Met up with a friend who had cough and cold

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I met up with a friend at the weekend who showed up with a stuffy nose and cough (without pre-warning me she was unwell) . Without testing for covid she told me because she had been double-jabbed it couldn't be covid , and because I had been double-jabbed she said I couldn't catch covid (none of our children have been vaccinated though). I know vaccines have reduced hospital admissions, but I was surprised she believed it meant you couldn't catch covid at all after it. She didn't believe me when I told her she could still catch it/have it and pass it on. Needless to say, I cut the outing short.
I know its something we have to get used to living with, but do other people feel uncomfortable mixing with people displaying cold or covid - like symptoms? Has anyone else encountered people who have gone back to the 'it's just a cold so I don't care if you catch it' mentality now restrictions have lifted?

I would be very p*** off if someone I had arranged to meet up with turned up with cold symptoms without letting me know in advance and checking whether I was OK with that (which I wouldn't be).

I think now it is important to tell people you are ill, as it can start a wave of having to test.

People were always selfish cunts about colds, hopefully a few will have learnt to be more cautious.

Everytimr we are due to see people or have people round we test, just to be safe, we also inform people if we have colds and if the kids have colds as id never forgive my self for making someone poorly 🤦‍♀️ its worked so far we was due people round the day I tested positive I only had a sore throat of I hadn't of tested they would of come over and I could of infected them xx

It's difficult because once things are back to normal and you're back to socialising, office work and the daily commute; i'd be getting a PCR test every other week for every sniffle.

At the moment though if you feel unwell you shouldn't be socialising, at least not without a negative PCR.

I've had a cold last week or so tested with two lft's and negative and then did a pcr as zoe app asked me to and negative. Anyone i have met up with i have warned i have a cold and i have not been into the office. Definitely shouldn't presume it is just a cold especially if not tested.

How daft to meet up

I tend to test when I have obvious symptoms as I’m always certain it’s a breakthrough infection but it hadn’t been yet

It's good to know a lot of you are pre-warning people and testing if you have symptoms.
I'm hoping my friends attitude doesn't become the new norm though. It's stressful worrying if I'm going to get symptoms now. I would feel guilty if I gave anyone any bug. It's making me question how good a friend she is if she isn't worried about making me unwell. I have underlying health problems too, so it feels quite thoughtless. Especially with her reaction being so dismissive about us being double jabbed. Even if she does just have a cold, I don't want that either!

Do any of you have any advice what I should do going forward? I'm worried she will do it again to me and because she thinks the jab is fully protecting her she's likely to not be very careful either. She made it obvious to me she didn't see the problem with having a bug around me. It's made me feel quite worried about arranging to meet up with her again because she doesn't seem to value my opinion about covid.

You don’t have to meet her or if you want to preserve the friendship meet outdoors and keep a 2m distance. Whilst not risk free, it’s better than indoors.

Doesn't surprise me she believed it, seen loads of treads on her where people think the virus makes them immune.
However, your friend could have just had a common cold. Everyone seems to automatically think any symptom is covid nowadays

Everyone seems to automatically think any symptom is covid nowadays

Except it is a symptom and OPs Friend didn’t think it was covid and unlikely tested herself prior to meeting.

I think that in the current situation people should inform others if they are unwell or in someone in their household has Covid before meeting up.

If I’m seeing someone I wouldn’t normally don’t local family or work colleagues/friends then I do a LFT and would definitely do a PCR if I had a cough.

I’m doubled jabbed, have had covid before being vaccinated and going about my life more or less as normal now but that’s all the more reason to behave responsibly for everyone else.

She should have a PCR!

I've got a terrible cold and cough at the moment (but is is just a cold - I've had a PCR test).
It's really awkward going anywhere just now! Fortunately I'm off work this week but it would be an issue if I wasn't.

@Woolver23

I've got a terrible cold and cough at the moment (but is is just a cold - I've had a PCR test). It's really awkward going anywhere just now! Fortunately I'm off work this week but it would be an issue if I wasn't.

In a month or so everyone will have a cold once autumn kicks in and the kids are back (Covid or not).

Thanks everyone for your comments.
It's reassuring to know most of you feel I was right to feel annoyed that she turned up unwell.
I know people do get common colds too, I don't want that either! I'm not sure I will ever view someone coughing and sneezing the same way as I did pre-covid ever again.

Thing is, even prior to Covid - if I had plans with a friend and then came down with a cold, I would text that friend and warn them and ask them if they would prefer to cancel (or I would cancel if I felt really ill with it)

I’ve done this when someone in my house has had a vomiting bug as well - it’s just courtesy and even more important now!

@VanGoSunflowers - yes, same here. I have always pre-warned people about bugs we have had even long before covid and also cancelled. I always found pre-covid that others often didn't have that same courtesy though.
I really hoped after covid people would become more mindful of others if they had a bug. I was so shocked my friend thought it was OK to turn up with her bug when numbers are rising so rapidly, I was also really surprised that she believed she couldn't catch covid after the vaccine. I'm glad people on here seem more sensible than that. I just wish I had people irl who had such a sensible approach to it all.