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I think this is it for us…

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Namechanged4thi5 · 10/07/2021 17:54

My daughter has a sniffle- she went to a children’s party only 7 kids no parents but has come back with a sniffle

Husband double jabbed but when he went to pick up he was invited into the house where he said there were other parents standing in the kitchen. He was in for about 8-9 mins but feels uncomfortable

I’m yet to be vaccinated so now I feel my times up with Covid- my husband is pretty convinced I’ll die but I starting to wobble a bit now….I don’t have anyone to talk to in to hence the reason I have to rely on mumsnet to have a rant

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PearlNextDoor · 10/07/2021 18:44

I'm sorry if I sounded unkind to you there. It is awful to know that somebody with very little to worry about has worked them self in to such a state of anxiety, and that her husband has encouraged this anxiety.

I'm worried for you.

FAQs · 10/07/2021 18:44

Oh lord

FlorenceWintle · 10/07/2021 18:44

Your biggest problem here is not COVID or blood clots, it’s your husband messing with your head.

NotSonicTheHedgehog · 10/07/2021 18:45

If this is genuine (which I doubt but hey ho) it’s more than possible Covid you need health for. Speak to your GP immediately about anxiety as this reaction is not normal

Tambourinetunes · 10/07/2021 18:46

This is very disturbing. The problem here is your husband, his responses are cruel and manipulative, you and your daughter are at more risk from exposure to him than Covid.

PuppyMonkey · 10/07/2021 18:47

Is there any logical reason why your DH is so convinced you’ll end up on a ventilator? I mean have you had serious illnesses before etc?Confused

Anotheruser02 · 10/07/2021 18:48

Your husband is the problem here. Who is he to predict your fucking death? Take a good vit D, stop listening to him and consider whether there is a reason he wants you worried more than the average person about Covid.
Does he want you staying in shielding? Is he isolating you? It's weird and unfair, this is his shit not yours.

Also the thing about if you don't make it after having the vaccine, that's not realistic. Call your vaccination centre, tell them you are worried and about family history of severe allergies, ask if they have an epipen on site, lots of my friends were held back after their jabs in case of a reaction, they are looking out for people reacting.

Rightdecison · 10/07/2021 18:48

Op what makes you think your going to die?

My son had covid twice. To be honest the 1st was not confirmed. But the symptoms where text book. The 2nd time he had it, it was confirmed. No one else in the house caught it . We have all Been fine. And lots of other people have been as well . As someone else said symptoms would not show within a couple of hours. You are definitely over thinking.

warmfluffytowels · 10/07/2021 18:49

Your husband is abusive.

You do realise that, don't you?

titchy · 10/07/2021 18:49

he has always told me that I will die or end up in a ventilator if I get it and I’ve begun to believe it.

This really stands out OP. Do you know what gaslighting is, and why some men do it?

SpringRainbow · 10/07/2021 18:50

I really hope this is a wind up because I hate to think of anyone being with someone so unhinged and/ or controlling.

There is absolutely no reason to believe any of you have been exposed to Covid.

There is even less reason to believe you will end up in hospital, let alone on a ventilator and/ or die.

Imnothereforthedrama · 10/07/2021 18:50

Sorry op but a complete overreaction , if your worried why the hell would you not get the vaccine? You reason makes no sense . Go to a drop in clinic pronto and get your jab . You are not going to die but your risk is higher because you’ve not had the vaccine.

Duggeehugs82 · 10/07/2021 18:51

@Namechanged4thi5

Thank you for taking the time to respond / I’ll try and answer all the questions as best as I can-

Daughters is in year 2 - so far no known cases in her class and only had 1 in a different year group last month

My daughter has had sniffles since going back to school but she is also always the first person to catch the bugs going around. She is always the one to have the first sick day and then it passes around the class- so my anxiety is driving this by saying if it’s Covid she will be the first person to get the symptoms as well

Yes she came back with a sniffle so unlikely she caught it at the party but might be the school

Why my husband thinks I’m going to die I don’t really know- he doesn’t have health anxiety but maybe Covid changed that- he has always told me that I will die or end up in a ventilator if I get it and I’ve begun to believe it..

He does feel the exposure was a bit too much and unplanned for so if someone tests positive in the next few days then yes he was exposed

The blood clots I’m referring to in my family are not the normal clots alone - there have been vaccine related emergencies in my family hence the reason I had to speak to the gp

Daughter is lying down, husband in the study and I’m shifting all my stuff to the spare room to prepare myself to get it…

Ur last quote is not a normal or reasonable response to the situation and u need to see a doctor and tell ur husband to shut up or see a doctor for his unreasonable reaction. Ive had awful week with both my girls coming down with a very high temperature , and being told a child in my daughters special needs nursery has covid so we need to self isolate. Yes its been stressful but i didnt assumme i would die
butterpuffed · 10/07/2021 18:51

Your husband has extreme anxiety if he thinks you'll die, your daughter is tired from the party and has a sniffle so has to lie down and you think you won't survive having the vaccine and even if you do, that covid will get you.

This is all so far fetched that it can't be true.

Romanoff · 10/07/2021 18:51

When he says you will end up on a ventilator and/or die.

Do you ask him why he says that, and does he give you an answer?

callmeadoctor · 10/07/2021 18:51

[quote Namechanged4thi5]@SuperstoreFan I have a family history of allergies to medication/anaphylaxis and clots

So we made the decision that I’ll hold off until my husband is fully vaccinated so there is one person around for my daughter incase I don’t make it

I spoke to the gp who was pretty non commital and basically said you should be ok but cannot guarantee

He’s now fully vaccinated so I was planning to book mine in the coming week -[/quote]
Blimey, seems a tad dramatic?

Dontdripme · 10/07/2021 18:51

@Namechanged4thi5

Thank you for taking the time to respond / I’ll try and answer all the questions as best as I can-

Daughters is in year 2 - so far no known cases in her class and only had 1 in a different year group last month

My daughter has had sniffles since going back to school but she is also always the first person to catch the bugs going around. She is always the one to have the first sick day and then it passes around the class- so my anxiety is driving this by saying if it’s Covid she will be the first person to get the symptoms as well

Yes she came back with a sniffle so unlikely she caught it at the party but might be the school

Why my husband thinks I’m going to die I don’t really know- he doesn’t have health anxiety but maybe Covid changed that- he has always told me that I will die or end up in a ventilator if I get it and I’ve begun to believe it..

He does feel the exposure was a bit too much and unplanned for so if someone tests positive in the next few days then yes he was exposed

The blood clots I’m referring to in my family are not the normal clots alone - there have been vaccine related emergencies in my family hence the reason I had to speak to the gp

Daughter is lying down, husband in the study and I’m shifting all my stuff to the spare room to prepare myself to get it…

I think you and Dh should be more concerned about your mental health
Roomonb · 10/07/2021 18:51

I’m not sure if your husband is abusive or just insane. You need to stop listening to this bullshit. Has he been stopping you from going outside and socialising? Tell the centre about your concerns but really you need to get yourself vaccinated.

Duggeehugs82 · 10/07/2021 18:51

@butterpuffed

Your husband has extreme anxiety if he thinks you'll die, your daughter is tired from the party and has a sniffle so has to lie down and you think you won't survive having the vaccine and even if you do, that covid will get you.

This is all so far fetched that it can't be true.

I agree
Cattitudes · 10/07/2021 18:52

I have a similar family history and was absolutely fine with the AZ vaccine, despite feeling concerned as my last vaccine a few decades ago I had a severe reaction. It sounds as if this might be an indication to you that you are now more worried about covid than the vaccine. So maybe see if you can get a vaccine, why don't you see if there is a walk in clinic somewhere tomorrow then next time you might be exposed you will have had at least one dose which is better than no dose.

thecatsabsentcojones · 10/07/2021 18:53

My husband has been in contact with Covid since back last March when he started treating Covid patients, has never had it, I would sit down in front of the ONS website and look at your actual chances of dying, they are tiny.

It sounds like your husband is incredibly anxious and it’s transmitted to you, it’s not based on reality though.

ElaborateSalad · 10/07/2021 18:53

"husband ended up exposing himself to a group of parents" Grin

ancientgran · 10/07/2021 18:53

Can you get her a test?

AnyOldPrion · 10/07/2021 18:53

Sounds awful, OP. Sorry he’s putting you through all this stress. I live somewhere that everyone with cold symptoms is advised to get a test. My son has had several, I’ve had one test as have many of my colleagues over the past year. So far, only one of the people with cold symptoms has tested positive. There are lots of normal colds going round in schools.

Beyond that, even if it is COVID, the vast majority of people will recover. Even if you are in one of the risk groups, there’s a good chance you’ll be fine.

Not sure what you can do about your husband. He sounds either deeply paranoid or deeply manipulative. Might you have the option of speaking to a health advisor of some sort as it sounds as if you might be in an abusive relationship.

Hope you can get some proper help, and I hope your daughter feels better soon and nobody else comes down with it.

stellaisabella · 10/07/2021 18:53

If you and Dh are that terrified of Covid, why go to a child's party and mix with people? It doesn't make any sense whatsoever.
You absolutely are not going to die. You're not at risk. You don't need to move anything into the spare room.
Your husband needs to get a fucking grip and you need to stand up for yourself - it's a sniffle. Both my kids seem to have snotty noses 90% of the time and shockingly, all is fine.