Will lots just say 'stuff it' come the 23rd?

JuneSummer · 2021-03-11T23:22:45+00:00

It'll soon be a year since lockdown was first called and me and DH have been watching lots of TV coverage over the last few days. It's just dawned on us this week that we have now not seen our parents for a year, the DC haven't hugged their grandparents, we haven't been for any days out as a family, DC1 hasn't had a single uni class in person. The list goes on. DH and I are now quickly coming to the conclusion that we just cannot and will not go on living like this any longer as a family. Particularly when there seems to be no end in sight if you listen to people like Chris Whitty and Christina Pagel (who was wanting masks and social distancing for the foreseeable future last night on the news). Both sets of parents are in their mid 60s and have been vaccinated. We are now strongly minded to visit both at the beginning of April and allow them to see their DGC. I suspect we will not be alone. Will lots of people simply say 'no more' upon realising they've spent a year of their lives not living?

Mumblechum0 · 11/03/2021 23:29

I think a lot of people are already doing that. Most of my friends have been bending the rules, eg having a friend in the house for coffee rather than sit on a wet bench in the freezing cold if they’ve both been vaccinated.

HazeyJaneII · 11/03/2021 23:33

No, because my medically vulnerable ds has spent most of the year shielding, he won't be vaccinated, and whilst it has not been easy, we have made the best of it that we can.

StylishMummy · 11/03/2021 23:33

We've said 'fuck it' since all our parents and grandparents have been vaccinated. I'm CEV and have had 1st vaccinate. We're hosting 4 households for Easter weekend in the house, cannot wait to have the family back together. DC are going to grandparents for sleepovers, we're having friends round and meeting friends and family for walks and at the park. I genuinely don't know a single person who's now following 'the rules'.

sleepwouldbenice · 12/03/2021 00:46

Still are people following the rules. Great to know that some people that we’ve been trying to protect are throwing caution to the wind now they are less vulnerable and not giving a damn about anyone else.....

KatyNonRoyal · 12/03/2021 01:14

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ilovesooty · 12/03/2021 01:46

@StylishMummy

We've said 'fuck it' since all our parents and grandparents have been vaccinated. I'm CEV and have had 1st vaccinate. We're hosting 4 households for Easter weekend in the house, cannot wait to have the family back together. DC are going to grandparents for sleepovers, we're having friends round and meeting friends and family for walks and at the park. I genuinely don't know a single person who's now following 'the rules'.

I hope none of your children or their friends carry the virus into their schools.

Youreatragedystartingtohappen · 12/03/2021 06:11

@StylishMummy

We've said 'fuck it' since all our parents and grandparents have been vaccinated. I'm CEV and have had 1st vaccinate. We're hosting 4 households for Easter weekend in the house, cannot wait to have the family back together. DC are going to grandparents for sleepovers, we're having friends round and meeting friends and family for walks and at the park. I genuinely don't know a single person who's now following 'the rules'.

The selfishness you show and your attitude staggers me.

I'm a secondary teacher and am still following the rules because I want schools to stay open and limit my risk of transmission to those I care about. Comments like yours and people like you make me reconsider why I'm bothering

Moomoolandmoomooland · 12/03/2021 06:15

I have been following the rules and have still been able to see my parents and had family days out in the last 12 months. I think anyone saying 'Fuck it' now after 12 months has probably been a bit overzealous in their interpretation of the rules TBH.

motherrunner · 12/03/2021 06:19

@StylishMummy

We've said 'fuck it' since all our parents and grandparents have been vaccinated. I'm CEV and have had 1st vaccinate. We're hosting 4 households for Easter weekend in the house, cannot wait to have the family back together. DC are going to grandparents for sleepovers, we're having friends round and meeting friends and family for walks and at the park. I genuinely don't know a single person who's now following 'the rules'.

This makes me so angry.

I’m mid 40s so not vaccinated. I have been following the rules as I’m a secondary teachers so in a workings day I have hundreds of contacts.

I haven’t seen my mum for over a year as her nursing home went into lockdown and never reopened. She can now have one contact but we have decided that will be my WFH brother.

This was always my fear as a teacher going back before a full vaccination of the adult population. The people vaccinated declaring themselves ‘safe’, but the MAJORITY of the population have not been protected.

(And please don’t talk about ‘risk of death’, I’m sure just been ill and hospitalised is enough to worry my children. Plus if I’m ill I won’t be teaching)

VashtaNerada · 12/03/2021 06:19

I thought most people were following the rules - I suspect those who aren’t are keeping it quiet. As a teacher it’s very interesting to hear what the children tell me sometimes though!

BonnieDundee · 12/03/2021 06:24

YANBU. We cant go on like this indefinitely. It isn't selfish IMO to want to see family when you have given up a year of your life to restrictions. I know I cant do much longer. Struggling big time

HazeyJaneII · 12/03/2021 06:29

Oh well that's depressing...
Soon I'll have to send ds to school with families like StylishMummy's, putting him at risk, and people like KatyNonRoyal think the whole thing is one big hilarious joke.
woop woop

ShadierThanaPalmTree · 12/03/2021 06:29

As I have a child under 1 I'm not sure if I am breaking the rules or not, but my sister and I had covid tests (they offer symptomless ones in my area) and when they came back negative decided to meet up, let her cuddle niece etc. As long as we aren't putting anyone at risk I don't see the problem to be honest.

Chickenriceandpeas · 12/03/2021 06:29

Does mumsnet have a weirdly high proportion or teachers? About half the posters on this thread already are secondary school teachers...

I’ve already said ‘fuck it’ to a few things. Rates round here are 0.05% of the population. Chances of that being me, without symptoms, is fucking tiny. Couldn’t give a shit anymore. Haven’t been able to work for 12 months now, not entitled to govt help. I’m not waiting to be told to hug people, I’ll bloody do it if I want to!

actiongirl1978 · 12/03/2021 06:32

We saw our parents (both sets a good drive away) in the summer and autumn last year. DC hugged them. They stayed over and we went to their house. Why haven't you seen your parents for a year?

OverTheRainbow88 · 12/03/2021 06:35

It seems very shitty that the person who is CEV , who we’ve all stayed home to protect is saying fuck it as they and their close relatives have been vaccinated....! Not too long to go in till all adults have been offered a vaccine, I’m not going to think fuck it but will see people outside and within the guidelines

Lulu1919 · 12/03/2021 06:37

@VashtaNerada

I thought most people were following the rules - I suspect those who aren’t are keeping it quiet. As a teacher it’s very interesting to hear what the children tell me sometimes though!

Snap!!! And so many lovely new haircuts in my class....when I asked if mummy did it,the answer was mainly no ..the man/ lady came to our house !!!! Talk sleepovers at cousins houses ... Visiting granny for a Big birthday 400 miles away

Children tell all !!!!

OverTheRainbow88 · 12/03/2021 06:40

As a teacher it’s very interesting to hear what the children tell me sometimes though!

I wouldn’t take it all at face value though if they are young! Even pre covid my year 7 tutor group would talk about their summer holidays... list all these places they went to etc and I knew none of it was true.

When I drop my 4 year old off last week I heard him saying ah we’ve been on holiday this weekend... whereas it was sunny and we got an ice cream in a park!!

Stellaris22 · 12/03/2021 06:44

No. Because I am completely and utterly fed up of lockdowns and restrictions and want a sense of normality. That'll never happen when guidance is ignored as everyone thinks they are the only ones suffering.

Fed up of them continuing and those who 'give up' being the ones who complain the loudest about restrictions.

nonono1 · 12/03/2021 06:44

I’ve already said ‘fuck it’ to a few things. Rates round here are 0.05% of the population. Chances of that being me, without symptoms, is fucking tiny. Couldn’t give a shit anymore.

Exactly, the chances of catching it are minuscule and my parents have now been vaccinated anyway. Why should we put our lives on hold any longer?

Emski76 · 12/03/2021 07:01

Always great to hear people thinking f* it to the lockdown rules. I’m a primary teacher who’s whole family caught Covid from school as well as several colleagues and their whole families. Still suffering two months later. It isn’t all about deaths from Covid. For many it’s not just like a cold. I haven’t seen my mum for months because I work in a school and fear passing it onto her.

BigGreen · 12/03/2021 07:05

We're in the same position as you OP in not having seen our parents for over a year. What do you want from this thread exactly? Hosting 4 households indoors holds higher risks for transmitting the virus. If all U.K. people decided to do this we'd likely have a third wave pretty quickly.

TheShudderingDentist · 12/03/2021 07:07

@KatyNonRoyal so achingly try hard. Cringing a bit for you.

I’m still following the rules, and will continue to do so. We are so close now, I am not going to put that in jeopardy.

capercaillie · 12/03/2021 07:11

We’re still following rules. The only time we haven’t was a family medical emergency when my father had to go into hospital and then come back - we needed to help my mum pick him up so met up then in houses. I am gobsmacked by the amount of not following guidance on this thread - also work in a school and also really want my children to stay in school this term. We are now not seeing my parents and convalescent father as children now in contact with many more people. As a society, we need to prioritise children’s education.

HalfShrunkMoreToGo · 12/03/2021 07:17

This 'fuck it' attitude pisses me off so much.

Me and DH are not vaccinated and well down the list to get it, we've stuck to the rules, WFH for a year, homeschooling a 5/6 yr old, not seen family and friends.

We live in Leicester so have literally been in one form of lockdown or additional restrictions from the start with no household mixing allowed indoors at any point during that year.

Now that those people who we have sacrificed to protect are getting the vaccine, they feel it's ok to say 'fuck it' and go off and do all the things we are not able to do because we're following the rules to continue to protect them.

Everyone who fucks off the rules is a selfish git.