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I’m not doing this shit anymore

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 13:41

I’ve had enough!!!!!!! I’m sick to death of walking around my boring area, sick of the muddy fucking park and having to feed my baby in the cold because we’re not allowed indoors.

I hate the fact we’ve gone into mass fucking hysteria over a virus where 1/3 of people who get it don’t even realize and the vast majority of others get mild flu symptoms AT MOST.

I thought the vaccine was going to be our way out of this shit but no - suddenly there are new variants, it’s not good enough for the whole of the UK to be vaccinated - the WHOLE WORLD has to be vaccinated before we’re truly safe, and we’re now aiming for zero fucking Covid which was NEVER the original aim.

I just want family and friends to come round my house, indoors. I want to go to shops and sit in a cafe and not have to stand in a bloody queue to get in. I want someone to take my baby off me for one bloody afternoon so I can have a bit of peace and quiet.

I thought I’d feel better now the warmer weather’s here but I don’t at all. DP and I had a row earlier because he said it’s hard for him too and it’s not all about me. I never said it was, but surely I’m allowed to have a rant about how shit this is to my own partner?!!

I want the madness to end, now.

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LouJ85 · 21/02/2021 22:56

and that's the point, it's not as bad as death and loss.

When I suffered PND with my daughter, I was suicidal at one point and narrowly missed being hospitalised. Feeling isolated as a new mum CAN have tragic outcomes, that's the point. That's why "we had babies in lockdown brigade" or whatever you called us are rallying round her. Because we understand that right now, with separation from family, OP needs that support more than ever.

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 22:56

Picking out one or two names who have been 'kind' to you is not a 'kind' way of going about things. I mean the same way you say you feel "angry" and frustrated, other people could have the same experience, hence the anger on here. No matter how much I am struggling, I couldn't imagine coming on a pubic platform to put down a group of strangers.

Errr, how have I come a public platform to put down a group of strangers exactly? Please explain.

And for what it’s worth, I can’t imagine coming on a thread started by someone who is clearly struggling and responding to them with critical and in some cases nasty posts, but you do you @mandes1.

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Fembot123 · 21/02/2021 22:57

@LouJ85

and that's the point, it's not as bad as death and loss.

When I suffered PND with my daughter, I was suicidal at one point and narrowly missed being hospitalised. Feeling isolated as a new mum CAN have tragic outcomes, that's the point. That's why "we had babies in lockdown brigade" or whatever you called us are rallying round her. Because we understand that right now, with separation from family, OP needs that support more than ever.

Me too, as we were saying earlier @LouJ85, I don’t think I would have made it through throwing isolation etc into the mix
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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 22:57

The comment in the op about 'most' people only getting it mildly was also really disrespectful to anyone who has lost anyone to covid.

Most people DO get it mildly Daisy. How is it disrespectful to say that? It’s a fact!

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Daisythecow34 · 21/02/2021 22:58

@LouJ85 and by the exactly the same token, I have lost someone in lockdown and that's why I 'rallied round' someone else who is grieving.

LouJ85 · 21/02/2021 23:00

@Daisythecow34 which is fine - but surely you understand that when a poster implies the OP is a selfish bastard for even daring to express her feelings - that person isn't likely to garner much sympathy from those who know how the OP is likely to be feeling.

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 23:00

@Daisythecow34 as I said earlier, you showed your true colours with this nasty comment:

the new 'I had a baby in lockdown so I'm special' mummy squad

Vile.

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LouJ85 · 21/02/2021 23:02

[quote struggling8888]@Daisythecow34 as I said earlier, you showed your true colours with this nasty comment:

the new 'I had a baby in lockdown so I'm special' mummy squad

Vile.[/quote]

Thankfully it's been deleted.

Fembot123 · 21/02/2021 23:02

Calling people ‘vile and scum’ isn’t rallying around. Grief is not a competition and tragic deaths are NOT a stick to beat each other with.

LimitIsUp · 21/02/2021 23:03

Perhaps everyone needs to step back from this thread - it's getting pretty toxic Sad

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 23:03

When I suffered PND with my daughter, I was suicidal at one point and narrowly missed being hospitalised. Feeling isolated as a new mum CAN have tragic outcomes, that's the point. That's why "we had babies in lockdown brigade" or whatever you called us are rallying round her. Because we understand that right now, with separation from family, OP needs that support more than ever.

Thanks Lou. Daisy clearly doesn’t have a clue what it’s like.

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 23:04

Thankfully it's been deleted.

Oh good.

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mandes1 · 21/02/2021 23:05

@struggling8888

Picking out one or two names who have been 'kind' to you is not a 'kind' way of going about things. I mean the same way you say you feel "angry" and frustrated, other people could have the same experience, hence the anger on here. No matter how much I am struggling, I couldn't imagine coming on a pubic platform to put down a group of strangers.

Errr, how have I come a public platform to put down a group of strangers exactly? Please explain.

And for what it’s worth, I can’t imagine coming on a thread started by someone who is clearly struggling and responding to them with critical and in some cases nasty posts, but you do you @mandes1.

I have barely responded to anyone and I have certainly not written any nasty posts - you must have mistaken me for someone else.

I have asked for calm and understanding on both sides.

Sorry that you are struggling - I hope you feel better soon x

everythingisstillginandroses · 21/02/2021 23:06

@saywha

This is shit. Boring, hard, lonely, miserable, feels hopeless at times. But I don't understand people having to justify feeling rubbish by saying Covid isn't all that serious. Just reading another thread on here about someone's husband being at deaths door, her two young children waiting to see if their father will live or die. And that's what thousands of people have been through in the past year. And yes I think losing a loved one or having to see them ventilated is worse than being sick of lockdown. We're all sick of lockdown.

I think the majority will continue to comply with the rules because they want to stay healthy, get out of this lockdown and keep people alive.

The lockdown sceptic's whinge really annoys me. If you don't want to follow the rules then don't.

^^This. Do as you like, but be discreet. We aren't all here to validate your viewpoint.
nellyburt · 21/02/2021 23:07

@LimitIsUp

Perhaps everyone needs to step back from this thread - it's getting pretty toxic Sad
I would agree.

For anyone struggling with their mental health this is not a healthy thread. I hope those that need to seek support from professionals. And before anyone piles in I'm not aiming that at anyone in particular!

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 23:07

Perhaps everyone needs to step back from this thread - it's getting pretty toxic

I regret coming on here for help. Next time I will internalize because I don’t have any other place to turn (not fully anyway - I don’t want to worry my mum or bore my friends).

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pucelleauxblanchesmains · 21/02/2021 23:09

Just in general, very nice to know how quickly people lose their sympathy for people with mental health problems the minute they express it in the wrong way ("I stopped feeling sorry for OP" reflects far worse on the people posting it!). I mean, I knew that, as someone with a long-term mental illness, but nice to be reminded, huh?

Fembot123 · 21/02/2021 23:10

@struggling8888

Perhaps everyone needs to step back from this thread - it's getting pretty toxic

I regret coming on here for help. Next time I will internalize because I don’t have any other place to turn (not fully anyway - I don’t want to worry my mum or bore my friends).

Don’t do that OP, you can count on one hand the number of posters saying it’s toxic/vile under the guise of #bekind whilst simultaneously dismissing what it must be like to be a new mum in these circumstances.
pucelleauxblanchesmains · 21/02/2021 23:10

People will post inane shit about "time to talk" and "we all have mental health" and then log on to hound and blackmail someone who's clearly struggling with her baby. It's pathetic.

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 23:11

@mandes1 my point was that you aimed your criticism solely at me and no one else.

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 23:12

People will post inane shit about "time to talk" and "we all have mental health" and then log on to hound and blackmail someone who's clearly struggling with her baby. It's pathetic.

I was thinking that earlier - I bet they all do that in real life. Hypocrites.

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Fembot123 · 21/02/2021 23:13

That’s tripe @nellyburt, the thread was generally supportive. Loads of posters including me told the OP that whilst they didn’t necessarily agree with some parts of her post they could sympathise, others haven’t been so balanced.

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 23:14

For anyone struggling with their mental health this is not a healthy thread.

And I’ve wasted a whole evening responding to nasty people on here instead of trying to relax and switch off. More fool me.

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nellyburt · 21/02/2021 23:15

@Fembot123

That’s tripe *@nellyburt*, the thread was generally supportive. Loads of posters including me told the OP that whilst they didn’t necessarily agree with some parts of her post they could sympathise, others haven’t been so balanced.
What exactly is tripe? There are obviously a number of people with poor mental health on this thread. Not just the OP.
nellyburt · 21/02/2021 23:16

@struggling8888

For anyone struggling with their mental health this is not a healthy thread.

And I’ve wasted a whole evening responding to nasty people on here instead of trying to relax and switch off. More fool me.

And do you feel better? If not block the thread as it isn't helping.

If it is helping, carry on.