Just can't take any more of this new normal

[JuneMoonstone]

I'm feeling incredibly low and depressed. I am just so, so utterly fed up of Covid. I can't be bothered to go anywhere, do anything, make plans. I've been waiting months for my 5 year old to start swimming lessons and they kept getting put off due to covid. I found out that she can start lessons next month but once she turns 6 she'll no longer be eligible so she'll only get a couple of lessons, so there's no point in her starting. Before anyone has a go at me, I completely understand there are many people far worse off than me and I am very grateful that I have not suffered from covid or lost anyone due to covid. I just feel so so despondent and depressed about the future. Everything is a chore now, there is zero fun to be had. The variants will keep coming, the threat of future lockdowns continue to loom for God knows how long, maybe forever. We're told that Covid will never go away and the old normal will never return. If I didn't have a child I think I would end it. Life has just become very small, dull, joyless, wearisome.

@ComtesseDeSpair

This has been a strange eighteen months, but in a few years’ time we’ll just look back on it as a blip in our lives. It isn’t going to last forever, we’ll learn to live with whatever variants arise just as we live with different variants of ‘flu – some of which cause tens of thousands of deaths in a bad year. With the best will in the world, life is not over because a five-year-old’s swimming lessons have had to be delayed.

You can worry yourself into a depression; or you can just make the best of things, knowing that it really will be over soon. Whichever route you choose has no effect on what actually happens, so the worrying is pointless.

It'll never be "a blip" in my life.

My DP died just as we went into tiers in early November. He'd been ill, almost certainly Covid, in March, just before the first lockdown, and never fully recovered. He was my soulmate, my best friend for over 30 years, more than half my life.

I couldn't go into the hospital with him when I took him to A&E. I dropped him at the door and the next time I saw him was when they turned off his life support. I had to do that alone, couldn't have anyone with me for support. We couldn't have all our friends and family at the funeral. We still haven't had a wake, or scattered his ashes.

I had to go through the first few months of bereavement on my own, save for my "bubble" - SIL and her family who live 26 miles away. I sometimes wouldn't see another human face for a week or 10 days at a time.

There must be thousands, tens of thousands maybe, of people for whom the last 15 months have been a hellish experience, who have lost loved ones and had to go through bereavement without being able to have any meaningful support, or who are suffering "long Covid".

To dismiss this as a blip is, frankly, crass.

@LakieLady that’s so sad and no, definitely not a blip. I’m so sorry your DP went through that. I also know of someone who lost their DP at the hospital to covid in similar circumstances. Hope u are managing ok and finding some strength from somewhere? xx

[quote shewalkslikerihanna]@shetlandponies

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From what you say....You are exempt. I have the same, I have tried but it gives me anxiety. I also feel slightly dizzy, I wonder if that is lack of oxygen. It also seems to affect my peripheral vision, and on top of all that my glasses fog up and not being able to see properly makes the anxiety worse. Just go mask free you may occasionally get an over zealous shop assistant say something but tbh I've literally only had this happen a couple of times.

None of us should suffer in a mask just to appease the judgey twats. Makes me sad so many do

Totally agree. I’ve never worn one, as long as people do we will never get out of this this year

If people stopped complying and voted with their feet ..it could end in a matter of days.
Nothing stronger than people power[/quote]
What a dramatic load of selfish nonsense.

'I wonder if that is lack of oxygen' - have you ever been in a situation where you are lacking oxygen? Clearly not...because I can assure you, you would not be in a damn shop on your 2 feet if you were however you could pass covid onto someone who will end up lacking oxygen. I'm also a glasses wearer and still manage to wear a mask without them fogging up as have many other people.

'If people stopped complying and voted with their feet ..it could end in a matter of days.
Nothing stronger than people power'

I am very thankful that the country seems to have a lot of people who don't hold views like this.

My dad went for a medical procedure a few months back. He arrived at the hospital and knocked on a door to let them know he’d arrived.( so he couldn’t be accused of being late). He approached the office door with a window in it, the woman inside could see anyone approaching. He was wearing a mask and politely knocked and opened the door from a safe distance to give her his name.
The lady then yelled at him to go and sit down and keep away from the door !He told her to not be so rude and was merely informing her of his name so she knew he was there and on time.
Complete overkill.
I witnessed a man in a pub getting yelled at by a security guard for standing up for a moment longer than he should have been. He was presumably on his way to the toilet or to leave.
I can’t stand the division this has caused.

I just don’t know what they’ll all do when their ‘power’ to shout at people is removed.

It’s given some real ‘status’ to people who had previously never experienced this. They don’t really have the intelligence or skill to cope with it.

@jumpbounce

Your reply to me and @shewalkslikerihanna just makes me even more glad to not wear a mask if it pisses off judgy people like you it's an added bonus 🤣🤷‍♀️

By the way, I went to London for the weekend. There was barely any masks and zero social distancing anywhere .
Shop workers couldn't give a shit either. The vibe was great

It was amazing 😻 for many people, it's over.

Bad punctuation there,
Apologies I'm at work !

(The job I've Worked at,
mask free, throughout this whole pandemic in a public facing, risky role, I'm not dead yet)

@LakieLady

I'm truly sorry for your loss

(and the fact it has been made even harder by these inhumane measures. Awful)

Shetland, I was in London last week and I disagree.

Everyone on the tube wore a mask. Social distancing outside, no. Toilets in st James’ park, yes, everyone wore a mask. Shops, yes.

[quote shetlandponies]@jumpbounce

Your reply to me and @shewalkslikerihanna just makes me even more glad to not wear a mask if it pisses off judgy people like you it's an added bonus 🤣🤷‍♀️

By the way, I went to London for the weekend. There was barely any masks and zero social distancing anywhere .
Shop workers couldn't give a shit either. The vibe was great

It was amazing 😻 for many people, it's over. [/quote]
Your post tells me all I need to know about you as a person.
'Pissing off judgy people' - it's a little deeper than that but maybe you have never had to watch your child fight for their life and know the reality of what is likely to happen should your as yet unvaccinated child contract covid.
You carry on being an idiot though. Thankfully there is many more people who aren't selfish idiots in the country who will outweigh your attitude.

@Malteser71

Shetland, I was in London last week and I disagree.

Everyone on the tube wore a mask. Social distancing outside, no. Toilets in st James’ park, yes, everyone wore a mask. Shops, yes.

Well that certainly wasn't my experience.

@jumpbounce

I don't give a shit

Literally no one is following the rules anymore except masks so good luck with that...

Posted too soon @jumpbounce

I don't give a shit what you think of me. I'm genuinely sorry if you have a poorly / vulnerable child. However I'm afraid that doesn't give you any right to call people idiots and selfish etc

@shetlandponies

Posted too soon *@jumpbounce*

I don't give a shit what you think of me. I'm genuinely sorry if you have a poorly / vulnerable child. However I'm afraid that doesn't give you any right to call people idiots and selfish etc

Yet you have a right to go around not wearing your mask sneering about how you are pissing off judgy people and not giving a shit about who you could be effecting along the way I'm out now, It's impossible to reason with someone so self absorbed. Your rights to do what you want especially when it breaks the law do not trump anyone else's especially in a fucking pandemic.

The sooner masks go, the better.
I am attending a mental health crisis service at the moment. Is in a 'calming cafe' (although they are not allowed to serve drinks due to Covid). Sat about 3m away from someone I am meant to be opening up to... she has a mask on and her glasses are fogged. I have not met her before, and I just can't talk to this faceless person about my suicidal thoughts etc.
She went and got a face shield in the end. I know I wont be the only one struggling with stuff like this.

@XenoBitch

The sooner masks go, the better. I am attending a mental health crisis service at the moment. Is in a 'calming cafe' (although they are not allowed to serve drinks due to Covid). Sat about 3m away from someone I am meant to be opening up to... she has a mask on and her glasses are fogged. I have not met her before, and I just can't talk to this faceless person about my suicidal thoughts etc. She went and got a face shield in the end. I know I wont be the only one struggling with stuff like this.

I hope you get the support you need.

I would hug and talk to and support anyone - no masks, no hysteria, no BS

I think the masks are pretty bad. I struggled so badly last summer in the heat wearing them all day at work and it's beginning to get hot again

I feel its just a placebo anyway.

@jumpbounce

I am EXEMPT from wearing a mask whether you like it or not my reasons upthread exempt me. and I am SICK AND TIRED of being judged for it by pathetic dickhead people who think their filthy pound shop face rag is going to save humanity from the dreaded covid 🙄 that for the vast majority is harmless anyway . And I will not be bullied into suffering physically and mentally to appease twats.

So yes I am glad my non mask wearing pisses you off (and people like you) and I freely admit it 😘 .

@BonnieDundee

I think the masks are pretty bad. I struggled so badly last summer in the heat wearing them all day at work and it's beginning to get hot again

I feel its just a placebo anyway.

Totally agree

@XenoBitch

The sooner masks go, the better. I am attending a mental health crisis service at the moment. Is in a 'calming cafe' (although they are not allowed to serve drinks due to Covid). Sat about 3m away from someone I am meant to be opening up to... she has a mask on and her glasses are fogged. I have not met her before, and I just can't talk to this faceless person about my suicidal thoughts etc. She went and got a face shield in the end. I know I wont be the only one struggling with stuff like this.

This makes me so sad

I like wearing a mask. It means I dont have to fucking smile at people.

On the point of the impact on children, missed opportunities, effect on their social skills, lost months of education, no swimming lessons etc I think that it's up to us as parents to counteract as much of the negative as possible with as much positivity as you can muster - so finding opportunities to take them swimming and improve their water confidence yourself, look for UK holidays, go camping, take them out in nature. I genuinely dont think my kids have had a hard time at all from the impact of lockdowns. We have lost a very close, young healthy family member this year so I'm not saying life is rosy, but as a parent you have pull yourself out of your negative spiral and try to give your kids some good memories and support them to have a positive outlook.

Having to wear a mask in the office when we sit two meters apart and have all been fully vaccinated is bloody ridiculous.