Please someone help me stay calm :(

[Dandy008]

I’m an anxious person and massive worrier.

My son started with a cough and cold last week.
He was tested and it was negative.

On Wednesday my husband and I have both started with awful colds.

I have a blocked nose, dry hot throat and I genuinely feel rubbish. I don’t ever remember feeling this bad with a general cold before but I’m not sure if anxiety is making me feel worse.

I have taken my temp this morning and it’s 36.8 - is that high for this time on a morning?

I went for a PCR yesterday. I’ve done lateral flows (have to do them for work) and they are negative.

I feel convinced my PcR will be positive.

We went to a busy restaurant and then supermarket on Saturday afternoon. I had my mask on but many didn’t :(

Imagine the PCR is positive, how will that change how you physically feel at the moment ? It won't will it ? You won't suddenly become sicker once you know.

@Iusedtobesoooomuchfun

Yes, BMI 35 😣

Was 29 before I had my son so a combination of pregnancy, lockdown boredom, maternity loneliness. All excuses, I know.

[quote Dandy008]**@RoseRedRoseBlue* @Iusedtobesoooomuchfun*

It’s not really Covid that scares me, it’s the thought of having to go into hospital, being ventilated, or worse Covid killing me.

I hate the thought of leaving my son.

I know there’s lots of other illnesses around but perhaps the fact that Covid has been In the news and it’s all we ever heard about for the last 18 months, just makes me worry even more.[/quote]
So it's covid that scares you.

But your anxiety is getting the better of you OP, this isn't really a proportional reaction especially considering you're double vaxxed

What are you doing and taking to alleviate your symptoms ?

it’s the thought of having to go into hospital, being ventilated, or worse Covid killing me.

None of those things were very likely to begin with. Now you’re double jabbed, the likelihood is vanishingly small.

You’re probably putting yourself at more risk of those outcomes by getting in a car.

I think you should go see your GP and talk about your anxiety. You’ll be in absolute tatters if you get in this state over cold symptoms for years to come.

it’s the thought of having to go into hospital, being ventilated, or worse Covid killing me.

I hate the thought of leaving my son.

This sounds like fairly common post-natal anxiety. We've never been needed in the same way until we become a mother and it can be a real shock to realise how important we suddenly are to that sweet baby. I think most people have fleeting worries about needing to be away from the baby, but if they're making you seriously distressed like right now it's good to speak with your health visitor or GP, whichever one you personally prefer. They'll be able to talk through your feelings and see how best to help.

@MRex

Yeah perhaps I should speak to them. I don’t think I’ve ever worried like this before having him.

I guess prior to being a mum I didn’t really worry about leaving anyone behind. Obviously friends / family but that’s not really the same.

[quote Dandy008]@Iusedtobesoooomuchfun

Yes, BMI 35 😣

Was 29 before I had my son so a combination of pregnancy, lockdown boredom, maternity loneliness. All excuses, I know.[/quote]
Well sometimes a bit of tough love is what we need.

Lose weight. You've had 18 months knowing that being obese is awful for covid. A vaccination shouldn't be enough to make you think that being obese is healthy.

Get therapy, research healthy lifestyles. Start eating slightly less, exercise more. Ask friends and family for help. Ask the doctor to help. Ask online for help. Read, read, read.

Loads of people are the same @Dandy008, unfortunately. They will be quite used to having these kinds of conversations though, so I hope you get some help soon. Take care x

@Iusedtobesoooomuchfun - don't be a bitch when someone's already struggling, it won't make you feel better and it certainly won't help OP.

@Iusedtobesoooomuchfun

There's no such thing as morning temperature and evening temperature.

Even if it is covid... You're fine. I'm sure your son is fine too. And your DH. You're all fine.

You're not going to suddenly die if the result is positive anyway. You will feel the exact same as you do now.

You're fine.

Without knowing anything about OP or her family, underlying conditions, BMI and ages, you're telling them they'll be fine?

You are very cavalier about a virus that can actually kill fit, young, healthy people, let alone people with additional risk factors.

I'm not being a bitch. Obviously no one has ever told her the truth about covid and being obese. And she's obviously not done anything about it herself.

Sometimes a right kick up the arse is what we need. Someone to tell it straight.

If your anxiety is high because of something you can change. Then change it. It won't be easy or fun. But it's what needs to be done.

Or you can cross your fingers and hope that your obesity never kills you.

@onelittlefrog

Then she should have said in her Op that she's obses and that's what she's worried about.

So… you have a cold.
You’re doing the right thing by checking for covid but there’s no reason to assume pcr will be positive. Much more statistically likely to be negative. Meanwhile just rest off so your body can fight off the virus which may be a cold or possibly a covid one but either way you’re extremely unlikely to be severely affected

@MRex

Iusedtobe isn’t being a bitch, she is telling it how it is. There is no point in sugar coating it.

You are being truly ridiculous and you’ll make your sons anxiety worse as well.

If you don't have covid. Once you feel well again. Lose weight. Maybe this is the scare you needed.

@Iusedtobesoooomuchfun - don't be a bitch when someone's already struggling, it won't make you feel better and it certainly won't help OP.

I don’t really understand the mindset if you’re honest then you’re a bitch. The poster is right, albeit blunt, and quite frankly calling someone a bitch like that is the deeply unpleasant behaviour. Not what the poster wrote.

If you did the test yesterday you should have the results today - what difference, to how you are right now, will a positive test make?

While some posters haven't put it delicately. They are right.

I totally understand the Covid fear when you have little ones. In the first lockdown I was petrified.

I was also overweight which really added to the stress.

But honestly taking that fear and using it to finally shift the extra pounds has been such a positive step. I feel so much better in so many different ways and the effect on my mental health has been profound. So don't underestimate what taking action with your weight will do for your anxiety.

You deserve to be healthy and happy. X

People need to be far more realistic about all this and accept that Covid isn’t going anywhere. The panic over every sniff and cough is just off the scale. This isn’t meant to sound harsh, but living in fear of a virus that is barely problematic in the vast majority of people is madness. It’s nonsensical and unhealthy and by far the bigger danger.

I feel like I've got hyper aware of this and I didnt have health anxiety at all before. I fear unwittingly potentially passing covid on to someone vulnerable, (dont kill granny) and the idea of having to isolate and not being able to work/earn money for 10 days, more than actually being ill from it.

@onelittlefrog - I know two healthy and fit people who have died since March 2020. One died from a kidney infection which led to sepsis, the other died from clots caused by the AZ vaccine.

Other young people I know who have died, died from (among others):
The cold sore virus (herpes simplex)
Being crushed against a car by a trailer that rolled backwards
complications from an epidural during childbirth
cancer
suicide

People seem to have forgotten that young healthy people die all the time from a huge range of things and that covid is just one more thing in a very very long list of 'risks.' The crazy over-focus on it is what's driving people nuts.

If a person who is 90+ with multiple conditions gets covid, they have an 85% chance of being fine. Bear in mind that a person in that category can be killed by a cold or a fall.

If you're under 50, even with risk factors you have a greater than 99% chance of being fine.

The total lack of perspective on this whole thing has been mind boggling.

The presumably double jabbed comments get on my nerves as not all of us are. I’m 34, have a heart condition and am not double jabbed yet, not through choice but because I couldn’t get appointments! Got my second in 2 weeks.

Even if it is covid, as the government themselves say, for most, it's a mild illness...this was true even before we had the vaccine. Seriously, stop worrying.

There are definitely just normal colds going round. Dd has just had one. 2 PCRs and 4 LFTs (most needed for other reasons) say it's just a cold.

After over a year of covid and lockdowns I think most of us have forgotten how horrid a simple cold can make you feel. I had a cold after returning to work (school) and, as most cold bugs had been abated due to lockdown, I'd totally forgotten how rubbish it is to have a cold.

@User5827372728

The presumably double jabbed comments get on my nerves as not all of us are. I’m 34, have a heart condition and am not double jabbed yet, not through choice but because I couldn’t get appointments! Got my second in 2 weeks.

In that case, I apologise @User5827372728. I don't know anyone who isn't double jabbed now unless they have chosen not to be, other than my 16 yo dd! Even her 18yo colleagues have all had both shots. Maybe we're just further ahead with the vaccinations in this area than I realised.