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How long do you think the public majority (IRL) will put up with this for?

356 replies

Quit4me · 31/01/2021 17:00

How long do you think public opinion and action will continue to support not seeing friends and family?
I’m asking based on your real life experiences (not mumsnet views)
I’m not after ‘I’m giving up my life for as long as it takes’ views here, or ‘I’m happy watching tv and hugging my yoga mat for years.
I’m asking for realistic views of 2021 and public opinion as the year goes on.

OP posts:
Yogaposer · 31/01/2021 17:58

I'm following the rules, but my depression has got alot worse because of all this and I'm not sure how much more I can take ....I desperately want to hug my mother and have a cry.

TitInATrance · 31/01/2021 17:59

Realistically, as long as it takes. Those who are caught breaking lockdown to party round here are also taking combinations of drugs; their world view is different from that of the majority.

Dustyspringfield10 · 31/01/2021 17:59

I wouldn't care about the fine at this point tbh. People can only stand so much. If you want to live in lockdown forever then you do that. We aren't all you.

PinkTonic · 31/01/2021 17:59

@Dustyspringfield10

" the rules" are in large Draconian and inhumane. People have applied common sense and will not be kept from their families for over a year, it's disgusting to expect people to do so.
Disgusting of whom? What’s your alternative plan? Do you think it’s humane to just carry on as normal, the virus runs rampant and even more people die? The health service collapses so no one can get treated for anything? National infrastructure is threatened due to widespread sickness?

What an unintelligent and ill considered perspective you have. Grim.

luckylavender · 31/01/2021 17:59

@Fuckinlonely - strange opinion when we have over 100k deaths.

sadpapercourtesan · 31/01/2021 18:01

I think the majority will continue following the guidance until it changes and making the necessary sacrifices. There's already a small but vocal minority who think it shouldn't apply to them, and I don't see that getting any bigger - louder, maybe, but it's the same minority who always think rules shouldn't apply to them. The rest of us hate it too, but know that it's necessary.

Dustyspringfield10 · 31/01/2021 18:01

Oh dear, I've really set the lockdown lovers off now because I wasn't happy to go years without seeing family.

Fuckinlonely · 31/01/2021 18:02

[quote luckylavender]@Fuckinlonely - strange opinion when we have over 100k deaths.[/quote]
When you consider that the majority of.those cases were caught in prison, care homes or hospitals then you would understand that we think staying at home will not do much to stop transmission in those places. But it's not like lockdown lovers are concerned with facts....

theotherfossilsister · 31/01/2021 18:02

I might be wrong, but I am really struggling to understand how they will maintain this when the most vulnerable are vaccinated and when numbers in hospitals are down. Surely there has to be some release then? At the moment I am trusting them, but when I hear people from SAGE saying we'll need to lockdown even after the vaccine, I sort of wonder what the point is?

AlexaShutUp · 31/01/2021 18:03

FFS, @Dustyspringfield10, none of us love lockdown. We're probably all sick of it, but we are just not as selfish as you are.

marshmallowfluffy · 31/01/2021 18:04

I think that the public are assuming that we can see family and friends once the weather is warmer in a similar way to last year.

I'm not so sure that everyone isn't seeing their friends and family. I suspect it's mainly people who have to cross a border who are being more cautious than the ones who live near their family and friends.

Fuckinlonely · 31/01/2021 18:05

Dont believe you @AlexaShutUp. You all do a good impression of loving it.

MrsMercedes · 31/01/2021 18:05

its not 'disgusting'

it ensures you've got some family left!

tatutata · 31/01/2021 18:05

@AlexaShutUp

People have applied common sense and will not be kept from their families for over a year, it's disgusting to expect people to do so.

I think it's pretty disgusting that people are willing to put their family members at risk in the midst of a pandemic. And others, too.

Why don't you go chat to alexa?
Spiratedaway · 31/01/2021 18:06

Once my parents had 2nd vaccine I am going to hug them my mum is sliding into depression not hugging my kids for over a year after having them every day and 2 of my friends have killed themselves and I cannot take much more only really hanging on by a thread for my kids

sadpapercourtesan · 31/01/2021 18:06

TBH jeering about "lockdown lovers" only serves to highlight how utterly stupid and lacking in imagination you are. Who do you think you are talking to?! I haven't seen my extended family since last Christmas either. My father is 80 and two years ago he was so ill with stage 4 cancer we were told to say our goodbyes to him. He pulled through by the skin of his teeth, and we all wanted to savour every moment we have left with him. Now I and my children have just spent Christmas without him, for the first time ever. We're STILL following the safety guidance and not seeing him - because we're not stupid selfish twats.

TheKeatingFive · 31/01/2021 18:07

I think a critical mass will have had enough by late spring. April/May. The good weather will prompt many to demand some semblance of normal life back.

IcedPurple · 31/01/2021 18:07

A shame that what could have been an interesting discussion has turned into a childish spat.

Spiratedaway · 31/01/2021 18:07

@Dustyspringfield10

People saying "It's just one year so we can have many more years together." Well a lot of people don't have "many years left".
Exactly my parents are 70's now
HazeyJaneII · 31/01/2021 18:07

Yes we will follow restrictions for as long as it takes, and yes we will try to make the best of it that we can.

This does not make me a lockdown lover, but it does make me a pragmatist.

Dustyspringfield10 · 31/01/2021 18:08

"who do you think you're talking to" then goes on to call us names. Get over yourself, you don't know everybody's circumstances, grow up

AlexaShutUp · 31/01/2021 18:08

Dont believe you @AlexaShutUp. You all do a good impression of loving it.

Don't really care if you believe me or not, tbh. You can think I love lockdown if you like. For me, it's more about loving my family and not wanting to put them at risk.

Onedaysomedaynowadays · 31/01/2021 18:08

We're young no underlying health conditions and have followed the rules. Not perfectly, I might have popped in the shop for a few bits of food we wouldn't have starved throughout and been into the office a couple of times when I thought I was going to lose my mind stuck at home but otherwise we've been pretty good. Only saw each set of parents outside last summer a couple of times. They're really missing DC but we've been cautious due to their age.

That said, my patience is wearing thin. Our parents have been vaccinated and they're saying as soon as they've had their second jab +3 weeks they're coming down regardless of restrictions. Can't blame them and I'm not going to turn them away.
As to my own risk as soon as this wave has passed I'm going to start going to friends houses again. Haven't been in anyone's house for nearly a year now and it's getting ridiculous. If the vulnerable are vaccinated I don't see what else we're waiting for

Dustyspringfield10 · 31/01/2021 18:09

Don't call people twats, learn some basic manners and stop being a child please

Disfordarkchocolate · 31/01/2021 18:09

I'm fine with how things are to be honest. I've lost family, I don't want to lose anymore.