DS won't isolate

[dorothysredshoe]

Youngest DS has covid so the rest of the house obviously has to isolate. Older DS is 20 and refusing - just going about life as normal and clearly doesn't give a shit. WWYD? He claims he never sees younger DS (largely true as they don't get on, but we have a small house and everyone shares the bathroom)

There's not much you can do tbh.

He is an adult, there’s nothing you can do, but tell him why he should isolate.

If he doesn't want to isolate with the whole family he can stay elsewhere for the time you're isolating.

Id be making him, regardless of age it’s a legal requirement and he needs to comply.

He may be an adult but he lives under your roof so your house your rules!

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss

Id be making him, regardless of age it’s a legal requirement and he needs to comply.

Oh right, here you go OP, problem solved. How do you make a 20 year old man do something they don't want to do?

You can't force him to. Unfortunately there are a proportion of adults who will do this (and it's probably increasing at the moment)

If he won't then you can either just accept it or boot him out for the isolation period.

I don't blame him tbh

Order a pack of LFT’s, ask him to please test himself regularly, and let him get on with it.

You can't force him but at 20 if he doesn't want to follow your rules he should be moving out.

Moving out to where?

Report him.

@User135644

Report him.

Hahahaha

sign him up to a trial whereby he can test every day instead.
This is assuming he went to Eton and is a member of the government; if he isn't I wouldn't care less . In fact I would be a little disappointed if my grown up son was still following the nonsense and isolating when the whole thing is a farce

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss

Id be making him, regardless of age it’s a legal requirement and he needs to comply.

How exactly? Do divulge?

How old is youngest?

If he's old enough to keep his distance from him, they don't share a space and wipe down surfaces as he uses them then I really don't think it's a big deal.

You can't just kick him out on the street or phone the police because he won't stay inside as is being suggested FFS.

You can't just kick him out on the street or phone the police because he won't stay inside as is being suggested FFS.

He needs some tough love as he clearly doesn't give a shit about anybody else but himself.

He could be going around infecting people and doesn't have a care in the world. Where are his morals?

If he has so little respect that this is the right thing to do for the family and everyone else then let him get on with it but I would absolutely be telling him he isn’t coming back through the door for ten days.

Actions have consequences and if he doesn’t give a shit it’s time he didn’t give a shit elsewhere.

Obviously I've told him why he needs to isolate 🙄 I've also suggested he moves elsewhere but all his friends live with their family so obviously don't want him there. We've even got vulnerable people in our own bloody family! I'm fuming with him.

Makes you despair if people like this young chap are the future of our country. Where did it all go wrong?

I know people who have got covid and are taking trips to the supermarket. Couldnt give a fiddlers.

We don't have a hope do we?

I agree with PP regarding the isolating rules being so draconian - if we were allowed to go for walks/bike rides as long as we didn't touch anything/go near anyone people would be more likely to comply.

I'm so disappointed in him being such a dickhead.

I know. People say just tell him. But he is 20. The things I have always said to my son is. No matter your age …. If u live in my house you follow the rules of the house if u don’t like the rules he can leave.
Outside the house the follow the rules that are set out like everyone else.

I know how hard this is. Xxxx

@User135644 I'm all for tough love but what exactly do you expect OP to do?

You can report but no one does anything and if you kick him out he's mingling amongst other people in hotels, families of friends and/or the homeless community who are already massively disadvantaged in the pandemic (and beforehand).