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I’m not doing this shit anymore

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 13:41

I’ve had enough!!!!!!! I’m sick to death of walking around my boring area, sick of the muddy fucking park and having to feed my baby in the cold because we’re not allowed indoors.

I hate the fact we’ve gone into mass fucking hysteria over a virus where 1/3 of people who get it don’t even realize and the vast majority of others get mild flu symptoms AT MOST.

I thought the vaccine was going to be our way out of this shit but no - suddenly there are new variants, it’s not good enough for the whole of the UK to be vaccinated - the WHOLE WORLD has to be vaccinated before we’re truly safe, and we’re now aiming for zero fucking Covid which was NEVER the original aim.

I just want family and friends to come round my house, indoors. I want to go to shops and sit in a cafe and not have to stand in a bloody queue to get in. I want someone to take my baby off me for one bloody afternoon so I can have a bit of peace and quiet.

I thought I’d feel better now the warmer weather’s here but I don’t at all. DP and I had a row earlier because he said it’s hard for him too and it’s not all about me. I never said it was, but surely I’m allowed to have a rant about how shit this is to my own partner?!!

I want the madness to end, now.

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Dustyboots · 21/02/2021 16:01

I feel just the same today OP.

Isthisitnowthen · 21/02/2021 16:02

@BonnesVacances So sorry to hear about your daughter 💓
I’ve been suffering since March, did long covid give her a heart condition?

Fiona2020 · 21/02/2021 16:02

@BettyBoomerang If just rather she doesn’t get to the point of feeling like there’s no way out. I know more people who have committed suicide than have died of covid.
And yes I’ve had it. But if having a coffee or wine with a friend stops OP feeling at the end of her tether so be it!

IceGrass · 21/02/2021 16:04

@BonnesVacances lots of love sent.
I know a huge group of people who are losing their jobs and careers over long covid. Under 40, marathon running types. There are so many people that people aren’t seeing the long term impact of those that didn’t get hospitalised. All those on the group were allowed their vaccine if 28 days clear of their confirmed infection (some were on their second) but they did have a setback when jabbed.

percheron67 · 21/02/2021 16:05

Do you think you are the only person suffering OP? Think again.

DavidsSchitt · 21/02/2021 16:05

"I know more people who have committed suicide than have died of covid."

The opposite for me. Purely anecdotal, suicide rates are similar to previous years.

IceGrass · 21/02/2021 16:05

@struggling8888 it’s sucks, there is no good answer. If lockdown hadn’t have happened then routine life and medical care as we know it would have crashed. There would have been no ambulance coming if you had a car accident, and you would have been queuing outside A&E to see less doctors seeing dying patients.
Hopefully the more vaccines the better and you can start seeing people outside again soon. Have you got a support bubble?

Wherediditgo · 21/02/2021 16:06

@percheron67

Do you think you are the only person suffering OP? Think again.
When did she say that, exactly? What a horrible nasty thing to say to someone. I hope that when you have a wobble, people around you can show a little more empathy to you than you have to the OP.
Wherediditgo · 21/02/2021 16:06

@DavidsSchitt

"I know more people who have committed suicide than have died of covid."

The opposite for me. Purely anecdotal, suicide rates are similar to previous years.

They might be now I doubt they will be in years afterwards.
SilverBirchWithout · 21/02/2021 16:07

@HesterShaw1

Get a grip OP, it is shit - but we will get through this. Rage as much as you like we are all suffering in our own ways

And that is what the OP is doing. So why have you come on her thread to preach at her and other people who are finding things difficult? I'm sure your son is finding things extraordinarily tough and he is doing a wonderful job - but that does not mean other people's experiences are not valid.

The problem was not OP’s understandable rage at her own situation, but this paragraph in her post:

I hate the fact we’ve gone into mass fucking hysteria over a virus where 1/3 of people who get it don’t even realize and the vast majority of others get mild flu symptoms AT MOST.

It is incredibly stupid and offensive. I wonder how people like her would feel if the virus seriously impacted just a small percentage of children and not others, with the 110,000 deaths focussed on mainly under 10 year olds.
Would we say it’s only children impacted let the rest of us get on with our lives. Children and their parents can just shield. Somehow, I don’t think so!

IceGrass · 21/02/2021 16:07

@mummyof4kids

I'm with you OP, I'm done with lockdowns now, my kids are done with not seeing their friends. Yes people have it worse than me, I'm frontline nhs on a covid ward so believe me I know how bad people have had it but that doesn't stop me wanting life to go back to normal. It doesn't help when you see Prince Charles travelling 200 miles to see Prince Philip in hospital neither, maybe there's a reason for it but either way it's a kick in the teeth for the rest of us that aren't allowed to do it.
As a front line covid ward worker you will know family are allowed in in the final days for a goodbye visit, is this not what we assuming is happen here and of course that’s allowed! I’m sorry if your patients are not being allowed a visit in their final hours.
mummyof4kids · 21/02/2021 16:07

@percheron67

Do you think you are the only person suffering OP? Think again.
Bit harsh, the OP never said she was the only one struggling. Whatever happened to be kind?
PicsInRed · 21/02/2021 16:08

31 March is it for me. Whatever's open, whomever will see me, I'll be there.

They can try to arrest or fine me, but I'm guesing by the end of March there won't be enough cops in the world and shops and hospo will be paying lip service at best.

Echobelly · 21/02/2021 16:08

I think @Bilgepumper sums it up - we can't unfortunately just go back to business as usual as we have to keep big gatherings out until we have a majority population vaccinated. I'm hoping we might be able to meet up in smaller groups sooner than that. Honestly, if I could go round to another house/have another household over even once a month that would be a 100% improvement on now, and maybe something like that, probably better than that, can be a reality fairly soon. But yes, God it's tough - I've just gone for a walk in my brother which is the first time I've seen him in the flesh since some time last autumn, I think.

Pickles89 · 21/02/2021 16:10

@struggling8888

I want someone to take my baby off me for one bloody afternoon so I can have a bit of peace and quiet.

Probably someone's already mentioned it, but childcare is allowed! You can legally book a nanny for the afternoon if you need a break.

DavidsSchitt · 21/02/2021 16:10

"They might be now I doubt they will be in years afterwards."

There's no way of knowing that until it happens. The fact is, OP has options that she's not using. She could've seen her mum and bubbles with her. She still can, it's been well publicised. She can also think herself lucky that her mum has had the vaccine already!

Then she completely minimises the reality of COVID when many of us can't create bubbles or see our parents. Can't access vaccines yet and have lost people to the illness.

Frustrating at best.

mummyof4kids · 21/02/2021 16:11

@IceGrass That's why I said maybe there's a reason, of course if that's the case then that's different but we don't know why he's in hospital, obviously he's not a young man anymore and nobody lives forever but the public aren't told anything so most will see that and think it unfair. Yes patients are allowed a visit if they're end of life in my trust but this does not happen everywhere

islockdownoveryet · 21/02/2021 16:11

I feel you op I was trying to stay positive with the vaccine but there is never any good news . 17 million vaccinated but oh yeah hairdressers and shops may not open till April . I want to cry ok April ffs I know it’s nearly March and yes better days are coming but today I’m fucked right off .

DavidsSchitt · 21/02/2021 16:11

"As a front line covid ward worker you will know family are allowed in in the final days"

Indeed Hmm

Wherediditgo · 21/02/2021 16:12

@midgedude

Covid isn't the only thing that matters but when the house is falling down the fact that the lights don't work is less important

48 Weeks down just a few more to go

This is not a good analogy. For some people, lockdown is tragic and Covid would barely affect them. It’s like saying “I don’t care if your roof is about to collapse, you just stand there holding it up to save someone else’s roof from collapsing whom you’ve never met”

Or it’s “I don’t care if your roof is about to collapse because I know someone whose roof AND floor caught on fire which is way worse so stop moaning”

People on here really are like children.

B3ttyBoop · 21/02/2021 16:17

I hear ya OP, this winter phase lockdown has been hard going. It feels like we've been on a terminal hamster wheel in the dark. I don't take much notice of Boris, he's just tells folk what they want to hear. Spring and summer are coming so that's what i'm hanging onto at the mo.

pucelleauxblanchesmains · 21/02/2021 16:18

"It is incredibly stupid and offensive. I wonder how people like her would feel if the virus seriously impacted just a small percentage of children and not others, with the 110,000 deaths focussed on mainly under 10 year olds." Well, bluntly, it would be an entirely different disease with entirely different impacts and I hope we wouldn't be too politically correct to see that.

midgedude · 21/02/2021 16:20

People seem to not realise that if society collapsed, covid would be irrelevant, they would suffer far more than they are today

No food in the shops, no health service, no bin men, no internet

Covid brought us close to that . The french were about to close the ports last March if we didn't lockdown , something reported more abroad than here as it's a big too scary , still as a nation we need to diet

The NHs had failed to keep on top of everything, services like bins were disrupted ... but the worst case scenario was avoided

But all some people can see is I would survive covid so this is pointless for me me me . You are not an island

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 16:25

Haven’t read all the replies but @Mischance - thanks for the kind and thoughtful post. Take care of yourself x

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