Page 4 | Household gatherings

daffodil10 · 2021-03-10T21:03:19+00:00

As we trail towards the next deadline, truthfully are people sticking absolutely to the no household mixing etc? Or are people sneaking round to each other's for meals etc I am sticking to it but only because my husband keeps me on the straight and narrow which is obviously the right thing to do. Just wondered?

PyjamasOClock · 10/03/2021 23:04

Thanks @XenoBitch - and you too. I'm glad you also had a friend who could look out for you.

Unmellowbirds · 10/03/2021 23:04

I'm sticking to it 100% as are my family.

It's not hard to see how the chains of transmission will start again with all the people 'just' seeing x, y & z now schools are reopening.

Which really really annoys me, as I would like schools to remain open and to see my parents and my children their grandparents.

Wellbythebloodyhell · 10/03/2021 23:07

@Numbersarefun

Stuck to the rules here. We live too far away from our families to visit (always involves at least an overnight stay). My friends are all sticking to the rules too. My son (23) and youngest daughter (19) who live with us have also followed the rules. We must be very boring but we are all wfh in various guises and so are generally busy.

Genuine question, is it geography or the rules that has meant you haven't seen your family? If your family lived round the corner and you could pop in would the answer still be the same?

NewAndImprovedNorks · 10/03/2021 23:15

I have stuck to every single rule, however bonkers it seemed and I am sad and fed up about it.

SeenYourArse · 10/03/2021 23:16

@Wellbythebloodyhell

We've seen our parents all throughout don't ever intend to stop but we've not mixed households with any friends or other family

That’s us too, our parents don’t mix with or see anyone except us and we don’t see anyone except them. It’s kept us all sane and my kids haven’t had their development or mental health too badly affected due to this as my parents have a very large and isolated property with a lot of grounds so they’ve had a great time playing out there during the various lockdowns. Getting us out but safety and they are only a few mins from us.

frasersmummy · 10/03/2021 23:17

@unmellowbirds.. I can't understand your argument.. You are sticking with it and others should so you can see your parents.

What difference does it make to you seeing your parents. If you want to see your parents but are worried.. Isolate for 10 days and then go see them.

For goodness sake life is too short to not see family for over a year.. No matter what the govt says

Unmellowbirds · 10/03/2021 23:20

@frasersmummy they live a five hours' drive away, so it's not an option.

ElephantBabies · 10/03/2021 23:22

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Tistheseason17 · 10/03/2021 23:22

I work for the NHS, following the rules saves lives.

How nice it must be for this who don't care about the rules anymore. We'll keep putting ourselves at risk front and centre like supermarket workers, teachers etc you keep justifying your needs above others.

Of course the front line will care for your selfish backsides the same as those who cared enough to follow the rules. Enjoy your sneaky indoors meet ups and fingers crossed, eh?

And I'm not "lucky" my kids were at school - they're at school because I'm critical to covid front line care - gee thanks.

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Unmellowbirds · 10/03/2021 23:24

@frasersmummy,
To address your point, my stance (not sure that I'd call it an argument) is that ongoing mixing whilst rates are still relatively high jeopardises the wider lifting of restrictions.

Ilovemypantry · 10/03/2021 23:24

@joanneg36

Nope not sticking to it anymore. To those saying ‘it’s only a few more weeks’ - it’s two more months, and that’s assuming all goes to plan.

I am seeing close family and close friends and I think people who aren’t are making the wrong cost/benefit analysis.

It will only all go to plan if everyone abides by the rules, so people like you who are mixing with family and friends will be the reason it doesn’t all go to plan.

Howtomakeevery1 · 10/03/2021 23:25

Wow - I’m amazed how selfish so many of you are. Yes I’m sure meeting friends and family is lovely but if we were all doing the the r rate would still be high.

XenoBitch · 10/03/2021 23:26

I hope they get covid

And I hope you don't fall off your moral high horse.

BackforGood · 10/03/2021 23:27

Yes, of course we are sticking to the rules.

How disappointing that so many just don't care.

Today I am mourning the loss of a young man, under 40, with no underlying health conditions that won't be coming home to his wife and two young children due to dying from the effects of this awful virus.

DitchedBitch · 10/03/2021 23:29

Christ. I'm a fucking mug.
I've not seen a soul since my husband left me just before Xmas. Literally I say hi to dog walkers and click and collect staff. That's it.
I list my jib so at home 24/7, except for the same fucking mundane walks from hone every day.
I don't know anyone local to bubble with and live so far from thkse I do know, it's not a pop out for a walk kind if trip.
I do zoom and Teams but it's not seeing people in the flesh.
Maybe I should invite some people to stay over at the weekend.

shiningstar2 · 10/03/2021 23:30

dh and I are sticking to it. Haven't seen dd sil and dgc since Christmas day. We are in a support bubble with dm who is 89 so don't want to take covid to her. It is very unfortunate because it is her 90th birthday this month and she would have had a big family party which she would have loved. Instead we r stretching a point on the rules with my db and dsil going over in the morning. When they leave we will take a little buffet and a cake over for the 3 of us. If anyone chooses to drive by we will sit her in the drive well wrapped up and they will pass their gifts to us to give to her. No-one will get out of their car. Best we can do. I will hopefully have a party for her in the summer when everything opens up.

AlexaShutUp · 10/03/2021 23:31

How disappointing that so many just don't care.

It's really disappointing.

I'm so sorry for your loss, @BackforGood - that's terribly sad.

XenoBitch · 10/03/2021 23:31

@BackforGood

Yes, of course we are sticking to the rules.

How disappointing that so many just don't care.

Today I am mourning the loss of a young man, under 40, with no underlying health conditions that won't be coming home to his wife and two young children due to dying from the effects of this awful virus.

I do care... but there are other things that are a threat that are not Covid. Like the horrible campaign says.. "look them in the eyes"... well, look them in the eyes and say their last months from terminal illness should be spent alone for "the greater good"... or tell someone with suicidal thoughts that it is for the best as they are saving grannies by staying at home alone with their torment.

DingoWings · 10/03/2021 23:32

I have 100% stuck to it although I would now go and have a cuppa in DParents garden if the weather was nicer.

frasersmummy · 10/03/2021 23:33

@Unmellowbirds yeah being so far away means you need the restrictions lifted to be able to go see your parents..

So yeah I see your point of view.
I use the word argument a lot.. Dont mean any offence by it.

RedcurrantPuff · 10/03/2021 23:34

Going to see my mum on Sunday. This is permitted within the rules and we have both had our first vaccine dose.

I have been regularly food shopping for them as they are vulnerable so seen them a few times when I have dropped off food. This is permitted. It’s been outside.

Unalome · 10/03/2021 23:34

We’re completely sticking to it. I haven’t been in my mum’s house since March last year, nor my in-laws, or any other family or friends houses either. We have a toddler, but haven’t utilised a childcare bubble.

AlexaShutUp · 10/03/2021 23:39

I do care... but there are other things that are a threat that are not Covid. Like the horrible campaign says.. "look them in the eyes"... well, look them in the eyes and say their last months from terminal illness should be spent alone for "the greater good"... or tell someone with suicidal thoughts that it is for the best as they are saving grannies by staying at home alone with their torment.

I have great sympathy for those who are terminally ill or genuinely suicidal. With regard to the latter, I believe that you are permitted to provide urgent care to someone who is vulnerable.

However, I don't believe that all of the rule breakers on this thread are terminally ill or suicidal. And even amongst those citing mental health reasons, I suspect a lot of them will be bogus - mental health has become a bit of a "get out of jail free" card for lots of people who just use it as an excuse to do whatever they like. There is a huge difference between people who are just fed up and frustrated with lockdown and those who have acute mental health needs which mean they have to get support.

ElephantBabies · 10/03/2021 23:39

@CafeMochaVodkaValiumLate

I'm past caring now. Well I'm not, but I've had friends round and seeing my parents and in laws.

I wonder if you still be past caring when you finally contract covid and pass it on to your family and friends that you're mixing with.