DD fed up of covid isolation

[toastedmarshmallow]

2 of my DC have tested positive, we are just waiting on PCR results for rest of family (our lateral flow tests have been negative)

We have a 3 storey house and both positive DC are isolating on the top floor at the moment whilst we wait to find out if any of the rest if the family us have it.

Older DC coping fine so far but DD11 fed up and really sad. She keeps texting asking for hugs and woke up in the night very upset. I really don't want to catch it , I work in a school and I would hate to bring it there but she is so upset and lonely. I have given her short hugs and spending lots of time chatting at a distance. Any good ideas about how I can help her?

And again I'd assume they wouldn't be working due to their health conditions- so it wouldn't impact upon their work by isolating.

That is a really common misconception. CEV teachers, for example, have been in work in front of classes from the start of March. There was a line in the guidance about slightly less high contact work if possible - but that doesn’t exist in schools, so all CEV teaching staff have been working as normal....

I do hope, by the way, that nobody reading this thread, when your child’s teacher comes from a Covid-infected household and gives Covid to your child and family members, says anything other than ‘That’s not a problem - she needed to look after her poorly children in close contact and so we don’t blame her at all for giving us all Covid’, rather than ‘She should have taken better care, now we all have Covid’.

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I do hope, by the way, that nobody reading this thread, when your child’s teacher comes from a Covid-infected household and gives Covid to your child and family members, says anything other than ‘That’s not a problem - she needed to look after her poorly children in close contact and so we don’t blame her at all for giving us all Covid’, rather than ‘She should have taken better care, now we all have Covid’.

By sending my kids to school where they are mixing with up to 30 different household on a daily basis, that's a risk we are already taking.

I would hope every single teacher hugs and cares for their children when they’re in distress. For God’s sake making this about teachers!!

Yes I would entirely expect that parents would hug there child
DD slept with me when she had it breathing at night was difficult and it distressed her so I was there

@cantkeepawayforever

I do hope, by the way, that nobody reading this thread, when your child’s teacher comes from a Covid-infected household and gives Covid to your child and family members, says anything other than ‘That’s not a problem - she needed to look after her poorly children in close contact and so we don’t blame her at all for giving us all Covid’, rather than ‘She should have taken better care, now we all have Covid’.

I absolutely wouldn't say that. I would never expect someone to isolate from their young child. Odds are we are all going to catch Covid at some point, I'm not going to attempt to hide from an airborne virus (already had it recently and not afraid of getting it again).

@cantkeepawayforever

I do hope, by the way, that nobody reading this thread, when your child’s teacher comes from a Covid-infected household and gives Covid to your child and family members, says anything other than ‘That’s not a problem - she needed to look after her poorly children in close contact and so we don’t blame her at all for giving us all Covid’, rather than ‘She should have taken better care, now we all have Covid’.

I think most people have accepted the fact that they are going to catch Covid at some point, if they haven't already.

I have it at the moment. My young employee likely brought it back from Boardmasters. At first I was pissed off, but not with her. Just you know...pissed off. And now I have got over myself.

That's all good! '

There was a lot of 'Well the teachers at MY school are doing it right because WE haven't had any Covid - yours must be doing it WRONG' over the course of last year, but it is great to hear that everyone is over that stage.

Last year my kids- class was like a covid soup. The teacher and both teaching assistants got it. Not sure how many kids got it and not sure if my kid got it as well- the alternative was keeping her at home which wasn't an option.

@cantkeepawayforever

I do hope, by the way, that nobody reading this thread, when your child’s teacher comes from a Covid-infected household and gives Covid to your child and family members, says anything other than ‘That’s not a problem - she needed to look after her poorly children in close contact and so we don’t blame her at all for giving us all Covid’, rather than ‘She should have taken better care, now we all have Covid’.

I would never blame a staff member for bringing covid into my DD’s nursery, (unless they themselves had tested positive and came to work regardless) so yes that would be exactly my response.

@marcee not so. I'm a CEV teacher and a mum. I have to go to school this week and teach 5 different groups of 30 unvaccinated children a day with no masks, social distancing or household contact isolation.
My own child will be at another school as well.
Whichever of us brings it home first, I am still very vulnerable even with the vaccines and will almost certainly have to be in hospital when I catch it, just hoping I don't die. It really is when not if for teachers now.

And again I'd assume they wouldn't be working due to their health conditions- so it wouldn't impact upon their work by isolating.

I'm CV, but borderline CEV - asked to shield, then didn't have to, the did, then no one really seemed sure (?/)

Outside of lock downs I was working in schools with no additional protection. No SDing, no masks, etc. I could open a window a bit. Only reason I was home in lockdowns was due to my specific role meaning it made sense for me to be home working than in class.

I caught covid and was in hospital with it, and off work for several weeks. Only just coming out the other side, 10 months later. This past month my breathing has improved a lot. Will still be on other medication for life though.

Vulnerable people have been working throughout in many work places, including those that involve a lot of close contact.

Don't assume vulnerable people can't work.

Likewise, almost all vulnerable children are in school too.

OMG - hug your children if they need it!!

Good to see the tide turning. This thread has haunted me since it was started.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4134552-Would-you-make-your-primary-age-child-isolate-from-the-rest-of-the-house

I can't cope with these threads.

Adults locking children away from human contact for 10 days is cruel and unnecessary.

Hug your child FFS

Both mine tested positive on Friday. I'm negative on PCR and the two lateral flows I've taken since.
I effectively gave to isolate with them as they can't go anywhere.
We are carrying on as normal (in the house) with hugs, kisses, snuggling on sofa. They are 11 and 7. I'm resigned to getting it. It's more damaging surely to have them isolating in their rooms with a tray of food delivered to the door! I can't imagine doing that.
Hug your kids. If mine were upset in the night and wanted to sleep in my bed, I wouldn't be thrilled but I'd do it. She's only 11 and she's poorly l!

Wow just wow! Isolating an ill child when the risk to adults with no underlying conditions who are vaccinated is so minimal! How could you deny an ill child a cuddle as a parent, she just wants her mum! This constant media and government scaremongering has really done some serious damage to a lot of people. The idea was never to lock ill children away like prisoners.

Both my dd age 6 and 11 have just finished isolating one was ill one not. I cuddled kissed both kids. I'm double vaccinated and didn't catch it.

Are you unvaccinated and extremely clinically vulnerable?

If not, then stop being so mean and give your poor child a hug

OP, I’m sorry for some of the responses on here. Of course no one knows your personal situation so shouldn’t be judging. Only on mumsnet would you be accused of neglect whilst keeping your child safe at home, protecting the entire family and following nhs guidance.

Christ alive. I can't believe people are leaving their ill children in rooms alone for 10 days. That's barbaric and I couldn't give 2 fucks what the official guidance is.

I've two positive here. Life is exactly as normal. Maybe no lip kisses but everything else the same. They're your kids. I don't think it's good to treat an 11 year old like she's a danger to you all.

Obviously no one actually thinks any of these children meant to be locked away in attics for weeks are actually ill, because if they were, it sure seems like it'd be messed up to limit visual and auditory contact so that you could tell when a bad cough turned into a wheeze, or when a child had started to sweat or seem feverish or pale.

I've begun to suspect some of the parents doing this are rather TOO into the idea, and enjoying a bit of a break.

Honestly, if you were my DCs teacher, I would think less of you for doing this to your own child. I know you don’t want to take Covid in to your school, none of us want to be the one to spread it round the class, but if that happens, it is not your fault. You haven’t made the rules, the government have decided the best thing is to get rid of household isolation for a positive case, so if it ends up in your class, it’s their fault, not yours. Please Give you child a hug, I can guarantee that if a child in your class has a sibling with covid, they will not be isolating as strictly as you are, so the chances are they will bring it in to the class anyway.

I'm glad to read you care for both your DC and those in the school you work in. I wish everyone else thought the same and hope you have your test results today or tomorrow.