I’m not doing this shit anymore

[struggling8888]

I’ve had enough!!!!!!! I’m sick to death of walking around my boring area, sick of the muddy fucking park and having to feed my baby in the cold because we’re not allowed indoors.

I hate the fact we’ve gone into mass fucking hysteria over a virus where 1/3 of people who get it don’t even realize and the vast majority of others get mild flu symptoms AT MOST.

I thought the vaccine was going to be our way out of this shit but no - suddenly there are new variants, it’s not good enough for the whole of the UK to be vaccinated - the WHOLE WORLD has to be vaccinated before we’re truly safe, and we’re now aiming for zero fucking Covid which was NEVER the original aim.

I just want family and friends to come round my house, indoors. I want to go to shops and sit in a cafe and not have to stand in a bloody queue to get in. I want someone to take my baby off me for one bloody afternoon so I can have a bit of peace and quiet.

I thought I’d feel better now the warmer weather’s here but I don’t at all. DP and I had a row earlier because he said it’s hard for him too and it’s not all about me. I never said it was, but surely I’m allowed to have a rant about how shit this is to my own partner?!!

I want the madness to end, now.

These people going about, calling other people "selfish", please answer me this:

How long can you personally continue living like this? Isolated, unable to socialize freely, hug people, be close to people you love, possibly living in cramped or unsafe housing, possibly single, maybe juggling childcare, schooling AND work, living in fear of losing your income, coping with a child struggling severely with not seeing their friends, and doing all this with no idea when it will end, and no ability to make plans either.

A year? Two years? A few more weeks? When would you say is a "fair" breaking point for this utterly dystopian living?

Does your lockdown situation even look that bleak? And if so, how long can you continue living like that until you DO break? Is it just other people whom you expect to live like this for the forseeable future? Do you expect outright self-sacrifice? People must martyr themselves for the NHS and to keep others safe from covid?

If you CAN continue to live in lockdown in a way that ISN'T making you lose your sanity or will to keep going, then perhaps you ought to consider that you simply don't have it as bad as the people who are very much losing theirs at this point.

@CaughtInTheCovid

That’s incredibly sad but I’m surprised that hasn’t made the news (mother of newborn and toddler, mother age 33 and perfectly healthy). That really is the 0.0001% risk patient. Awful.

A 32 year old pregnant woman died in my local hospital last week. That didn't hit the news either, some families want privacy.

@nellyburt

Stand by saying shame on you to someone clearly grieving? Good for you.

The person grieving implied that anyone who dares to express they've "had enough" - like the OP has - is a "selfish bastard". I agree that that's a shameful comment to make.

@CaughtInTheCovid

That’s incredibly sad but I’m surprised that hasn’t made the news (mother of newborn and toddler, mother age 33 and perfectly healthy). That really is the 0.0001% risk patient. Awful.

I watched a documentary discussing why Covid seemed to be disproportionately affecting the BAME community and one of the cases was a young black mum who was dying whilst heavily pregnant, the doctors caring for her were forced to do a C Section and she died leaving the newborn and a toddler.

I also wear a facemask when required, so not sure why that comment was directed at me.

Sorry for your loss.

So the OP is allowed to be at the end of her tether with lockdown (understandably) but someone who has lost a friend to covid isn't allowed to be at the end of her tether with people who won't wear a mask?

Both understandable to me.

Both suffering in different ways.

"Imagine saying this about the flu, or any other virus that kills people.

We have made the world a lonely, miserable place, and people like you see fit to blame people suffering cruelly for it for the deaths of others.

If she died of the another contagious illness that can also kill, would you see fit to treat others like this? Your friend died of a highly contagious virus. She was not murdered"

Christ alive. It's not the flu. It's a new virus so your post is utterly pointless

Except no one on here has refused to wear a mask, to my knowledge, so shaming people for this is most unfair.

someone who has lost a friend to covid isn't allowed to be at the end of her tether with people who won't wear a mask?

I do wear a mask!

This isn’t a anti mask thread.

I didn't say you don't, I wasn't aiming that at you OP

@HermioneWeasley

This needs to end quickly. One in three adults are vaccinated now. We’re nearly a year since we had a “3 week lockdown to flatten the curve”. We’ve destroyed our children’s education, the economy and our mental health for a virus where the 1% death rate is killing people whose average age is over average life expectancy. It’s ridiculous

Teachers are yet to be vaccinated though....!!

I'm fucking sick of it too OP. It's shit. We managed a decent half term but as my dd said - just want a Nando's and to see my friends 😂 as a single mum I'm knackered and need a break. These days that's when I'm at work.

It been shit and no matter now hard it is for those who have lost a loved one through covid, covid related suicide or any reason at all - it doesn't make it easier. Yes we're all in the same storm but our boats are all very very different. I am forever grateful for our amazing front line workers and key workers. I work in a pastoral role in a school and the impact on young people's mental health is massive. I've had parents shouting at me because they too are at the end of their tether and just need someone to take their frustrations out on. Everyone is at breaking point.

It's massively shit. I've seen a close friend lose her husband to covid. And I've seen my nurse friend battle covid. And I'm going through a tough divorce and worst time of my life which started not long before lockdown 1 which was just fabulous timing. it's all shit. I want to hug my mum so much. I can't imagine how it is with a young baby. You need those times with other mums at the playgroups just chatting or comparing stories and I feel for you.
Yes we have a British stiff upper lip approach to most things. But it's still shit.

However - imagine how AMAZING those first hugs, meet ups and drinks out will be when this is all over. And it will be one day 💕 take care OP and take whatever time you can to yourself

@nellyburt

So the OP is allowed to be at the end of her tether with lockdown (understandably) but someone who has lost a friend to covid isn't allowed to be at the end of her tether with people who won't wear a mask?

Both understandable to me.

Both suffering in different ways.

The difference being the OP isn't calling people "selfish bastards" for their suffering, is she.

Who are you aiming it at then, just looks like you are flailing about looking to justify someone else’s post, someone who has posted something extremely inflammatory and then disappeared.

This thread is vile.

How can people defend the op in the name of kindness and then be so awful to someone who is clearly grieving?

@faerin

These people going about, calling other people "selfish", please answer me this:

How long can you personally continue living like this? Isolated, unable to socialize freely, hug people, be close to people you love, possibly living in cramped or unsafe housing, possibly single, maybe juggling childcare, schooling AND work, living in fear of losing your income, coping with a child struggling severely with not seeing their friends, and doing all this with no idea when it will end, and no ability to make plans either.

A year? Two years? A few more weeks? When would you say is a "fair" breaking point for this utterly dystopian living?

Does your lockdown situation even look that bleak? And if so, how long can you continue living like that until you DO break? Is it just other people whom you expect to live like this for the forseeable future? Do you expect outright self-sacrifice? People must martyr themselves for the NHS and to keep others safe from covid?

If you CAN continue to live in lockdown in a way that ISN'T making you lose your sanity or will to keep going, then perhaps you ought to consider that you simply don't have it as bad as the people who are very much losing theirs at this point.

There's an announcement tomorrow. The end of lockdown is imminent so we won't have to endure this for much longer.

Lockdown is hard on practically everyone. You don't have to be on the verge on 'losing your sanity' to feel the struggle. Everyone has different levels of resilience and coping mechanisms.

There is no right or wrong.

@Fembot123

Who are you aiming it at then, just looks like you are flailing about looking to justify someone else’s post, someone who has posted something extremely inflammatory and then disappeared.

I was simply referring to two posters, both of whom are obviously struggling. I wouldn't want to kick anyone when they are down.

Which posts do you think have been ‘awful’ towards the poster who spoke about the mum who died?

@Daisythecow34

This thread is vile.

How can people defend the op in the name of kindness and then be so awful to someone who is clearly grieving?

My thoughts exactly.

@nellyburt I was also called a selfish bastard.

@SallyAnn32 sorry to hear what you’re going through and thanks for the kind words x

@Daisythecow34

This thread is vile.

How can people defend the op in the name of kindness and then be so awful to someone who is clearly grieving?

Did you miss the part where she implied the OP is a "selfish bastard" for daring to say "I've had enough"? I've been grieving the loss of my mother for years but I manage not to launch attacks like that on others who are clearly suffering.

@DavidsSchitt

"I don’t think social media is helping either. Everyone on FB seems to be coping well and doing creative fun stuff with their kids. I’m just failing mine - he’s clearly so bored."

Oh Facebook pics are bullshit generally. You know that though.

11 month old babies don't get bored because of lockdown. They don't even know what it is. Hardly failing him!

Exactly why I deleted Facebook at the start of lockdown 1! I couldn't deal with those #blessed posts which made me feel like a massive failure for ignoring my kids while trying to have a work conference Zoom.

@Daisythecow34

This thread is vile.

How can people defend the op in the name of kindness and then be so awful to someone who is clearly grieving?

For all the reasons already stated, surely you wouldn’t label a thread vile without even reading it..