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Are you still sticking to ALL of the rules?

543 replies

CallTheSheriff · 03/05/2021 21:33

Our family has followed all rules to date but with two weeks left until social contact restrictions are lifted I see more and more people using a ‘common sense’ approach for their own risk.

My DC go to school (primary), attend swimming lessons, attend dance classes and indoor football classes but we decline the offer of play dates with other DC in their class.

DH and I have not mixed indoors with any other adult since last March. We both WFH and are both partially vaccinated. We do not attend gyms etc as we didn’t pre covid anyway.

Our friends and family think we are being OTT, especially in not allowing DC to visit others after school but allowing them to attend classes.

It made me wonder how others are doing it?

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Sleepyblueocean · 03/05/2021 23:26

What we are doing has not changed since last summer. Ds is severely autistic so we cannot keep changing what we do. All of it is within the law but I think some would say we are not following guidelines / the rulez.

Rainbowsandstorms · 03/05/2021 23:29

Yes we are still following the rules. If everyone thought they didn’t apply to them and we all started doing what we wanted to we’d take even longer to get out of lockdown! I’ve been enjoying seeing friends and family outside at a distance.

MissMaple82 · 03/05/2021 23:31

No

MissMaple82 · 03/05/2021 23:32

And from day 1 I never stuck to the rules either

LilyPond2 · 03/05/2021 23:44

Yep, still following the rules here. 17-year-old DD also believes in keeping to the rules, but in any event is currently working so hard for her A levels that she has little time for socialising.

ReviewingTheSituation · 03/05/2021 23:46

@MissMaple82 and everyone else happily stating they're not... Why? What makes you more important than everyone else? What is it that means the rules are for everyone else, but not for you?

MyNameForToday1980 · 03/05/2021 23:49

We're not sticking to the rules... But we're not being ridic.

DD has been on a couple of majority-outside.(but some time spent inside) playdates with a child in her bubble at school.

My parents, PIL and DSis have visited the house (separately) all fully vaxxed, mainly spent time at the park, windows open when indoors.

Other than that, good as gold.

mermaidsariel · 03/05/2021 23:51

No. I can’t remember them all anymore and all the nuances and regional variations. I’m beyond exasperated with it all. I wear a mask in public spaces and that’s it.

Feelinghothothottoday · 03/05/2021 23:52

I wear a mask indoors. But I’m now seeing family and friends including a nine month old baby that I’ve not seen until this weekend. We travelled on the A1 and stopped at a service station where we were allowed to sit inside and eat our lunch. So there we sat, indoors with approximately 200 other people yet supposedly I can’t have my family in my house. The rules are a mess now.

Ozzie9523 · 03/05/2021 23:55

I’ve been extremely compliant throughout but I’ve started having people indoors for the last week or so for coffee/lunch.

PatrickBatemann · 03/05/2021 23:59

Nope.

PatrickBatemann · 04/05/2021 00:03

@LilyPond2

Yep, still following the rules here. 17-year-old DD also believes in keeping to the rules, but in any event is currently working so hard for her A levels that she has little time for socialising.
That's a stealth boast if I ever saw one 😂😂
Izzy24 · 04/05/2021 00:06

We are sticking to the rules but we disagree about this. It’s causing major issues between us unfortunately.

GlomOfNit · 04/05/2021 00:07

Yup. I'm not a speshul snowflake and don't think I should interpret law according to my own personal and very unique circs, and am sticking to the rules. Cases are very low across most of the UK now and I'd like to hope that's in part because enough other people out there also don't think that they're Special.

PatrickBatemann · 04/05/2021 00:08

@GlomOfNit

Yup. I'm not a speshul snowflake and don't think I should interpret law according to my own personal and very unique circs, and am sticking to the rules. Cases are very low across most of the UK now and I'd like to hope that's in part because enough other people out there also don't think that they're Special.
God, I love people that throw around the word snowflake like it's some sort of insult 🤣🤣 laughable.
mermaidsariel · 04/05/2021 00:11

@GlomOfNit

Yup. I'm not a speshul snowflake and don't think I should interpret law according to my own personal and very unique circs, and am sticking to the rules. Cases are very low across most of the UK now and I'd like to hope that's in part because enough other people out there also don't think that they're Special.
What a spiteful post.
toolatetooearly · 04/05/2021 00:13

(a) you've spelt special wrong you fool
(b) snowflakes are unique and beautiful

Spekoppar · 04/05/2021 00:14

Yes we are, and I’m not aware of any friends or family who aren’t.

I get why people are ‘making their own risk assessments’, the problem is individual risk assessments are very different to public health risk assessments which are far more relevant in a pandemic.

RaiseTheBeastie · 04/05/2021 00:16

No, and we haven't for a couple of weeks now.

We've visited relatives, relatives have visited us, indoors. Ds1 had a sleepover at a friend's on Friday and ds2 went to a friends for tea after school last week.

I don't even know what the current rules are and don't care to find out.

NEVERENDINGST0RY · 04/05/2021 00:32

Yes, following all still. I have broken the rules once in the last year and that was at Christmas. We had nobody here Christmas day (due to work) but SIL & her 2 DC came to us for dinner on Christmas eve instead.

OloBo · 04/05/2021 01:29

Yes. I obviously don’t believe there is any significant personal risk to not doing, but I have all the way through that with everyone having a different view, the only way this works as a society is if we move as one, not picking and choosing the rules. It’s also what we’ve been trying hard to demonstrate to our kids, so we’ll see it through.

Blubellwood · 04/05/2021 02:34

Yes and I feel like a bit of mug for consistently protecting the people who think they’re too good to. We all struggle.

Topseyt · 04/05/2021 02:43

No. The rules, especially no visitors in hospitals, contributed to me not being able to go to the hospital and spend my dying Dad's very last night with him. I was looking after my almost equally vulnerable mother at the time.

I'd been sort of compliant for much of the time before my Dad's final decline, but yes, I did go to spend time with my parents as he became more and more ill. Stayed in their house to help out too. I'm glad I did that. I don't regret it and would do it again.

It does colour my view of the rules, I'm afraid. Fuck them.

1122bucklemyshoe · 04/05/2021 02:56

No. Haven't followed the rules strictly since July/August last year. We did from March 2020 till then.

Mask, keeping a distance etc, fine, but being apart from family and friends was becoming extremely detrimental to me and my kids so I decided to see like minded people.

Not caught covid end neither have the people I've regularly spent time with. Luck? Possibly. But I don regret it and would do it again.

Topseyt · 04/05/2021 03:34

@1122bucklemyshoe

No. Haven't followed the rules strictly since July/August last year. We did from March 2020 till then.

Mask, keeping a distance etc, fine, but being apart from family and friends was becoming extremely detrimental to me and my kids so I decided to see like minded people.

Not caught covid end neither have the people I've regularly spent time with. Luck? Possibly. But I don regret it and would do it again.

Same here really. I've only been outwardly compliant because I am not a big socialiser, so big social gatherings aren't my scene.

I've seen my close family though. I needed to when it became clear the direction things were taking so last summer I just did it. If I hadn't I would certainly never have seen my lovely Dad alive again.

I'd do it again too.