Covid-19 Getting The Better of You Yet?

[DadAManger]

I am a fairly positive person usually. My approach to Covid so far has been to "get on" as there is "nothing else we can do" - which I know is still true, but WTF I am running on empty now.

I have worked from home throughout the pandemic - not furloughed. My work day is longer than ever - 12 hours is the new normal and you are constantly feeling on edge for what else you need to be doing. Between the increased work, the non-stop emails, the lockdown and home-schooling spurts, the zoom fatigue and the struggling to stay on top of your gam, it has been a hard hard slog.

Now it will continue longer. I was supposed to relocate to the Continent a year ago - this keeps being pushed back, especially now we are seen as the sick man of Europe again. I know my MH is not what is should be, but have not faced this before and don't know what to do on that front either.

I know many people will say I am "lucky" to keep my job and still be busy and to have avoided getting sick so far, but really - WTF - it is really a struggle at the moment. Is Covid getting the better of anyone else now or is this just me (and a few others I see crumbling)?

@Beebityboo I really relate to this, would love to know if it’s a recognised ‘thing’. I’m getting real memory blanks too, as in, I can’t remember entire months of this year, and I think it’s just due to functioning in some kind of weird extreme autopilot mode.

TooManyPlatesInMotion

MercyBooth
From another thread

WhentheDealGoesDown1 Thu 10-Jun-21 16:29:16
After reading in the Mail that all Euro 2020 matches at Wembley will be given an exemption from lockdown rules because the FA was required to give UEFA a commitment that at least 22,500 fans will attend each of the eight games hosted in London I think I am past caring.
Exactly. And seeing pics of Bojo, Queen etc all mingling at close quarters in Cornwall... I'm not wearing a mask any longer

It’s so stupid. There’s no way I’m accepting not being able to be in the same room with my parents and sibling at the same time, whilst there are stadiums full of people.

I won’t be complying any more but that only goes so far doesn’t it, it’s like all the joy is sucked out of everything with cumbersome rules, pre-booking and having to have a mask plastered to your face.

I hit random sobbing mode this week last year. The succinct and vague fb comment I made timehopped a couple of days ago.
I howled and sobbed with rage when the radio news came on and it became clear that my DCs weren't setting foot in school for another 3m.

Thank goodness the rank hypocrisy of the lifestyle of the elites is so clearly on public display. Let the masses be content at watching half empty stadia on TV as millionaires play football when it's too dangerous to run a race in the open air because the conditions are unrealistic and the landowners are wetter than a sodden sponge.
Make vaccinated parents wear their pocket handkerchiefs on their faces in the school playground when the Health Secretary removes his as he swans into no10 after his little virtue signalling performance.
I'll bet the G7 are having some lovely dinners while wedding couples strike through their guest lists of who will have to be dispensible, or just postpone yet again.

Enough
Enough
Enough

And enough of the pathetic wet sponges that nobly and sanctimoniously sit there congratulating themselves on how good they are when they aren't actually making any sacrifices themselves. A quiet life is fine, but don't make an empty virtue out of it over people who live differently and need more stimulation to thrive, and demand that they continue to sacrifice while you happily carry on unhindered and as normal.

I have been angry so, so many times more in the past 15m than the rest of my life put together.

The only thing keeping me off medication is the thought that this is a normal mental response to a temporary situation. I've been thinking that for a long time now. I spent most of the winter feeling numb or wishing I didn't exist.

@wonderstuff123

I'm managing to keep myself going for the sake of the kids,but if I didn't have them,as another poster said,I'd have checked out I think.

All the things I love seem to have been taken away with so sign when they'll come back...festivals,concerts,being tight in a crowd watching live music,theatre, travel. I've just finished my healthcare degree which I started because I want to work with people. I've been offered a job and feel flat because most of it will be working from home,not with people. And when I do visit people,it will be with a mask,visor,gloves and an apron on. Despite being double vaccinated. Despite doing two tests a week....

Then there's the constant suspicion....the questioning everytime you attend training or work or go to visit someone...do you have covid symptoms? The masks,teaching kids to basically assume everyone is infected..no way to live.

I'm scared my 1 year old will grow up and masks,one way systems and tests will seem...normal to her

The thing that scares me and worries me the most is how conditioned we've all become in such a short space of time. That to question anything,is to be labelled anti Vax/mask/going to kill Granny. As I've said for a long time,it won't be covid that will kill the population,it will be humankind and their acceptance of the them and us stance the Government have put us through.

So to answer you question,if this is the future now,yes,covid has got the better of me.

I feel this. It's fucking horrible and I don't know what the solution is other than not complying.

That's the problem isn't it. I can only not comply with say mask wearing...I can't do anything if festivals aren't on or I can't afford to quarantine or theatres aren't open. I'm just,stuck.

It’s clear how many of us are really struggling. And no surprise at all.

I think the hardest thing for some of us is the lack on control we have on our lives at times...for example, the Government decided to keep the air border with India (which is what has led to the current upswing) and you KNOW it is a mistake (my 10 year old knew it was a mistake) and we all suffer. My job transfer gets delayed again, the Covid case at school sends the kids home again for 2 weeks, the summer holidays are stopped again.

We know when the government cock-ups are happening, yet still they happen. And then we are back to working remotely on the dining table for 12 hours a day for another 3-4 months. And nothing we can do about again. WTF happened to the control we used to have and our old lives?

@TheMotherlode

TooManyPlatesInMotion

MercyBooth
From another thread

WhentheDealGoesDown1 Thu 10-Jun-21 16:29:16
After reading in the Mail that all Euro 2020 matches at Wembley will be given an exemption from lockdown rules because the FA was required to give UEFA a commitment that at least 22,500 fans will attend each of the eight games hosted in London I think I am past caring.
Exactly. And seeing pics of Bojo, Queen etc all mingling at close quarters in Cornwall... I'm not wearing a mask any longer

It’s so stupid. There’s no way I’m accepting not being able to be in the same room with my parents and sibling at the same time, whilst there are stadiums full of people.

I won’t be complying any more but that only goes so far doesn’t it, it’s like all the joy is sucked out of everything with cumbersome rules, pre-booking and having to have a mask plastered to your face.

Jeez - some people are such easy bait - particularly those it seems only capable of reading the headline.

The first 3 games are test pilot events with covid certification measures. No decision has been made on any matches after that.

As for G7 - I've only seen a few photos of people standing near each other without masks outside, where it's known the risk of transmission is miniscule.

@DadAManger

It’s clear how many of us are really struggling. And no surprise at all.

I think the hardest thing for some of us is the lack on control we have on our lives at times...for example, the Government decided to keep the air border with India (which is what has led to the current upswing) and you KNOW it is a mistake (my 10 year old knew it was a mistake) and we all suffer. My job transfer gets delayed again, the Covid case at school sends the kids home again for 2 weeks, the summer holidays are stopped again.

We know when the government cock-ups are happening, yet still they happen. And then we are back to working remotely on the dining table for 12 hours a day for another 3-4 months. And nothing we can do about again. WTF happened to the control we used to have and our old lives?

Agreed - it pisses me off too, that the government mistakes are paid for by us, while they have done nothing except gotten rich off it all.

But I don't agree with the bit about "control over our lives" - that went out the window the moment a handful of billionaires decided they wanted to pull the UK out of the EU so they could wield more influence here and get even more filthy rich in the process.

Feel sad at yet another year of missed sports days and end of term assemblies, the last video I have of my DS, he was 4 having not long started reception. He was tiny. I have no other school videos. He's 6 now, pandemic kicked off when he was 4. My youngest 15 month old has spent his whole life with restrictions. Seeing all these fans at the Euros and the G7 attendees but parents are missing out on so much. It's us ordinary folk who might only go abroad every few years, never contributed to the spread of this disease in and out of the country and are the most penalised. Kids are little for a short period of time and if they have to sacrifice their sports, clubs and education again, seriously think I'll explode.

My DSiL and I agreed today that no matter what rules are reimposed, we will not be keeping ourselves distant or making our children, who are cousins, best friends and very close, distance either.
I'll continue to wear a mask and I have to follow the rules at work but I am otherwise done.

I don’t wear a mask anymore. Complete U turn by me as I was one of those disgusted by people who didn’t at the start. Enough is enough. I’m so annoyed the borders were just left open for these variants to come in!

I won’t be doing lockdown 4 and I refuse not to see family and friends again.

Op I crumbled a while back.
Stopped watching / reading about it.
Focussed on my routine life, tweaking minor things here and there. Feel more in control that way. We've travelled now to see family. Don't even know current rules tbh.

I’m ok then feel suppressed by it

Yes things are loads better, dd had first ballet lessons today and it was joyful. Dc back doing stuff tg

But family not possible which is a bit depressing

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss

We haven’t changed much since things started relaxing and I’d rather action is taken given the rising case numbers to protect those not covered by vaccines. The more it’s left to spread the more chance of new variants.

in which case we may as well lock dow forever...

You are not alone, it got to me too.
I have developed a resilience to leave the house. Come the weekend, and I remain here, even now that we can finally go out! And I am mot sure of why, but I do not want to mingle with people. I do miss talking to people. Yet, even if I now can go out, I just don't.
I am going to need a push to get back to normal!

Covid got the better of me in terms of my career. I took a role in what turned out to be a toxic company. WFH and all the disassociation with ppl it can bring, meant I lasted 2 months instead of 6. Had other temp colleagues video calling me out the blue to say they felt like the company was toxic, and they couldn't cope. My DH is amazing and was fine with me quitting, finding it hard to get back on the horse.

@MaybeCrazy2

I don’t wear a mask anymore. Complete U turn by me as I was one of those disgusted by people who didn’t at the start. Enough is enough. I’m so annoyed the borders were just left open for these variants to come in!

I won’t be doing lockdown 4 and I refuse not to see family and friends again.

Can I ask,have you had anyone comment to you about not wearing a mask? Or has that all stopped now?

@MushMonster I actually felt
Like things were looking up after feeling
Like this too. So I went away for a day with a friend last weekend. First time away in years. We sat in beer gardens and kept away from others. A few days later I get a notice to self isolate. So that's me back in the sodding house

I just feel we are back to this time last year, a few weeks of some normality, and I worry we will be back in lockdown by autumn. There just seems no end to it, it all feels like a bad dream. It feels like my dc have hardly been in school since September with lockdown/several periods of isolation. It really worries me how much they have missed, not just academics but socially too. Went for a couple of trips out with them during half term, but the pre-booking of everything, all the rules/restrictions and then the worry about being tracked, traced and having to isolate again just takes the joy out of it.

[quote fedup078]@MushMonster I actually felt
Like things were looking up after feeling
Like this too. So I went away for a day with a friend last weekend. First time away in years. We sat in beer gardens and kept away from others. A few days later I get a notice to self isolate. So that's me back in the sodding house [/quote]
I find that it's best not to have the track & trace app for this reason.

@TooManyPlatesInMotion yes I am contemplating switching off the tracking
I can not understand why I got the alert
All I think of is that is was someone in the pub on the other side of the wall of the outside seat I was sat at

@strangeshapedpotato oh yes a ‘test event’, that’s fine then
They can label anything they want a bloody test event, doesn’t mean it’s reasonable to have mass events when people aren’t yet able to hold their wedding properly or have their families in the same room together.

@Butterflyinglow you're not the only one

www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2021/apr/14/brain-fog-how-trauma-uncertainty-and-isolation-have-affected-our-minds-and-memory

Almost got hit by a car last week though because I'd zoned out, so not great
Omg, I hope you weren't badly hurt?

I’m alive and a bit surprised considering my job and what happened to colleagues.
Now bored but can wait a bit longer .
Sad for young ppl. Angry at Matt Hancock’s lies . The lived experiences of NHS staff are different re PPE/ testing on discharge ( or “decanting “ patients as it was called ) to care homes . Yes I will do this longer ie masks etc

please try and hang on in there.