Vaccine.. Annoyed that someone who hasn't given a shit the entire time gets one.

[LivingInMySlippers]

I know this is going to sound harsh but hear me out.

A friend the entire time has gone on how 'pathetic' the Lockdowns are. She refuses to follow news and updates. Has never watched one

Refuses to wear a mask as makes her sweaty.
In and out of people's houses.
Pops to bm for a browse as 'there's fuck all else to do'
You name it every rule broken. Get my drift

Anyway she was even due to sheild due to diabetes which she makes zero attempt to control and as a result is verging moribildy obese.
She refused to sheild as why should she? Why should her dc have to play in the garden (her garden is truly amazing for children too)
Why can't she go to asda with her dh and kids like normal
Why should she have to do home delivery

She's just had all over fb how she's rang the gp and she's booked jab for next week due diabetes being vulnerable. And she didn't even know there was a vaccine until one of her other mates mentioned it last week!
She's said how she's getting the jab and SD can sod off and she'll do as she pleases (which she has all along)

I just think there is more deserving people of it.

I cannot emphasise enough how she hasn't cared throughout this entire thing.

BTW I'm not jealous or anything I'm lucky enough be healthy and wait my turn for the jab. But when there are people who this is affecting

Sorry I'm ranting

More deserving people?

How kind OP

How would you police 'more deserving' though? Would you have doctors issue a quiz about who followed the rules more? Do what you need to do to protect your family and distance yourself from your 'friend' if her behaviour is making you rant so much.

I totally get your rage, but look at it this way: it'll stop her passing Covid on, certainly if she gets the Oxford one which prevents transmission to a large degree. Protecting her is also protecting other people from her and her idiocy.

Why are you friends with her exactly?

You guys aren't friends.

If she's entitled to the vaccine she gets it. That's how it works, she doesn't have to deserve it.

We will all get offered a vaccine when it’s our turn, even people we don’t like, or who have committed terrible crimes. I can’t get too excited about this. At least given the pre-print that the AZ vaccine has a substantial impact on reducing transmission, she is less likely to infect others if she is so flagrantly disobeying the rules.

What @Butterymuffin said. Annoying but at least she’s less risk to everyone else (and herself).

Trying to explain.

People who have actually shielded. People who have taken care during this time.

She hasn't not at all. Never worn a mask. Never sanitised going into a shop. Or wiped trolley. Created big time when schools closed as her dc are bored. The first lockdown she wasn't even aware of for a few days when she went to take the kids swimming! Because she follows no news at all, she then moaned as she'd wasted bus fare to the city.. Didn't even notice how deserted everything was

I’d feel the same as you if I’m honest. However as a PP poster says look on it as at least her selfishness will be less likely to cost affect someone else given it looks likely the vaccines do limit transmission.

Friends since primary school and until covid we see each other regularly with our dcs. Covid has made me see how selfish she is.

That's a good thing though, it means she's far less likely to pass it on. The more people vaccinated the better.

Although I struggle to believe that anyone is so unaware of the world that she didn't know about the first lockdown.

Yes I think I need to look at it that way.
Sorry had to rant.

Healthcare isn't given on a 'who deserves it most' basis, thankfully.

Thankfully, healthcare is provided according to medical need, not whether one person is judged as morally "deserving" by another.

She sounds annoying..but she'll be less of a public liability once she's vaccinated.

Even 'idiots' get to be vaccinated. You can't get to decide who does and who doesn't.

Keep your distance from her. Mute your Facebook or unfollow her.

Save your anger for other things

I’m shielding too, quite honestly there have been times I’ve felt so claustrophobic I’ve gone to the shop just because I need to escape. I only wear a mask if I have to and not in the street.

I’m getting my jab next week. Covid is just one of the many viruses that can affect me. I swear to god I will not be held prisoner by it. I follow the shielding advice begrudgingly but I don’t blame anyone shielding to want to spend a few moments being normal. We’ve been in lockdown a lot longer than most people and it feels like house arrest.

The thing is the priority group is set up to reduce pressure on the nhs and the death count, i’ve Shielded through most bar a few weeks of freedom in late summer and a few supermarket visits until numbers got too high again.

I’ve seen people reasoning why people deserve it over cev because they can just stay home, it’s not about who deserves it.

She sounds like an idiot though.

No because the more people get them the better protected you are, whether they stuck to the lockdown rules or not.

She sounds like an idiot. Block and ignore.

I feel like this isn't really worth your headspace and is causing more angst than is proportional.

She sounds rather stupid, not just selfish... not even knowing that there was a vaccine!

I do kind of see your annoyance, but as pp says it is not given out on the basis of who "deserves" it. You could kick puppies for a hobby, and if you are in a priority group you will be offered the vaccine. This is sensible.

At least it will hopefully stop her passing it on! And reduce the risk that she will be hospitalised with it... in a way it makes more sense for the careless to be vaccinated than the careful.

What I would worry about though is that she will take stupid risks immediately after having the jab, when in fact it takes a few weeks to be protected (but then it sounds like she is taking every risk anyway!)

She's exactly the sort of person who should be vaccinated asap as she will be a spreader if she picks it up.
They have evidence AZ prevents spread, and I hope soon there will be evidence re Pfizer, too.

You aren’t in a position to decide who is morally deserving .
The way you speak regrading her health is also very judgmental.