Will lots just say 'stuff it' come the 23rd?

[JuneSummer]

It'll soon be a year since lockdown was first called and me and DH have been watching lots of TV coverage over the last few days. It's just dawned on us this week that we have now not seen our parents for a year, the DC haven't hugged their grandparents, we haven't been for any days out as a family, DC1 hasn't had a single uni class in person. The list goes on.

DH and I are now quickly coming to the conclusion that we just cannot and will not go on living like this any longer as a family. Particularly when there seems to be no end in sight if you listen to people like Chris Whitty and Christina Pagel (who was wanting masks and social distancing for the foreseeable future last night on the news).

Both sets of parents are in their mid 60s and have been vaccinated. We are now strongly minded to visit both at the beginning of April and allow them to see their DGC.

I suspect we will not be alone. Will lots of people simply say 'no more' upon realising they've spent a year of their lives not living?

Broadly agree with you op. I’m being good generally but likely to relax a bit soon with parents (they had their second dose yesterday).
However I’m puzzled that you haven’t seen anyone for a year. We def had a brief period in the summer when we saw other people quite a bit and it was IIRC perfectly legal.

@Frazzled2207 some areas have had harsh restrictions for longer, some all year.

@Racoonworld
I am absolutely aware I am in greater Manchester we only had about a month with no extra restrictions! Nowhere has had it worse than us than Leicester

@actiongirl1978

We saw our parents (both sets a good drive away) in the summer and autumn last year. DC hugged them. They stayed over and we went to their house. Why haven't you seen your parents for a year?

Our family is in an area which has been in local lockdown since the summer. I think there was a two week window where we could legally have seen them but due to work commitments etc it didn't happen. If we had known that would be the only chance we would have made it happen but we had no idea.

Most people I know said 'stuff it' from around May 2020 in terms of household mixing indoors! Personally I'm not comfortable with it at all so haven't joined in and people have stopped asking me thankfully...

We’re starting to break the rules. Having a friend inside the house rather than standing in the pissing rain outside. Cases in our region are some of the lowest in the country - less than 10 per 100,000 and our immediate area hasn’t had any cases for weeks. How are we going to catch and spread a disease that almost no one has?

@Stellaris22

No. Because I am completely and utterly fed up of lockdowns and restrictions and want a sense of normality. That'll never happen when guidance is ignored as everyone thinks they are the only ones suffering.

Fed up of them continuing and those who 'give up' being the ones who complain the loudest about restrictions.

This exactly.

What was the point of doing it at all if you're going to just do as you please now, just because you're fed up?

It’s not really saying ‘fuck it’, it’s assessing the risk and using judgment - there were 50 cases in my city last week. 50. It’s ludicrous that life should continue to be on hold with that level of infection in the community.

I think there's a difference between assessing the risk of seeing your family members and occasionally your friends to having massive parties with 20+ people crammed in your house drinking and hugging and talking.

The people who complain and moan about others seeing their family are the same kind of people who would be quite happy for this endless nightmare to just go on forever and ever. Some people are just absolute gluttons for misery.

The people who complain and moan about others seeing their family are the same kind of people who would be quite happy for this endless nightmare to just go on forever and ever. Some people are just absolute gluttons for misery

That is utter bullshit @StormcloakNord
You're saying that to make yourself feel better for breaking the rules.

I've stuck to the rules, and I will continue to do so because it is the right thing to do, not because I'm a "glutton for misery".

I caught covid despite following the rules. When I got my positive test, I was so pleased that I'd been sticking to the rules, as I hadn't put anyone else at unnecessary risk when I was probably contagious just before the positive test.

The people who complain and moan about others seeing their family are the same kind of people who would be quite happy for this endless nightmare to just go on forever and ever. Some people are just absolute gluttons for misery

You left out the bit about having no friends or social life which usually gets wheeled out too.

It’s kind of a sneering, insidious type of bullying used against people who are trying to do the right thing.

I hate these threads so much. It makes me so angry to see so many people happy to disregard the rules, and makes me feel much sadder about all the things me and my family are missing out on, because we have belief in social responsibility.

I will continue to follow the rules, even though I've had covid so most likely won't catch it again any time soon.

@Snookie00

We’re starting to break the rules. Having a friend inside the house rather than standing in the pissing rain outside. Cases in our region are some of the lowest in the country - less than 10 per 100,000 and our immediate area hasn’t had any cases for weeks. How are we going to catch and spread a disease that almost no one has?

How can you still not get this, a year on? One in three people are asymptomatic. So unless you're having mass testing in your area, there will be people who have it and don't know. Also, it is most infectious just before symptoms appear. Yes, the risk is lower in your area than others, but that does not mean there's no risk, and as we know, the numbers can quickly snowball.

Do you understand that some people have just had enough and are completely broken. It's been a year surely you get this by now

Tell the virus that people have had enough now @BonnieDundee, I'm sure that will solve the problem.

Everyone is fed up. There is light at the end of the tunnel. People breaking restrictions now will only delay the reduction in restrictions.

@StormcloakNord

I think there's a difference between assessing the risk of seeing your family members and occasionally your friends to having massive parties with 20+ people crammed in your house drinking and hugging and talking.

The people who complain and moan about others seeing their family are the same kind of people who would be quite happy for this endless nightmare to just go on forever and ever. Some people are just absolute gluttons for misery.

Erm no. I would happily life go back to normal tomorrow thanks very much. I am devastated that we haven’t been able to see family and friends and being in Manchester it’s been pretty fucking awful for such a long time. Still doesn’t mean I think I am entitled to put others at risk though.

@StylishMummy

We've said 'fuck it' since all our parents and grandparents have been vaccinated. I'm CEV and have had 1st vaccinate. We're hosting 4 households for Easter weekend in the house, cannot wait to have the family back together. DC are going to grandparents for sleepovers, we're having friends round and meeting friends and family for walks and at the park. I genuinely don't know a single person who's now following 'the rules'.

Well done. Idiotic behaviour.

I wish to fuck people like you would be made to work on a Covid ward

They may not shut schools again but if numbers go up then everything else is going to be delayed for opening. Longer without non essential shops pubs cinemas etc. Less chance that holidays can happen.
I want a holiday, I want to see Dune at the cinema and window shop and I want to be able to do my driving test.
The more people who say fuck it the more the numbers rise the longer it takes to get back to normal.

I agree that more and more people are just going to stop paying attention. I’m alone & pregnant and it’s been really hard not to just say f*ck it and drive myself some place nice for a walk (on my own) rather than rattling around a house when literally millions are now mixing at school (and school gates)

But - I’ll be the first to complain when my home birth plan goes back out the window when infection rates rise again. And lost months of my life (pre-Covid) waiting for an operation - so I really feel for all the people whose operations will be delayed because of it ...

And people seem to forget that the vaccine just stops you getting as sick- it doesn’t stop you passing it on... I appreciate that the point of lockdown is to keep hospital admissions low - but equally, many people are not eligible for the vaccine (never mind just waiting for their turn- they may just never be able to get it). Are we just going to shove all the non-eligible people under a bus? I’m not saying everyone needs to lockdown forever but ... equally- the vaccine is NOT going to stop infection rates rising and that IS going to put unvaccinated people at risk.

I’m significantly less sympathetic if you choose to not get a vaccine- but as someone who has been told it’s unlikely they will ever be able to get one, it’s lovely to hear that people are happy for rates to rise...

@Snookie00

We’re starting to break the rules. Having a friend inside the house rather than standing in the pissing rain outside. Cases in our region are some of the lowest in the country - less than 10 per 100,000 and our immediate area hasn’t had any cases for weeks. How are we going to catch and spread a disease that almost no one has?

In the same way it started with one person bring it to the U.K....

Still following the rules for no indoor meet ups, but I do meet friends outside for a walk one at a time as I think risk is minimal outside if you also socially distance.

My teenage child is going to have their second lockdown over Easter. No party. Again.

My older DC is also going to have their second lockdown birthday this year. 21st birthday last year. No party then. No party this year. Poor child had no uni summer ball, couldn’t say goodbye to uni friends in person, had a pitiful online graduation and has had two job offers withdrawn as they get the job when restrictions ease and then it’s taken away again for lockdown.

They stay at home and they abide by the rules because they want the R numbers to fall so that they can get on with their lives when they can.

They are more mature than a lot of posters on this thread.

I have yet to see anyone say they love restrictions and lockdowns and it's utter rubbish. If you truly think people following rules and getting upset at the 'fuck it' attitude want restrictions to continue then you're deluded. Grow up.

Lots of people already are. My child has been invited for play dates at friends houses. They are desperate for me to say yes but I keep saying no as it’s lockdown but I do feel like the unusual one and my child is really cross with me.

We are visiting grandparents in April. We have also visited my brother and SIL in their house (I already have a support bubble)
SIL and I are both vaccinated - DS has weekly LFTs and now my parents have both been vaccinated so yeah, we aren't going crazy but we are going to hang out indoors as a family.

It's horrible isn't it. Having to explain to a child why their friends are on play dates and they can't. Parents need to be responsible.