Captain Tom

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I know this is a really self indulgent post. So sorry in advance.
I'm worried about captain Tom. I know its ridiculous, I dont know him. Maybe because hes just a bit older than my dad would have been.
But I feel if he dies with coronavirus , it'll be the final straw for me. Hes been the only bright light in this.
If he doesn't recover I think I'll sink.

He made a difference. £33m of difference and for that he deserves every bit of recognition.

A real life True gentleman

An inspiration

Such a sad day

Rip Sir Tom

@ParkheadParadise

Personally, I don't know any 49-year-olds having a child. I knew plenty who are Grandparents at 49.

My DH was 49 when we had dd2 and I was 41

@Twistered

For some people though he was.

But that isn't the kind of disordered thinking we should encourage is it.

He made a massive difference, he'll be part of the fabric of this time for a long time, and it will impact on his family's life for years.

But there are many many more people making their own differences to the world in a positive way as well and it will forever be so

I would have liked to have been with my DM when she died but I couldn't.
I would have liked to go on holiday over Xmas but I couldn't.
Still, one rule for us and one rule for the people that can do tell the narrative eh? Whod guessed the daughter works in PR?

Bojo already latching onto this.

[quote NerrSnerr]@Belladonna123 I'm a nurse too and have worked all the way through and think he was selfish, so not ALL nurses.[/quote]
And that's entirely your perogative. Agree to disagree 😊

@Whaddayathink

I would have liked to have been with my DM when she died but I couldn't. I would have liked to go on holiday over Xmas but I couldn't. Still, one rule for us and one rule for the people that can do tell the narrative eh? Whod guessed the daughter works in PR?

Sorry you weren't to be with your DM when she died. I assume this was your particular hospital which had this rule in place. My family have been a little more fortunate - although we have experienced 3 deaths this last year in all 3 cases they were allowed visitors at the end of their lives. Sadly it is very much dependent on specific hospitals and even specific wards. This isn't something that was only available to Captain Tom and his family.

Re holiday. That was quite possibly a choice unless you were in a higher tier at the start of December. He did not travel when travel was prohibited. He travelled when it was allowed. Like many other people did.

I understand that's he's very symbolic to a lot of people just not really to me. I won't be sad when the Queen and Phillip die either.

I used to run a large care home group and I loved so many of the residents. Because I knew them personally and all their quirks and foibles.

But right now I'm struggling to keep my Dad going who is very lonely and living alone and 91.

I was completely flummoxed by the outpouring of grief for Princess Diana. That was very strange. But I was sorry for those boys being made to mix with mourners and walk behind the cortège for the public's' benefit. The public grief can be quite mawkish.

But I'm not saying this to upset anyone. I'm just a bit unmoved. This pandemic is a long haul of acceptance and stoicism, and that's one thing older people like the Captain are very good at.

I really don’t care for the ins and outs of whether he should or shouldn’t have gone on holiday, whether he was PR-manufactured, whether he got some sort of “special treatment”, whether the £33m was a drop in the ocean for the NHS, whether caring about his death means you apparently don’t care about the other 100,000 (because obviously the two are mutually exclusive ).

He put a smile on my face and gave me hope, at a time when I needed it. When most of the country was feeling overwhelmed and lost, unsure how the hell we get through this; he showed us how to literally and metaphorically put one foot forward and just keep-on-keeping-on. He gave strength and hope to a lot of people when they needed it the most. It’s entirely understandable to feel that loss.

deffo Grief circus coming up.