi everyone, we have a section for all of our coronavirus threads so we are going to move this over shortly.

Rainallnight · 28/08/2021 13:29

I really don’t think this is what isolation means! A child isn’t meant to be kept away from the rest of their family. Of course no one wants Covid, and you’ve had bad luck, but you can’t leave a child on their own with this.

Lockdownbear · 28/08/2021 13:33

@titchy

Are you not vaccinated then? That would significantly reduce the risk of you catching it.

The instructions from track & trace are they isolate away, food dropped at their door, separate toilet if possible.

For nursery aged kids they recommended a parent isolated with them. Which in turn meant the isolating parent stayed away from any other children.

Utterly cruel and people will look back in horror at the official advice given.

Callcat · 28/08/2021 13:34

Of course you don't want it, but you don't get to abdicate your caring responsibilities towards your own sick young child in order to avoid it ffs! My youngest caught it, he sleeps in my bed and we watched films with him sitting on my lap. I did catch it, obviously shit but there wasn't an alternative, nor would I have locked him away. My eldest two got it recently. Same. DD was sad and a bit unwell. So we cuddled up and watched films and ate nice snacks. Wouldn't have even occurred to me to stick her on another floor of the house (even if I had a spare one 😂). I couldn't imagine saying no to a hug when they most need it!

HesterShaw1 · 28/08/2021 13:35

Any good ideas about how I can help her?

Give her a massive great cuddle. She's your child.

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