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Household gatherings

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daffodil10 · 10/03/2021 21:03

As we trail towards the next deadline, truthfully are people sticking absolutely to the no household mixing etc? Or are people sneaking round to each other's for meals etc

I am sticking to it but only because my husband keeps me on the straight and narrow which is obviously the right thing to do. Just wondered?

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HedgeSparrows · 10/03/2021 22:23

Great.
Well I hope no one breaking the rules has children who attend school - you would be putting me (I work as a TA) and my family at risk.

JensonsAcolyte · 10/03/2021 22:24

@Tootsey11

To those who have/are mixing. How many of you has been affected by covid directly or had someone die in their family? Im guessing not many.
We’ve had it, my elderly parents have had it, my ILs are sure they had it a year ago.

Meanwhile my teenagers have missed a vital year of college, DS’s course was supposed to be vocational so that’s a laugh, DD A levels and struggling. Younger DS hasn’t seen anyone outside the family home since Christmas and is struggling to adjust back to school.

I’m furloughed, dh meanwhile is working overtime from home which with three kids and two dogs is as fun as you’d expect. I have bipolar which was well controlled with a routine of work and self care. Hahahah to that in the past year.

I can’t get exercised about people meeting their bestie indoors. I really can’t. I’m a mask wearing, social distancing, stay at home model citizen but the whole guilt trip of ooh bet you haven’t lost anyone is nonsense at this point. It’s a virus with a 99% survival rate. I’m all for protecting the 1% but not at any cost.

Chloemol · 10/03/2021 22:31

Yes I am sticking to it, I want out of lockdown and am prepared to do my bit

Shame on others who are not

AntiHop · 10/03/2021 22:31

@secretllama

I gave up staying away from family around July last year, and from late Jan this year I've started having friends over. Just tonight I had a friend over for tea and cake, it was lovely Smile
How lovely for you. If we all behaved like you, we'd have a third wave.
AntiHop · 10/03/2021 22:32

Exactly. I'm so angry with people who are expecting others to make a sacrifice, but not do it themselves.

StellaKowalski · 10/03/2021 22:33

Don't know anyone in my personal circle that aren't seeing people now.

And I couldn't give a toss. Good on them.

Giraffaelina · 10/03/2021 22:34

@BigGreen

Seriously? I understand bending the rules a little, but how about meeting outside? We're not supposed to meet inside for 2 more months. Confused
Infuriating, isn't it? Absolutely no respect...Confused
Desmondo2016 · 10/03/2021 22:35

Had a couple of family over for lunch yesterday but that's the first time in lockdown 3. My commitment is gone lately and most people I know are starting to creep up the breaking it list. Not in major gatherings and parties way, in a stay sane way. I live in a town of around 12000 peiple with zero recorded cases since January. Its hard to stay focused in the same way when you're not seeing any effects around you, and haven't done in the whole 12 months. That's not to say I'm a non believer or a cynic, just that I've been fortunate but am starting to get tired now.

bluechameleon · 10/03/2021 22:36

I've stuck to it 100%. DH has been a bit more lax with his family.

MirandaMarple · 10/03/2021 22:38

Since the 25th March last year I have seen my Sister in my house and hers regularly. From 25th March last year we also spent every single day for 5 weeks visiting our Dad in a hospice with little to no PPE.

PennyRoyal · 10/03/2021 22:39

Another one who's stuck to the rules throughout and will continue to do so. We're getting close to the finishing line, why jeopardise it for the sake of 6-& weeks?

Elderberry84 · 10/03/2021 22:39

We will spend the Easter holidays with our in-laws, who have had their first vaccination. It is very likely my BIL and his fiance will visit at the same time. We won't be mixing with anyone else but cannot take another two months without family contact. And that's just the best case scenario, isn't it? We are just not coping. In past few months DH and DS have struggled with mental health and I have been feeling quietly suicidal. It's a shit situation and I find I'm constantly weighing up risks and worrying about what others might think, how the situation will be perceived etc. It's exhausting. I have stopped reading the news as the media seems to lurch from optimism to doom on almost an hourly basis and I find the way the media is so blatantly used to sway and manipulate public opinion really dystopian and unsettling.

That said, everyone I know, including those (like myself) who have been cautious until now, have started to crack and see a select few family members. Mumsnet is like a parallel universe in many ways.

99victoria · 10/03/2021 22:40

Going to my daughter's for Mothers Day lunch this weekend. We do childcare for them one day a week so have been in close contact anyway by virtue of caring for the kids (5 and 2). I know that strictly speaking we shouldn't be going into their house but I can't see how it's anymore of a risk than having the grandkids in our house for 9 hours a week!

CimCardashian · 10/03/2021 22:45

We’ve been sticking to the rules (DP is CEV) but there’s a chance I might be breaking them tomorrow morning! Might give my son and his friend a lift to school as the forecast is awful.

But no socialising at all. I really want to take my kids to my parents during Easter,they live 3 hours away so it wouldn’t be a day trip. We probably won’t though as I don’t think that would be allowed by then 🥲

User65412 · 10/03/2021 22:46

We haven't broken any of the rules. Just myself and my husband at home - no support bubble or anything. We haven't been indoors with our parents, friends, wider family (let alone hug) for a year. I'm pregnant as well and appreciate work keeping me safe but I've been WFH since September. I really look forward to appointments with the midwife just so I can see someone. I couldn't break the rules then go and see her and put her and other pregnant mothers at risk, though.
We live in one of the least affected areas of the UK. Most people here don't personally know of anyone that's had covid (including me).

RhubarbCustardy · 10/03/2021 22:47

Sticking to it. Makes my blood boil at the selfishness of others that don't.

Numbersarefun · 10/03/2021 22:48

Stuck to the rules here. We live too far away from our families to visit (always involves at least an overnight stay). My friends are all sticking to the rules too. My son (23) and youngest daughter (19) who live with us have also followed the rules. We must be very boring but we are all wfh in various guises and so are generally busy.

PyjamasOClock · 10/03/2021 22:48

I hit rock bottom mentally on Tuesday. My best friend came round and hugged me. I've not been touched except when I'm examining patients in a year. It's been really grim. We are both Lateral Flow Tested twice a week and had the first jab and up til now I've stuck to it, Christmas and NY on my own etc. I think I'm picking up but referred myself to the local mental health services today.

JustAddCoffee91 · 10/03/2021 22:50

My mum pops in most days but she's in my bubble I have 2 babies 1&2 so she helps out a little so I can have a shower, I've seen my close friend who isn't in my bubble though only recently, she rang me crying her eyes out because she feels lonely & suicidal... what was I supposed to say?...sorry but boris won't allow it so go and sort yourself out?
no that wasn't going to happen so she came over for a brew and a hug and I'm not ashamed to say it either

fireplaceburning · 10/03/2021 22:51

I'm not mixing indoors but I have had a friend round for coffee- I think you're meant to only meet in a public place

SusannahSophia · 10/03/2021 22:51

I’ve stuck to it completely since Christmas. I live with my adult disabled DS so it’s a bit lonely at weekends, but I do work in a school so I’ve been in most days for a few hours until this week when I’m back to full time.

I’m meeting my friend in a park on Sunday, the first friend I’ve seen in RL since October.

XenoBitch · 10/03/2021 22:52

@PyjamasOClock

I hit rock bottom mentally on Tuesday. My best friend came round and hugged me. I've not been touched except when I'm examining patients in a year. It's been really grim. We are both Lateral Flow Tested twice a week and had the first jab and up til now I've stuck to it, Christmas and NY on my own etc. I think I'm picking up but referred myself to the local mental health services today.
Flowers It has been so difficult. I kept to the rules too until I broke and a friend insisted she visit. Mental health has been forgotten during the pandemic. I hope your referral results in some support for you.
PuzzledObserver · 10/03/2021 22:54

We’re still sticking to it. Easier in some ways for us than for many because few of our friends or family live close enough to see on a day trip.

Jent13c · 10/03/2021 23:00

My DM looks after my kids once a week in my home. She lives too far to take them home to her and get to nursery etc plus she has an aggressive dog, we have tried every avenue but its just not suitable. We ventilate our house when she comes, she has her own toilet to use and we give door handles a wipe down, she brings her own packed lunch. I guess its probably against the rules but there really is no other solution that doesn't involve 4 hours of driving for my kids and 6 for her!

I'm a nurse so I understand the risk is higher but I am meticulous about ppe, hand hygiene and socially distancing at work, put my uniform into a bag which goes straight in the washing machine and disintegrates so doesn't have to be handled. I have also had my 2 doses of vaccine.

NoBetterthanSheShouldBe · 10/03/2021 23:04

Live alone and visit - at social distance - very elderly DM. Have had FWB over twice this lockdown but otherwise complied.

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