Anyone not want things to go back to how they were before?

[UntamedWisteria]

We are a family of 4 & will see my parents outside on Easter Sunday which I am really looking forward to.

But I don't want to see anyone else. DH has just texted some neighbours & suggested meeting up with them over Easter as well. I just don't want to, and think he should have checked with me first. I'm not ready for this yet.

I like a lot of people in the hospitality industry can’t wait to get back to normal.

Would you say the same if you hadn’t had an income for over a year

I think there isna difference between "not wanting" and not ready... fine if your not ready but your husband maybe... can you not suggest he goes on his own... you can't expect after lives have been restricted for a year, for your husband to not want to socialise once the rules have been relaxed.

You don't have to see anyone. Just say no. But hiding away forever is not healthy and it will not do you any good in the long term.

Personally, I want everything to go back to how it was in 2019. This is not living.

I can't wait for things to go back to how they were before! The only thing I think is better is more options to WFH.

I don't see the link between your post and the thread title. If you don't want to see people, then don't. You've always had that option and always will. Just make an excuse.

As for me, I can't wait to get my old life back as much as possible.

Absolutely cannot wait to get back to normal for many reasons. However, you'll always have the option to not see people if you don't want to!

Personally, I want everything to go back to how it was in 2019. This is not living.

Me too. Would rather die than spend another year like this.

No one is forcing you to go back to pre Covid normal. If you don't want to see people, don't. But some of us would like the option thank you.

I think there are plenty of people who are enjoying not having to do obligatory trips to unpleasant relatives that really they should say no to but don’t out of duty.

@ChristinaYang10

I think there are plenty of people who are enjoying not having to do obligatory trips to unpleasant relatives that really they should say no to but don’t out of duty.

Well maybe they need to grow a backbone then.

DH doesn't understand.

He doesn't understand that you don't want to meet up with people? How is it even possible not to be able to understand that?

@UntamedWisteria

DH doesn't understand.

Then you've got a problem. One which has nothing to do with lockdown or lack of lockdown.

I can't wait to get back to normal.
This is shit.

@FlyingBurrito

He doesn't understand that you don't want to meet up with people? How is it even possible not to be able to understand that?

Whilst I'm looking forward to spending time with people I care about, i.e. socially and family, I'm really hoping that the aftermath of covid gives us all more scope to avoid close contact with strangers and people we don't care about.

I'd love it if the expectation and social pressure for handshakes and hugging virtual strangers never came back. I'd love not having to spend an hour with my head stuck in someone's sweaty armpit on a crush loaded train. I'd love to have more "personal" space in aircrafts, sports stadiums, theatres, shops, pubs and restaurants rather than being packed in like sardines (and yes, I would be prepared to pay more money for more space!).

My ex used to love socialising and we used to have to compromise, whereas the current Mr Smiley hates company even more than me. Can’t wait to get back to our anti social normal life though!

I'm glad for the incessant touching to stop. I don't want to be in a crowd again (will make an exception if the Scooter event goes ahead but that's it).

I think I'm out of the habit of restaurants now. The only things I personally want back are hairdressers, gyms and beautician.

Everybody's different, we all want our own things, and that's ok.

OP, you don't have to socialise if you don't want to. Your husband does, let him. Tell him not to plan your calendar without checking with you first.

I'd love to have more "personal" space in aircrafts, sports stadiums, theatres, shops, pubs and restaurants rather than being packed in like sardines (and yes, I would be prepared to pay more money for more space!).

You've always had the option to buy 2 seats - or upgrade to a more expensive class - in "aircrafts, sports stadiums, theatres" if the proxmity of your fellow human beings bothers you that much.

Perhaps your DH doesn't want to see your parents but he is because you do. Perhaps he just wants to see another adult that isn't his family of 4 or in-laws.

Perhaps you will have a great conversation with the neighbours at Easter.

We are a family of 4 and if there were 3 other people I would choose to be trapped in a house with over the entire winter I honestly couldn't ask for better. But, and it's a big but, god just someone else, another adult (preferably a female one from my finite list) but would to take anything right now.

Still inviting another set of adults over once over Easter is far from not wanting to return to how things were.

Tell him you're pissed off. He should have checked with you, you want to see just the people you want. Let him know how you now feel or what you want.

He does want to see my parents, he gets on great with them.

His are sadly no longer around ( i.e. dead)

The neighbours he wants to meet up with are not particularly close friends.

@UntamedWisteria

The neighbours he wants to meet up with are not particularly close friends.

So let him meet up with them if he wants. No reason for you to join him if you would prefer not to.

I guess what I am feeling is this sense of social obligation returning with our freedom.

It's difficult to reconcile.

My parents are 100 miles away. I would very much like to be able to travel down and stay over with them tyvm.