Covid-19 Getting The Better of You Yet?

[DadAManger]

I am a fairly positive person usually. My approach to Covid so far has been to "get on" as there is "nothing else we can do" - which I know is still true, but WTF I am running on empty now.

I have worked from home throughout the pandemic - not furloughed. My work day is longer than ever - 12 hours is the new normal and you are constantly feeling on edge for what else you need to be doing. Between the increased work, the non-stop emails, the lockdown and home-schooling spurts, the zoom fatigue and the struggling to stay on top of your gam, it has been a hard hard slog.

Now it will continue longer. I was supposed to relocate to the Continent a year ago - this keeps being pushed back, especially now we are seen as the sick man of Europe again. I know my MH is not what is should be, but have not faced this before and don't know what to do on that front either.

I know many people will say I am "lucky" to keep my job and still be busy and to have avoided getting sick so far, but really - WTF - it is really a struggle at the moment. Is Covid getting the better of anyone else now or is this just me (and a few others I see crumbling)?

@Thewiseoneincognito

To those struggling- you have my sympathy.

My small piece of advice is to try and stay away from the Coronavirus threads for a while and perhaps stay away from the news for a few days, it really does help.

Today’s announcement is disappointing but it’s far better than us reopening and then having to close down again harder a week or two later because the numbers got worse. There isn’t really a lot we can do to change this, acceptance is key to finding your mojo again even if it seems like the hardest thing to do.

Your personal approach to ‘acceptance’ seems to be to absolutely revel in the whole thing. You come across as downright gleeful predicting indefinite restrictions and future lockdowns. And now you’re trying to dispense your oh-so-wise advice to cheer people up?

Nobody thinks you’re an authority, nobody who’s read any of your previous posts buys your ‘sympathy’, and nobody wants to follow in your footsteps. Go and find some other thread to feel superior at.

@GoldenOmber it’s so encouraging to know you take the time to read my posts, you’re one of many, thank you. Perhaps one day you will come to appreciate my take on events, if not then I respect your views.

How is it gleeful to have the foresight to understand that what has happened was inevitable? How is accepting the situation misconstrued as revelling?

How is it gleeful to have the foresight to understand that what has happened was inevitable? How is accepting the situation misconstrued as revelling?

If multiple people tell you that you sound gleeful and revelling, you might wish to take that as a cue to reflect on how you come across to others?

@GoldenOmber

How is it gleeful to have the foresight to understand that what has happened was inevitable? How is accepting the situation misconstrued as revelling?

If multiple people tell you that you sound gleeful and revelling, you might wish to take that as a cue to reflect on how you come across to others?

I could accept that if the other people weren’t all anti lockdown and had very similar agendas and posting patterns. Quite a few people do agree with my views and have vitriol thrown at them if they dare suggest a similar point. Makes you go hmmm doesn’t it.

Take it that’s a ‘no, I will not be reflecting on how I come across’ then.

Look, you’re entitled to your own views and your own predilections, but this is a thread for people who are not having as satisfying a time as you are. I spent the first part of lockdown working on covid response, seeing really horrific information about what the reality of what we were dealing with day after day after day. I really don’t need you to take a break in your busy schedule of making up The End Is Nigh! placards to patronise me about how I just need to get better at acceptance, thanks.

OP I get that your moving being pushed back makes it more difficult for you than for many people. Uncertainty is one of the worst things mentally to manage with the pandemic. There appear to be one or two at work who are struggling (from what I hear/notice given we work remotely now) but most are not.

Work and most things I am managing perfectly OK with, though I am missing being able to travel abroad, especially having found out the location of a family grave (not all my ancestors are from the UK).

@GoldenOmber

Take it that’s a ‘no, I will not be reflecting on how I come across’ then.

Look, you’re entitled to your own views and your own predilections, but this is a thread for people who are not having as satisfying a time as you are. I spent the first part of lockdown working on covid response, seeing really horrific information about what the reality of what we were dealing with day after day after day. I really don’t need you to take a break in your busy schedule of making up The End Is Nigh! placards to patronise me about how I just need to get better at acceptance, thanks.

Let’s agree to disagree. I really couldn’t care any less what you, a random on a MN thread thought about how I came across. 🕊

Still surreal and weird but accustomed and adjusted to be mindful of my potential Covid footprint and pragmatic by default to moderate lifestyle as appropriate to reach a workable balance between risk mitigation restrictions and otherwise living in these pandemic times. Double vaccinated and masked up trying to be a part of the solution and not forever prolonging the pain and suffering. Only positives is hopefully prevention is the best cure and the blended remote working from home and indeed blended mixed work life balance can at times be preferable to the former regimented in office city corporate rat race and over crowded shared mass public transportation as hopefully British hygiene standards have risen by necessity too.

@GoldenOmber excellent post 👏👏👏

@Thewiseoneincognito I'm not entirely sure it's appropriate that you post on a thread for those who are experiencing very real, very upsetting difficulties relating to the pandemic. Telling people to 'accept it' is incredibly tone deaf and lacking in empathy.

After 4 weeks things will be back to normal so I am just holding onto that.

I know a lot of people on the boards are saying things are pretty much back to normal but for me the biggest worry is planning something to have it cancelled if I catch it or even if I have to isolate or ds has to isolate from nursery etc etc
So I don't plan anything, so things aren't back to normal

I started self harming for the first time in almost two decades at Christmas. I'm in my 40s and thought I had left that part of my life behind. I've been prescribed antidepressants but there's no other help available at the moment. Nobody apart from my GP knows - I don't have friends or family and I can't talk to DH about it because I feel so ashamed. This is the first time I've talked about it to anyone else.

@TheVampiresWife funnily ( not funny obviously) enough I've been having similar thoughts and also thought I was done with that kind of thing decades ago

[quote fedup078]@TheVampiresWife funnily ( not funny obviously) enough I've been having similar thoughts and also thought I was done with that kind of thing decades ago [/quote]
I'm so sorry. It's utterly completely shit isn't it

[quote TheVampiresWife]@GoldenOmber excellent post 👏👏👏

@Thewiseoneincognito I'm not entirely sure it's appropriate that you post on a thread for those who are experiencing very real, very upsetting difficulties relating to the pandemic. Telling people to 'accept it' is incredibly tone deaf and lacking in empathy.[/quote]
Erm Vamps did you actually read my post?

I suggest you do because you’ll find I said acceptance is key to finding your mojo again I haven’t told anyone to accept it and there’s a very big difference which I hope you can appreciate. You seem to take issue with my opinions and I respect that but please do not twist my words. ✌🏼

@GoldenOmber well said. I think most people, regardless of their stance on lockdown, can clearly see the gleeful tones of @Thewiseoneincognito's posts.

[quote BlueBlancmange]**@GoldenOmber* well said. I think most people, regardless of their stance on lockdown, can clearly see the gleeful tones of @Thewiseoneincognito*'s posts.[/quote]
Jesus you’re all out this afternoon 🙄 there is nothing gleeful in being pragmatic about future lockdowns and our trajectory.

[quote fedup078]@TheVampiresWife funnily ( not funny obviously) enough I've been having similar thoughts and also thought I was done with that kind of thing decades ago [/quote]
for both of you.

Jesus you’re all out this afternoon 🙄 there is nothing gleeful in being pragmatic about future lockdowns and our trajectory

Again @Thewiseoneincognito this sort of comment on a thread for those who are struggling isn't appropriate. There are lots of other threads where you can post stuff about future lockdowns and trajectories.

And I know what you said - acceptance being key to getting your 'mojo' back. Some people on this thread have lost much more than their 'mojo'. Accepting the situation isn't going to help - we have accepted it, and that's the issue.

I'm completely devastated. I haven't seen my family for 16 months and I have no idea when I'll next be able to see them. I feel like there is no exit plan and this could go on forever. I really can't live like this.

@Frezia

I'm completely devastated. I haven't seen my family for 16 months and I have no idea when I'll next be able to see them. I feel like there is no exit plan and this could go on forever. I really can't live like this.

Completely feel you. I feel trapped and hopeless.

@Frezia

I'm completely devastated. I haven't seen my family for 16 months and I have no idea when I'll next be able to see them. I feel like there is no exit plan and this could go on forever. I really can't live like this.

Where are your family if you don’t mind me asking? Are you alone in the UK?

I'm totally knackered, yes. I do believe strongly in all the social distancing and mask wearing and would happily continue to do it, but I'm totally bone tired.

I caught covid the same day as Boris Johnson last year and I'm still not recovered. I've been doing my best to carry on, but then the vaccine knocked me over totally about 7 weeks ago, and I've barely been able to get back on to my knees and start eating again playsibly since then.

I know I need to get the second vaccine, but I just don't know where I'll get the energy to grind through the side effects.

Zzzzz.....

I’m fed up with my own forced cheerfulness and “answer-for-every problem, can do” attitude which is frankly wearing very thin and threadbare by now. There was an article in the New York Times about how mothers are the “shock absorbers of society” and that pretty much sums it up.

@TawnyPippit

I’m fed up with my own forced cheerfulness and “answer-for-every problem, can do” attitude which is frankly wearing very thin and threadbare by now. There was an article in the New York Times about how mothers are the “shock absorbers of society” and that pretty much sums it up.

I have felt like a sponge at times. Negative stuff comes in, positive going out.

Shock absorber is a good way to put it.