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If this takes five years

153 replies

alfieum · 10/02/2021 12:43

I keep seeing people saying they are happy to wait as long as it takes. Are there really people on here who would live like this for two, five, ten years?

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SmidgenofaPigeon · 10/02/2021 13:11

See if it got to Easter I would just say sod it and get on a train to see my family BUT I’m from ‘that there London’ and although my Dad would probably welcome me with open arms, no one else would as they’d be terrified I’ll bring a strain and kill them all (they are all very low risk and I’d still socially distance) so not much I can do really if they won’t have me!

Wildswim · 10/02/2021 13:12

I think we're going to have to be prepared to speak out and possibly protest in the summer. And not accept new restrictions in the autumn.

This is absurd. It can't go on.

user1497207191 · 10/02/2021 13:12

Of course we won't be locked down for years. Just look at last Summer - things were opened up/allowed pretty quickly (probably too quickly). The same will happen again from Easter, but hopefully a little more slowly/carefully this time. Some restrictions will continue for the long term, but an awful lot of currently banned things will be allowed/encouraged this Spring and Summer.

GoldenPenPot · 10/02/2021 13:13

No way. My parents have seen their grandchild in person once. She’s six months old.

Eyewhisker · 10/02/2021 13:13

Five years - no way. My children’s social development would be irrevocably damaged. Not to mention my Dad is not prepared to spend his last years locked away from all that he enjoys.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 10/02/2021 13:14

@TheKeatingFive

I presume anyone saying yes to this doesn’t have older relatives they’re close to. 5 years is a lot of time to not see people in their 70s.

For me, no way.

My family are all in their 80s and 90s. If this carries on for 5 years there's a good chance I'll never see them again.
XenoBitch · 10/02/2021 13:15

Hell no. Can't really do much about things being shut, but I wont comply any longer about not seeing family and friends. This is not living.

Delatron · 10/02/2021 13:16

I actually think it’s scary that people are prepared to accept this for ‘as long as it takes’.

That’s more scary than the virus...

Pyewhacket · 10/02/2021 13:16

You don't want to get Covid, you really don't. Believe me.

Iremembertheelderlykoreanlady · 10/02/2021 13:17

I have no desire to see family or friends ...I'm glad of the opportunity to dump them all 🤭

Well don't you sound fucking delightful?! With an attitude like that I'm sure they feel the same.

o8O8O8o · 10/02/2021 13:17

@Wildswim

I think we're going to have to be prepared to speak out and possibly protest in the summer. And not accept new restrictions in the autumn.

This is absurd. It can't go on.

How would that work though? if we don't accept the restrictions, carry-on mixing, covid cases go up hospitals get overwhelmed, wouldn't that make us all feel a bit scared that you might get covid and need a hospital bed and there won't be one? Even if we are not punished by police for not complying with the measures there will be 'consequences' in the form of illness and death... Will there not 🤷‍♀️
StrawberryLipstickStateOfMind · 10/02/2021 13:17

@TiredAndBonkers

It's selfish, privileged people saying that. Not necessarily privileged in the standard sense, but in ways like not living alone, having a partner, having children, having a secure job/home. They can't see that people without these things are disproportionately being made to suffer, and miss out, forever for many things (I can't be the only single woman with a loudly ticking biological clock). It's horrendous because we don't have an established way of recognising these new forms of privilege or fighting to make things fairer.
@TiredAndBonkers agree with every word you've said.

I'm early 30s, single, although I have already had children. I really do feel for women my age and a bit older who hear the biological clock ticking. I've said it on many threads but I think the restrictions have gone too far for too long. I never believed in letting the virus rip but thought the restrictions crossed a line.

I mentioned on a different thread last night that I'd read in the press about how care home bans were a breach of human rights and denying the right to a family life. I honestly see this in pretty much the same category, to ban partners who don't live together from seeing eachother properly, to effectively make it illegal to start a new relationship. It goes too far. This is minimal contact with other people, it's not 700 people at a rave. The consequences and impacts on mental health are too much for this to be in any way reasonable.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 10/02/2021 13:17

@Delatron

I actually think it’s scary that people are prepared to accept this for ‘as long as it takes’.

That’s more scary than the virus...

I said on another thread that I'm more worried about what society is becoming than the actual virus.
Delatron · 10/02/2021 13:18

It’s terrifying isn’t it @PinkSparklyPussyCat

Fortunately I don’t know anyone like this in real life..!

StrawberryLipstickStateOfMind · 10/02/2021 13:19

@Delatron

I actually think it’s scary that people are prepared to accept this for ‘as long as it takes’.

That’s more scary than the virus...

@Delatron agree with this massively!
Pyewhacket · 10/02/2021 13:20

That’s more scary than the virus...

Spend a day with me and I'll show you just how stupid that statement is.

IcedPurple · 10/02/2021 13:20

@Pyewhacket

You don't want to get Covid, you really don't. Believe me.
There are many diseases I don't want to get (and who does want to get sick?) but Covid would be some way down the list. I'm much more unhappy about society and the economy locked down indefinitely for fear of what would very likely be a mild illness for me.
OnlyFoolsnMothers · 10/02/2021 13:21

@Pyewhacket

That’s more scary than the virus...

Spend a day with me and I'll show you just how stupid that statement is.

Of course some people have suffered with covid- many haven’t. Get a grip!!!
AuntieStella · 10/02/2021 13:21

Why is it so wrong to want measures to last for as long as they need?

Do you mean you would prefer an uncontrolled final wave?

Delatron · 10/02/2021 13:21

@Pyewhacket
So you think giving up our freedoms for years is fine is it? Once the hospitals can cope?

I’m not denying this is a serious illness for many. Fortunately we have some effective vaccines.

IcedPurple · 10/02/2021 13:21

@Delatron

I actually think it’s scary that people are prepared to accept this for ‘as long as it takes’.

That’s more scary than the virus...

I agree. And how do they define 'as long as it takes'?
KriekAndWaffle · 10/02/2021 13:23

It’s only on MN people say that, no one I know IRL has said such a thing.

StrawberryLipstickStateOfMind · 10/02/2021 13:23

@AuntieStella

Why is it so wrong to want measures to last for as long as they need?

Do you mean you would prefer an uncontrolled final wave?

Maybe some people feel that death would be preferable to living like this for 'as long as it takes', if the goalposts are continually moved and this is, hypothetically, five years.
AuntieStella · 10/02/2021 13:23

And how do they define 'as long as it takes'?

How did OP intend it?

IcedPurple · 10/02/2021 13:24

@AuntieStella

And how do they define 'as long as it takes'?

How did OP intend it?

She was referring to other people doing the 'as long as it takes' thing, so you'd have to ask them.