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I’m not doing this shit anymore

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 13:41

I’ve had enough!!!!!!! I’m sick to death of walking around my boring area, sick of the muddy fucking park and having to feed my baby in the cold because we’re not allowed indoors.

I hate the fact we’ve gone into mass fucking hysteria over a virus where 1/3 of people who get it don’t even realize and the vast majority of others get mild flu symptoms AT MOST.

I thought the vaccine was going to be our way out of this shit but no - suddenly there are new variants, it’s not good enough for the whole of the UK to be vaccinated - the WHOLE WORLD has to be vaccinated before we’re truly safe, and we’re now aiming for zero fucking Covid which was NEVER the original aim.

I just want family and friends to come round my house, indoors. I want to go to shops and sit in a cafe and not have to stand in a bloody queue to get in. I want someone to take my baby off me for one bloody afternoon so I can have a bit of peace and quiet.

I thought I’d feel better now the warmer weather’s here but I don’t at all. DP and I had a row earlier because he said it’s hard for him too and it’s not all about me. I never said it was, but surely I’m allowed to have a rant about how shit this is to my own partner?!!

I want the madness to end, now.

OP posts:
LimitIsUp · 21/02/2021 22:36

I am so very sorry for the loss of your friend zookeeper - so young and a mother to small children, it's absolutely tragic. You're really hurting right now, but if you were able to be more dispassionate and objective (not really possible for you at the moment), you would realise that her untimely death is not the fault of others and doesn't mean that the OPs distress is unimportant. Nevertheless Thanks

willowsandroses · 21/02/2021 22:36

Several, yet you can’t point to one. How interesting.

And if we are playing ‘spot the nasty post’ the one above is really rather horrible.

Fembot123 · 21/02/2021 22:38

Funny that I’m clearly grieving an actual relative but yet I’m ‘scum’ for objecting to a gross post (again from a one stop poster) because she is grieving. 🤯

PicsInRed · 21/02/2021 22:38

There's an announcement tomorrow. The end of lockdown is imminent so we won't have to endure this for much longer.

Yeah, maybe.

I mean, they keep saying that don't they.

Then numbers, deaths, beds, numbers, deaths, vaccine's almost here let's lockdown til it arrives, oh mutants, oh more mutants, oh elimination strategy ... and fin. 🎬

Original poster
struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 22:38

@nellyburt you're wasting your time, the new 'I had a baby in lockdown so I'm special' mummy squad

You’ve shown your true colours there, @Daisythecow34. Living up to your username, I see.

OP posts:
LimitIsUp · 21/02/2021 22:39

Sorry for your loss too fembot123, truly. It's been a very painful time for so many

everythingisstillginandroses · 21/02/2021 22:39

What an absolute howlfest.

Daisythecow34 · 21/02/2021 22:39

@willowsandroses no I just can't be bothered to go back and read through the tripe to get posters names. But telling someone who is grieving that they should be ashamed isn't the nicest thing to do is it? Where did @ZooKeeper19 ever suggest that the op didn't wear a mask? Where did she blame her? I can sense the frustration because in comparison to two kids growing up without a mother because a significant number of people have chosen to selfishly ignore lockdown rules, not being able to go to a cafe or a shop seems fairly trivial.

Vinotinto78 · 21/02/2021 22:39

My take, is that competitive misery helps no one. I truly believe there’s not a person in the country who hasn’t struggled massively at some point over the past 12 months. Granted, the shit comes in degrees but it’s all shit, nonetheless. Personally, I’ve had to dig way deep. It’s awful. Hopefully it will pass. Kindness can only help. Yes that sounds trite but that’s my rock and I’m clinging to it.

Fembot123 · 21/02/2021 22:40

If I’ve had a baby no one bloody told me 😂

willowsandroses · 21/02/2021 22:40

It is weird, the number of people who have just popped up to inform the OP they think she is an awful person to be struggling with a baby in lockdown.

LouJ85 · 21/02/2021 22:40

@Fembot123

If I’ve had a baby no one bloody told me 😂

😂

Fembot123 · 21/02/2021 22:41

[quote Daisythecow34]**@willowsandroses* no I just can't be bothered to go back and read through the tripe to get posters names. But telling someone who is grieving that they should be ashamed isn't the nicest thing to do is it? Where did @ZooKeeper19* ever suggest that the op didn't wear a mask? Where did she blame her? I can sense the frustration because in comparison to two kids growing up without a mother because a significant number of people have chosen to selfishly ignore lockdown rules, not being able to go to a cafe or a shop seems fairly trivial. [/quote]
I wasn’t trying to be nice, I do think they should be ashamed for that post and I have explained why.

LouJ85 · 21/02/2021 22:41

But telling someone who is grieving that they should be ashamed isn't the nicest thing to do is it?

Neither is telling someone who is struggling with their mental health who posted for support that they are a selfish bastard. But you keep conveniently ignoring that part.

willowsandroses · 21/02/2021 22:42

But it isn’t trivial daisy

Being literally trapped in a house with a young baby is not trivial at all. Sure, it’s not as awful as death and loss but it isn’t trivial either. I came very close to quite bad PND because of it and PND isn’t trivial, as I’m sure you know.

HopingForOurRainbowBaby · 21/02/2021 22:43

Really constructive for all on this thread thanks Hmm what were you hoping for? For every one to agree with OP about how shite it all is and how everyone's had enough and blah blah blah! Yeah we've all had enough but most of us aren't going about whinging and whining all the time. Ive had to explain to the elderly people I look after that the reason why they haven't seen their family members for months and months on end, isn't because they don't love them anymore, but because they have no choice to stay away and keep them safe and when they want a cuddle for comfort and reassurance and you can't even give them that. Spend each day worrying that I'll take the virus in with me. Even getting tested weekly there's still the days in between that I panic. That in order to keep those I look after safe I jeopardised seeing my own Grandma who died before I got chance to go round again after they eased lockdown the first time round. Having to spend what should've have being my Baby's due date on my own because my OH lives 98 miles away and we didn't think it was fair for either of us to travel to see each other and risk carrying the virus to each other's respective towns and the times we were able to see each other when he travelled over here with work we sat at opposite sides of a lay by with a good 10 feet between us talking to each other through an open car and Truck window.

Fembot123 · 21/02/2021 22:45

@LimitIsUp

Sorry for your loss too fembot123, truly. It's been a very painful time for so many
Thank you, he loved doing his job and no one thought at his age he’d die if he caught it but he did and the hole he has left in the family is huge, and lockdown funerals suck. This doesn’t mean I can’t feel compassion for others or would bandy his death around to hurt them, he was such a gentle soul and would not have wanted that in the slightest.
LouJ85 · 21/02/2021 22:48

@willowsandroses

But it isn’t trivial daisy

Being literally trapped in a house with a young baby is not trivial at all. Sure, it’s not as awful as death and loss but it isn’t trivial either. I came very close to quite bad PND because of it and PND isn’t trivial, as I’m sure you know.

Absolutely - not trivial in the slightest. PND can also kill, let's not forget that.

BonnesVacances · 21/02/2021 22:51

[quote Fembot123]@BonnesVacances, what reason does the GP give re not giving your DD the vaccine, if you don’t mind me asking.[/quote]
That ME doesn't come under group 6. Even though Matt Hancock has told people with ME to speak to their GPs and ask for clinical judgement to be applied as ME is made significantly worse by viral illnesses. DD's GP is refusing to do that despite the last virus (Covid) rendering her bedbound for 10 months so far. Hmm Tbf he's retiring after Easter in the middle of a pandemic so he couldn't give a flying fuck about one 19yo's life.

mandes1 · 21/02/2021 22:51

@Daisythecow34

This thread is vile.

How can people defend the op in the name of kindness and then be so awful to someone who is clearly grieving?

Exactly. There is a lot of unkind views on here.

OP, If you don't mind me saying, I think you could do more to calm everyone down.

Picking out one or two names who have been 'kind' to you is not a 'kind' way of going about things. I mean the same way you say you feel "angry" and frustrated, other people could have the same experience, hence the anger on here. No matter how much I am struggling, I couldn't imagine coming on a pubic platform to put down a group of strangers.

There is no right or wrong. Although we are in the same lockdown, everyone views the situation based on their own perceptions, experiences, mindset, ideaologies, resilience level etc. We have all gone through the spectrum of emotions over the last year - I really think all this anger is partly just a need for someone to talk to, get it all off our chest. Just a 'virtual' hug maybe.

More understanding is needed, whatever side of the fence everyone is on.

x

OnlyTheLangoftheTitBerg · 21/02/2021 22:51

I hear you, OP. And I hear the other poor souls who have lost loved ones, or who are suffering the effects of Long Covid. It’s shit for most of us; the way it’s shit might be different but that doesn’t really matter...it’s not a competition and everyone is entitled to have a rant and seek support.

My DH is CEV so we’ve been shielding for 10 months now. When things opened up for some people last summer/autumn, we were still stuck in our four walls. And by now it’s shit. I hate it. I’ve tried to stay positive, I’ve tried to count my blessings but right now it’s shit and I’m tired of it. I understand why we still need lockdown and I’m following the rules for as long as they’re in place but fuck me, I wish it was over. Tomorrow I might feel better again but right now I can totally get where the OP is coming from. And I can still feel empathy for those who have had it “worse” because there is no finite limit on who we can feel compassion for.

Flowers for everyone who wants or needs them.

Daisythecow34 · 21/02/2021 22:52

@willowsandroses and that's the point, it's not as bad as death and loss. And we are currently in a situation where SO many people have experienced loss, which would be bad enough in normal times but to not be able to see your loved ones before they die, to not be able to have a proper funeral, to not even be allowed people around you for comfort in the days and weeks afterwards...those things will stick with a person long after lockdown is lifted.

I said in my first post that I'm not into competitive misery but I do believe that when tensions are high and so many people have suffered so much, you can't help but compare situations. I also said the op is entitled to feel however she wants. But when people defend her right to be upset then lay into someone who has actually lost someone, just doesn't feel right to me.

Fembot123 · 21/02/2021 22:54

God that is awful @BonnesVacances, your poor DD. I would have thought ME would be a priority given its very nature, shows what I know.

Fembot123 · 21/02/2021 22:55

[quote Daisythecow34]@willowsandroses and that's the point, it's not as bad as death and loss. And we are currently in a situation where SO many people have experienced loss, which would be bad enough in normal times but to not be able to see your loved ones before they die, to not be able to have a proper funeral, to not even be allowed people around you for comfort in the days and weeks afterwards...those things will stick with a person long after lockdown is lifted.

I said in my first post that I'm not into competitive misery but I do believe that when tensions are high and so many people have suffered so much, you can't help but compare situations. I also said the op is entitled to feel however she wants. But when people defend her right to be upset then lay into someone who has actually lost someone, just doesn't feel right to me. [/quote]
You’ve laid in to me and I’ve lost someone, but yeah #bekind.

Daisythecow34 · 21/02/2021 22:56

The comment in the op about 'most' people only getting it mildly was also really disrespectful to anyone who has lost anyone to covid.

Agree that there should probably be more understanding from both sides and I do feel for anyone who is struggling in whatever way. There is a lot of mean spiritedness here (some of which from myself, hands up) but honestly it's so shit to lose someone in lockdown that I genuinely wish my only worry was that I couldn't go to the shops. That's a genuine remark, not me downplaying other peoples issues.

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