Please hold my hand through second jab!

[NicoleKidmanSuperFan]

So after making many threads adamant I wasn't going to have the second jab, I went ahead and did it tonight and am feeling super scared. I will document how I feel. Feeling super scared and I know I will for 3 weeks. Any support is welcome.

I couldn't live with the anxiety of potential covid and half immunity. I also couldn't live with going to and fro from my decision. Really hope I won't regret it. Crapping it, absolutely crapping it. Only thing getting through is the idea of going to a fancy hotel with the hubby is 3 weeks.

Why are you in such a state about your 2nd vacc? Seems a rather extreme reaction.

Following.

I had horrendous side effects from AZ vaccine. Weeks of feeling really unwell and I'm not entirely convinced I want to have my second jab if I'm going to be that ill again afterwards, especially given I have two lively toddlers at home to look after.

Hope you're feeling ok so far OP

Why are you in such a state? Why have you posted multiple threads about not having your second shot?

Maybe seek help for yourself anxiety of it's this crippling? What on earth do you think will happen?

I'll say one thing for this pandemic - it's really brought out some people's OTT behaviour. However if you're genuinely this anxious, it's time to see help

There are very few reactions from second jabs so I am sure you will be fine.

I also wonder if MN HQ have some sort of responsibility to try and limit clearly overly anxious people starting multiple threads? It's just fuelling them and making them worse

@HerMammy I suffer from anxiety around health and has been very adamant not to get the second dose after the blood clot fears. So having the second one is a really big thing for me. I'm still not happy and very scared but came here for support.

@MindtheBelleek because I really wasn't going to have it. A talk with my GP did help though last week so I went ahead. We are allowed to make as many threads as we like aren't we.

@PineappleDreamer well mumsnet seem fine with it and probably understand mumsnet is for support too, not only for the non anxious folk. I can post what I like thanks, no one is the owner of mumsnet here.

Thank you everyone else who has supported.

@NicoleKidmanSuperFan let me start by- It's very normal to be very anxious about the covid situation and the jab situation too.

Well done for getting it. It's very very unlikely that you'll have serious side effects. Why don't you look up statistics of other bad things happening and compare ? It might help you put it into perspective. We do risky things every day, which we don't even think twice about. Everything around the risk of covid and the jab has been heightened massively by the media etc.

I hope you manage to get some peace.

So I'm post vaccine by 3 hours and I feel nothing so far. Last time it was the 10 hour mark. Let's see how it goes. First time around I only had a temperature and a bit of a racing heartbeat. I hope to get away with hardly anything this time.

@alabaster11 I do feel for you really, it really is worrying. However I think we worry more than we need to and need to keep reminding ourselves of the rareness of these issues.

Do you think multiple threads going round in circles is helping you in any way?
Do you have support for this anxiety?
Millions have had these vaccinations and severe side effects are absolutely minimal.

What on earth do you think will happen?

Surely the OP is talking about the blood clot issue. The risk may be minimal but I don't see how it's helpful to pretend it isn't an issue. They are telling people at vaccination centres what symptoms to look for and many people are feeling anxious for 3-4 weeks after their jab.

I have sympathy for you OP. Just make sure you drink plenty of water so you don't get dehydration headaches and just be aware of the signs to look for and then try to relax.

Why don't you look up statistics of other bad things happening and compare

Please don't do this. It's irrelevant and will just make you have more things to worry about.

@HerMammy it's not going around in circles if you end up having it is it? I've had the jab, will get some support and be off on my merry way after. It's a coping strategy for support. I'm too level headed according to my friends in real life so would never share my neurotic side in real life so over I feel people will be more honest.
Not everyone on mumsnet is going to be posting about their garden or private education.

@AppleJane yes this is it, the clots. Thanks for the sympathy. It's my second dose so I hope I get away with less side effects.

@HerMammy

Why are you in such a state about your 2nd vacc? Seems a rather extreme reaction.

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Well done for getting it. I have just had my 2nd on Friday, felt a bit headachy by that evening and through Saturday, had a nap that afternoon then an early night. Sunday I was pretty much back to normal. My arm was only sore for a day this time, not a week or more like the first one.

@AppleJane

Why don't you look up statistics of other bad things happening and compare

Please don't do this. It's irrelevant and will just make you have more things to worry about.

This is what helps me. A lot.

OP - this is meant kindly. When you have severe anxiety or OCD and are excessively reassurance seeking the worst thing we can do is to keep providing reassurance.
That is because by us reassuring you that it will be fine we are calming the impulses for a short time, but in the longer time your brain doesn’t become able to deal with the uncertainty itself. Thus resulting in you getting more anxious and seeking more reassurance.
It’s a horrible cycle. I hope you seek help for your health anxiety.

@Lazierdays

OP - this is meant kindly. When you have severe anxiety or OCD and are excessively reassurance seeking the worst thing we can do is to keep providing reassurance. That is because by us reassuring you that it will be fine we are calming the impulses for a short time, but in the longer time your brain doesn’t become able to deal with the uncertainty itself. Thus resulting in you getting more anxious and seeking more reassurance. It’s a horrible cycle. I hope you seek help for your health anxiety.

Not sure you should diagnose OP with OCD... or has she said she's been diagnosed with that? Agree that the reassurance seeking doesn't help long term, in general.

@user19097527484949 I didn’t. I clearly said anxiety, which they have clearly said themselves they have sought treatment about, or ocd.
I’m not diagnosing anyone.

Hey OP.

I understand your fears. I was due to have my second, Saturday just gone but cancelled it as I wasn't well in the week so thought I'd give myself another week to perk up. Booked in for this Saturday.

I also suffer with bad anxiety and health anxiety and thought I had a racing heartbeat but wondering if it was actually my anxiety about the racing heartbeat.

The side effects come 24 hours after for me. I felt tired and shivery. Took a paracetamol and went for a nap and thankfully felt fine afterwards.

My partner had the same but felt his about 12 hours afterwards and was generally achy. He was okay in the morning.

Maybe you could post on the same thread rather than starting multiple ones? It makes other people more anxious if they see what appears to be more than one thread on a very similar topic.

@Lazierdays I've known how to deal with my anxiety and ocd type tendencies for years now and honestly this isn't reassurance. Ocd reassurance is going to have a million tests and asking medics multiple questions. It's perfectly normal on mumsnet to ask for support for various things, like a divorce or something to do with your children. This is a support thread as I don't see mumsnet as a medical website which is what ocd around health usually focuses on. Thanks anyway for your insight.

I'm happy for any support, if anyone doesn't want that's fine too.

@RoseWineTime this is my second thread. I asked for one to be deleted last week. Not that many as I have seen people post much more.

Again if this has made anyone anxious I'm sorry.

On the upside this could be a positive push for anyone who was absolutely crapping getting their second like me.