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Will lots just say 'stuff it' come the 23rd?

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JuneSummer · 11/03/2021 23:22

It'll soon be a year since lockdown was first called and me and DH have been watching lots of TV coverage over the last few days. It's just dawned on us this week that we have now not seen our parents for a year, the DC haven't hugged their grandparents, we haven't been for any days out as a family, DC1 hasn't had a single uni class in person. The list goes on.

DH and I are now quickly coming to the conclusion that we just cannot and will not go on living like this any longer as a family. Particularly when there seems to be no end in sight if you listen to people like Chris Whitty and Christina Pagel (who was wanting masks and social distancing for the foreseeable future last night on the news).

Both sets of parents are in their mid 60s and have been vaccinated. We are now strongly minded to visit both at the beginning of April and allow them to see their DGC.

I suspect we will not be alone. Will lots of people simply say 'no more' upon realising they've spent a year of their lives not living?

OP posts:
Wondermule · 16/03/2021 19:13

@MercyBooth

Anyone else watching Channel 4 news?
No, why?
ilovesooty · 16/03/2021 19:14

@BonnieDundee

Surely you must recognise for a lot of people a year is all they can do?
It hasn't been a year without any elements of relief whatsoever.

And there are some people who could abide by the restrictions for a few more weeks but don't want to.

Colourfulowls · 16/03/2021 19:17

How do we know it's "just a few more weeks"?

How can we be expected to trust a word they say?

They changed Christmas plans for everybody with 2 days' notice.

MercyBooth · 16/03/2021 19:17

@Wondermule

twitter.com/RickOShea54321/status/1371901067320000514?s=20 screenshot in tweet

Delatron · 16/03/2021 19:20

It’s not a few more weeks. It’s two more months until people can see family who live far away.

BonnieDundee · 16/03/2021 19:26

It hasn't been a year without any elements of relief whatsoever.

Foe some it pretty much has.

I cant believe some people want more and more and more. While calling it a few weeks. It is NOT a few weeks. It is.a few months and that is not guaranteed either

StarCat2020 · 16/03/2021 19:29

What do you do if you are totally fed up of this but have nothing to look forward to even when restrictions are lifted?

Even if every restriction was lifted tomorrow nothing would change for me and knowing that is really making me feel hopeless.

Wondermule · 16/03/2021 19:32

@StarCat2020

What do you do if you are totally fed up of this but have nothing to look forward to even when restrictions are lifted?

Even if every restriction was lifted tomorrow nothing would change for me and knowing that is really making me feel hopeless.

Why don’t you have anything to look forward to?
Delatron · 16/03/2021 19:32

In two weeks we can meet as a group of 6 outdoors. Woo hoo. I’m pretty sure many have been doing this for a while.
It’s two months until indoor meetings can take place. That’s too far away.

Colourfulowls · 16/03/2021 19:41

I watched the series about the AIDS pandemic. Guaranteed death sentence for pretty much all victims at the time. I know it isn't as contagious as Covid, but Covid is a guaranteed death sentence for very, very few.
Even the elderly are statistically more likely to survive than not.
Yet, it is illegal to see your own family or non-cohabiting partner indoors or to hug them. Illegal to hug your own parents FFS.
People being told they were "allowed" to see their own family at Christmas for 3 days, only to have it snatched away at the last minute.

Posters on here asking if they are "allowed" to go for a walk outside with their Mum and other posters screaming at them, saying how 'selfish' they are.
It must be the most overused word on here.
Who'd have thought this could ever happen? It's not that some people are "a bit fed up" after a year, it's that they are likely suicidal, can't you realise that? If I couldn't see loved ones for a year, I can't imagine what sort of mental state I would be in.

BonnieDundee · 16/03/2021 19:53

Agree. The minimisation of what we have been asked to do is gaslighting at its finest.

You worry about people who have expressed that they are struggling and get told they are selfish. It's a really shitty thing to do.

MercyBooth · 16/03/2021 20:02

From my HA

From Monday 29 March we are planning to resume routine repairs inside homes as well as non-essential inspections and surveys
This change is in line with the UK Government roadmap on easing lockdown restrictions, with the 29 March being the point at which the Government’s ‘stay at home’ guidance changes to ‘stay local’. Our resumption of routine repairs inside the home is dependent on the Government’s conditions being met by this date.
We took the decision to go above and beyond Government guidance by pausing routine repairs inside the home in January following the huge surge in Covid-19 cases around the country.
While we understand the frustration this can cause for those of you waiting for a repair to be completed, we chose to put the health of our residents and staff first by reducing the risk of unnecessary contact and transmission of the virus.
We look forward to a return to a more normal way of working if all goes as planned, however it will take time for us to work through the thousands of routine repairs delayed by the pandemic. We will, of course, provide you with the earliest possible appointment although it is likely that you will experience a longer wait than normal.
We’d like to thank you for your patience and understanding during lockdown, particularly those customers whose planned appointment has been rescheduled more than once.
Please note, if you’ve already reported a repair there is no need to contact us again. If we haven’t already done so we’ll be in touch soon to confirm a date for the job, when both staff and materials are available.

StarCat2020 · 16/03/2021 20:22

Why don’t you have anything to look forward to?
I have no job and no money, no friends and after years of being emotionally abused by my mother I have no family either.

BonnieDundee · 16/03/2021 20:33

That sounds very tough Starcat Flowers

DareIask · 16/03/2021 20:33

@BonnieDundee I don't want more. I just agree we need more. To be sure. So we don't need to do this again.

And yes it is ok to struggle. We're all struggling. It's shite. But throwing in the towel now would be downright ridiculous.

BonnieDundee · 16/03/2021 20:38

Many people dont have any.more in them. And dont necessarily believe that another.2.months will be that. 3 weeks to flatten the curve? Get the better of this in 12 weeks. All over by Christmas. You can have time off at Christmas. No you can't

DareIask · 16/03/2021 20:42

I agree all that was wrong. But learning from those wrongs tells me we need to get infections down. Having the vaccine puts us in a different place entirely from the random lockdowns of before.

FiveToFour · 16/03/2021 21:18

@Delatron

It’s not a few more weeks. It’s two more months until people can see family who live far away.
Sad times.My closest family are abroad and my parents are dead.All this " how do you exist without b
FiveToFour · 16/03/2021 21:20

Bother - was about to say that all this "how do you exist without being able to see your family" is beginning to get me down.
Its horrible,but it's perfectly possible.

StarCat2020 · 16/03/2021 21:23

@BonnieDundee
Thank you

sleepwouldbenice · 16/03/2021 21:24

@BonnieDundee

Many people dont have any.more in them. And dont necessarily believe that another.2.months will be that. 3 weeks to flatten the curve? Get the better of this in 12 weeks. All over by Christmas. You can have time off at Christmas. No you can't
This didn't happen It was always clear this was a longer term issue. You just chose to ignore that Just like you have ignored the reality of what would happen if we didn't have restrictions. Because it suits your narrative
BonnieDundee · 16/03/2021 21:30

Many people dont haveany.morein them. And dont necessarily believe that another.2.months will be that. 3 weeks to flatten the curve? Get the better of this in 12 weeks. All over by Christmas. You can have time off at Christmas. No you can't

This didn't happen
It was always clear this was a longer term issue. You just chose to ignore that
Just like you have ignored the reality of what would happen if we didn't have restrictions. Because it suits your narrative

All of that was said by government/ advisers. It was their narrative, not mine

And you are ignoring the harms that come from lockdown

Unmellowbirds · 16/03/2021 21:32

@FiveToFour my sympathies to you, that must be so very difficult.

I am lucky to still have my parents although at the other end of the country, so am reliant on the behaviour of others to ensure that restrictions are eased in accordance with the roadmap and not delayed. No idea when I'll manage to see my brother and family, who live abroad.

So I am also finding this thread depressing, albeit for slightly different reasons.

MrsHookey · 16/03/2021 21:46

Some of you who aren't following guidelines will be responsible for other people's deaths.

Wondermule · 16/03/2021 21:49

@MrsHookey

Some of you who aren't following guidelines will be responsible for other people's deaths.
As you will be, inadvertently, if you promote lockdown and force more people into poverty.
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