Anyone not want things to go back to how they were before?

[UntamedWisteria]

We are a family of 4 & will see my parents outside on Easter Sunday which I am really looking forward to.

But I don't want to see anyone else. DH has just texted some neighbours & suggested meeting up with them over Easter as well. I just don't want to, and think he should have checked with me first. I'm not ready for this yet.

I suggest you read all my posts @Shopliftersoftheworldunite and then maybe you won't call me a dopey cunt.

It was more of a ‘general you’ rather than specifically aimed at you in particular.

Your husband is obviously not content to restrict socialising to your family unit and is keen to resume normal life - you should be encouraging this rather than whinging on mumsnet - it’s controlling and borderline abusive to want to stop this. I would leave my partner if he had such a reaction to me wanting to spend time with a neighbour after a year of extremely restricted socialising.

You still haven't read my posts have you?

I have actually. And my point still stands. You think your husband should check in with you before he arranges things socially with your neighbours and posted on mumsnet to complain about this. I’m with your husband on this - he should be able to socialise with whoever he wants without your permission. Poor bloke is probably losing his mind with boredom and a neighbour at Easter seems like the perfect person to socialise with as restrictions lift a little (staying local, able to be flexible about whether it’s outside or not, everyone can use their own loos).

Yes, I think he should check with me before he arranges things which he expects me to attend and arranges on behalf of all of us.

He can and does socialise with whoever he wants to and that's absolutely fine with me.

@UntamedWisteria

Yes, I think he should check with me before he arranges things which he expects me to attend and arranges on behalf of all of us.

He can and does socialise with whoever he wants to and that's absolutely fine with me.

But that's got nothing to do with lockdown lifting, does it?

If your husband repeatedly does this sort of thing, you're going to have to deal with it. And I'd say something similar to all those posters going on about how awful it is that everyone is (supposedly) so desperate for their company that they harass them into compliance.

If you feel 'pressured' by others to be social when you'd rather not be, you're just going to have to be prepared to say 'no' and deal with the consequences. Lockdown is neither here nor there really.

Op I have developed severe anxiety problems due to COVID & the restrictions, and the thought of going out/ socialising fills me with dread!
My DS2 was born in December 2019 so just before the first lockdown and I think it's stemmed from that tbh (keeping the kids safe)
Do you suffer with anxiety at all op?
Everyone I know can't wait for the restrictions to come to an end but it makes me feel a little uneasy

I want it all back but to be still allowed to work from home. I know its not going to happen but that would be my ideal.

@saffysue

I absolutely agree OP. I love not having to constantly field requests to meet up with people and figure out how to politely say no.

I don't want to cut friends out of my life entirely so it isn't as simple as just saying no all the time as they would understandably give up on me.

In an ideal world I would see friends occasionally for an hour or two, which is basically what I'm getting from Zoom calls but with the added advantage that I don't have to worry about the travel or hosting.

I don't want to drive for hours and stay at a friends for the night, that just isn't an enjoyable way for me to spend a weekend and I don't know how to tell my faraway friends without sounding rude.

Wow Saffysue, you could be me! My husband can't wait to socialise again and had invited 2 couples for an Easter BBQ. Yes it will be lovely to see them but the thought of hosting and all the effort to tidy the house, lay on food & drink etc is really off-putting. Hopefully my husband will do most of the work and he's good like that.

Ditto holidays, not fussed about those either - expense, hate packing and travelling and disruption of my daily routine. My poor husband can't wait though!

And as for travelling for hours to stay over with friends, I agree it does put a damper on my weekends (though lovely to catch up with them). But funnily enough I've kind of got used to a pared-down social life as long as I can have a few zoom meetings / phone calls etc. Also having to work helps as I'm interacting with people regularly.

My real things I can't wait to have back are open shops, restaurants, hairdressers and beauticians.

I love the streets being quiet. Not good fit t everyone but it made me realise how overcrowded everything is most of the time

Streets might have been quiet in the first Lockdown but they are certainly not quiet now