I’m not doing this shit anymore

[struggling8888]

I’ve had enough!!!!!!! I’m sick to death of walking around my boring area, sick of the muddy fucking park and having to feed my baby in the cold because we’re not allowed indoors.

I hate the fact we’ve gone into mass fucking hysteria over a virus where 1/3 of people who get it don’t even realize and the vast majority of others get mild flu symptoms AT MOST.

I thought the vaccine was going to be our way out of this shit but no - suddenly there are new variants, it’s not good enough for the whole of the UK to be vaccinated - the WHOLE WORLD has to be vaccinated before we’re truly safe, and we’re now aiming for zero fucking Covid which was NEVER the original aim.

I just want family and friends to come round my house, indoors. I want to go to shops and sit in a cafe and not have to stand in a bloody queue to get in. I want someone to take my baby off me for one bloody afternoon so I can have a bit of peace and quiet.

I thought I’d feel better now the warmer weather’s here but I don’t at all. DP and I had a row earlier because he said it’s hard for him too and it’s not all about me. I never said it was, but surely I’m allowed to have a rant about how shit this is to my own partner?!!

I want the madness to end, now.

Thank you for the kind words - they are much appreciated.

We are in Wales, you can’t even travel to a park to walk all has to be done from home. The city where we live was struggling before hand and now Covid has killed so many business there will be nothing left ! I am really fed up but my main concern are our teenage kids, there’s zero to do for them ! Let’s face it what fun is a walk when you are 14 !

No honestly, people go through a fuck tonne worse. Saying 'I don't think I've got another lockdown in me', is just fucking hyperbole.
And that's polite. I'm not saying 'selfish idiot', just because I've got self-control.

Go and watch the international news to get some perspective.

That got zapped quick. Rude 😆

So you bubbling up with your mum OP? Lucky you. Wish I could! Try and look at the positives, there are some.

OP, I agree with you one hundred percent.

I, too, am very sorry indeed for BonnesVacances. However, I am also sorry for the people whose family members have killed themselves because of lockdown; for those who are no longer able to provide for their families; whose jobs were rendered non-existent overnight a year ago; for the people who have lost their homes, many of whom have young children; for the young people who have started self-harming because they are isolated and depressed because of lockdown. I am one of these people.

I am also sorry for all the people who have not suffered any measurable trauma, but who are just really, really miserable and want to have their lives back.

The notion of 'Zero Covid' has crept up on us by stealth. It was never an aim, and it is despicable that we are now edging towards this iead.

No honestly, people go through a fuck tonne worse.

That’s true. In that case no one on this forum should complain about anything ever again because there will ALWAYS be someone somewhere in the world who has it worse.

@Alonelonelyloner

No honestly, people go through a fuck tonne worse. Saying 'I don't think I've got another lockdown in me', is just fucking hyperbole. And that's polite. I'm not saying 'selfish idiot', just because I've got self-control.

Go and watch the international news to get some perspective.

That’s like your mum telling you people are starving and you should be grateful for your cabbage. It’s spectacularly unhelpful and pointless to come out with that kind of shit.

There are clearly people who are enjoying being stripped of their civil liberties and have no sympathy with those of us who are sick and tired of living a dystopian half life.

Sorry to hear what you’re going through @RonaLisa x

I think people forget that although many do moan on the internet about wanting this all to stop and it is hard to keep going when you don't know anyone who has had any problems with covid etc it is JUST complaining as generally we have all been complying with the guidelines (if we hadn't we wouldn't be so fed up with it all!)

Agree, we're not doing it any more either. Obviously we can't break into shops and restaurants which aren't open. But we're getting on with things in our own quiet way, breaking the law and not giving one solitary shit.

Or maybe someone that's really struggling. People have to got to have a place to rant at times. Obviously a lot is being said out of anger and frustration and everything is relative otherwise would anyone be allowed to say anything because someone is in a tougher situation. I don't think there's any need for the constant name calling but that seems par for the course on here

@struggling8888

No honestly, people go through a fuck tonne worse.

That’s true. In that case no one on this forum should complain about anything ever again because there will ALWAYS be someone somewhere in the world who has it worse.

I can't stand the invalidating of another person's struggles just because others "have it worse". Everyone has their own individual coping resources and limits - what wouldn't bother one person at all can break another. Cant all types of suffering just co-exist and be validated, without comparison as to who has it worse? Or is that just me...

@percheron67

Do you think you are the only person suffering OP? Think again.

That's a very unintelligent, unhelpful and horrible comment.

No, not just you @LouJ85. The lack of empathy on this thread is shocking.

So you bubbling up with your mum OP? Lucky you. Wish I could! Try and look at the positives, there are some.

I’m so sick of this thinly masqueraded resentment against new parents for having the audacity to be allowed to bubble as well. Guess what - we’re allowed to bubble because looking after a baby in a pandemic is fucking hard! But it sounds like from your posts you aren’t in that situation, so you wouldn’t get it.

@pucelleauxblanchesmains

"It is incredibly stupid and offensive. I wonder how people like her would feel if the virus seriously impacted just a small percentage of children and not others, with the 110,000 deaths focussed on mainly under 10 year olds." Well, bluntly, it would be an entirely different disease with entirely different impacts and I hope we wouldn't be too politically correct to see that.

Exactly, tell me the last time we locked down older people to end a whooping cough epidemic (or mandated in any way the vaccinating of the elderly to protect infants from whooping cough).

Yep. Never. Parents were expected to shield their kids for decades of polio too.

Older people taking such measures to protect the young hasn't happened, and wouldn't happen.

@BonnesVacances

I hear you OP. I just want DD(19) to be able to get out of bed 10 months after getting Covid. I want DS(16) to be able to go back to school without worrying he's going to bring the coronavirus home again without realising he had it, and reinfect her. Ditto DH who's a teacher. I want DD to get the vaccine so she's protected but the GP won't give it to her yet. I want to rewind a year to when DD only had ME and not the heart condition now she has as well. But most of all I want everything to go back to normal for everyone else so they can all live happily ever after and stop whingeing about living the life I've lived for the past 5 years.

I have ME. My life is pretty isolated anyway because of it. Still, I’ve absolutely had enough of lockdown now and have started suffering with depression again because of it. This pandemic has affected my life in ways that ME didn’t.

People are entitled to their feelings.

@struggling8888

So you bubbling up with your mum OP? Lucky you. Wish I could! Try and look at the positives, there are some.

I’m so sick of this thinly masqueraded resentment against new parents for having the audacity to be allowed to bubble as well. Guess what - we’re allowed to bubble because looking after a baby in a pandemic is fucking hard! But it sounds like from your posts you aren’t in that situation, so you wouldn’t get it.

Take no notice OP. I'll be bubbling with my sister as soon as possible after my little one arrives as I know how hard I'm going to find it (previous PND sufferer and my family was all that got me through it).

Thanks Lou. X

Today my 8 year old sobbed for so long and so hard, I had to change my t-shirt. This girl hasn't cried more than 5 times in the last 2 years. She is the happiest human being anyone has ever met normally. But today, she couldn't, she couldn't do anything but sob into my neck, which made me sob. All because "she wants Covid to go" and she misses her friends. Her teaches.

Aw I sympathise.

It is however very hard not to get annoyed with people who come on and moan, when someone is saying they are really struggling “yes, but I know such and such who has LONG COVID now - you are lucky you don’t have blah blah...”

We’ve had Covid, we were fine. I’ve been much more ill with flu. I know a few people of different ages who’ve had Covid and been fine. So yes, it is hard to get upset about random people on the internet insisting we need to stay locked down because their brothers sisters work colleague now has some kind of post viral fatigue. Would we be weeping and wailing over someone we don’t know contracting post viral fatigue after having another kind of virus or flu? No. We would be sorry for them of course - but saying your experience trumps others is just selfish.

I can relate to the poster above having dc’s who are getting increasingly stressed and upset, friends losing their businesses and their sanity and worrying about the aftermath of all this.

I hate how these threads always become a race to the bottom for some people. They think because they’re miserable everyone else should be too.

I can be sorry for bonnevacances daughter and sorry for the OP too and anyone else who is struggling. It shouldn’t be a competition or an opportunity to chastise someone to make them feel bad for feeling bad!

Thank you, struggling. I know a lot of people who have an even worse time of it than my family and I have. What's particularly galling is that I know a small handful of people who have had Covid, and they have all been a bit under the weather - including my 82 yr old uncle. All the people I know who have had a really shit time have done so because of lockdown, not because of Covid.

The fact that I have had a horrendous time doesn't mean I have had the worst time of all. Nor does it mean I feel the need to sneer at someone who "just" feels very, very miserable and lonely and fed up. That is a horrible feeling, and anyone saying "well, you've got nothing to complain about" has all the empathy of an oven glove.

I'm not in the business of competitive misery. Everyone is entitled to feel stressed and upset with the situation. But I just find the comparison of not being able to go to a cafe or have a babysitter pretty poor when you consider how many people have lost loved ones during the pandemic.

I lost my dad. Thankfully I was able to be with him but had I been one of the unfortunate many who couldn't be with their loved ones as they passed I honestly don't think I ever would have gotten over it. So many people haven't been able to have proper funerals or the support they need due to lockdown.

Cafes and shops will reopen. Things will go back to some sort of normal soon. But many people will grieve the losses they've experienced forever.

Op you're totally right to feel fed up but all I'm saying is things could be a lot worse.

I understand how crap you are feeling.

But I have not heard a credible, tested alternative to what we are doing or planning. I really just don’t think people understand that there is no alternative. Minor changes, yes, radical alternative no

And those who are just now doing want they want are making it worse for everyone and we will stay in this mess. Saying there can’t be another lockdown and advocating changes which will cause another lockdown is just nonsensical

Same here. I fkn sick of putting my kids on the trampoline over and over and over and over and over and thinking about how much they've missed. My daughters nursery closed because they're attached to the school....so she never got a chance to start. My son says he's sad all the time and I'm so fkn tired of the ques at the shop!!! I feel ya pain I'm literally sick to f inside!!! X x x x