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“No onesies please as it makes the children in school jealous”

954 replies

Lemons1571 · 30/01/2021 15:43

A message from the head of our primary. Please could all parents at home please ensure their primary children are fully dressed in day clothes ready for their class 9am zoom. No onesies. Apparently the children actually allowed to go to school are annoyed seeing their classmates lounging at home in onesies / pj’s / loungewear.

Ummm, I’m sorry, I thought I heard you issuing instructions on what I must / must not do in my own house. What possible authority does a school have to do this? Kids forced out of face to face education. Being shown some lovely examples of the artwork done by the kids at school over zoom with the caveat “oh don’t worry I know you can’t do this at home”.

Read the room ffs. Just another request to put other people’s children before my own. As it happens my primary child gets dressed of his own accord, but if he wanted to wear a onesie then quite frankly anyone else’s opinion can fuck off.

Physically going to school = uniform worn as per school rules.
Physically barred from school = my house my rules.

No doubt I’m overreacting but it annoyed me!

OP posts:
lms2017 · 31/01/2021 20:16

I think this is more about routine , also the school have a duty of care to the children , your kids are not on holiday they are still legally bound to be in education albeit home schooling . They haven't just "barred" kids from school for the fun of it.

My son's routine hasn't changed and he is only 5 , he is up dressed he isn't on holiday , if I don't do this then he will get comfy and lazy.

He needs to be up , breakfast and dressed by 9am .

I am pretty sure the children in school would love to be at home with their mummy / daddy in their pyjamas .

This to a child attending school will definitely be de-motivating seeing all your friends at home on the sofa etc.

CatsnCoffee · 31/01/2021 20:19

I thought schools were allowing children in school to wear coats, fleeces etc and (in some cases) to have hot drinks in class to offset the requirement to leave windows open for ventilation during the pandemic? In that case why shouldn’t children at home dress for comfort and warmth?
Also, surely children don’t have to switch on their webcams and be seen during zoom lessons if they choose not to?
Many parents are struggling with the pressures of home-schooling already without this extra pressure.

Glitterbug76 · 31/01/2021 20:22

No they don’t they wear a uniform even in the recent snow the windows are open. They don’t have hot drinks.

nannawend · 31/01/2021 20:22

If my little one came home with bleeding hands I would send her to school with her own soap and hand cream which I know her teacher would ensure she used. We are all on the front line in our own way even if it is merely be ensuring that our work colleagues are as safe as all of us can make. I deeply resent Glitterbug’s comments. By keeping my employees as safe as I can that I am not putting myself in a vulnerable Covid situation. Perhaps I’ll make them all redundant then I wouldn’t be putting myself or my family at risk by coming in to close contact daily with people who could be infectious......
All of our children deserve the best we can give them and those kids at home in their onesies are suffering as much as the kids who have to wear their school uniform every day.

Glitterbug76 · 31/01/2021 20:24

CatsnCoffee
The children are engaging with there teacher and pupils. I am unsure why it would be the child’s / parents preference to have a camera on. This is called school

Flatoutonsofa · 31/01/2021 20:25

The OP isn't being entirely clear that the head actually used the word "jealous" in whatever communication they sent. Jealous is just in the title and she said "apparently" the kids in school are annoyed. I'd be interested to know what the head's actual words were, as I suspect from the whole tone of the post that it's the OP who is jealous.

Glitterbug76 · 31/01/2021 20:26

I deeply resent you telling me to tell my child she’s lucky.

Benhew · 31/01/2021 20:32

Our head sent an email asking for children to be out of their bed when on Zoom! We also got asked to not be eating or in pj's. It is obvious respectful behaviour to me, regardless of if they are at home or not. I know the people in my office who don't get dressed or make an effort in the mornings are the ones who are least motivated, it aids mental health as well as the ability to learn so I think there is a bigger picture rather than onesie or clothes. The wording of the request is off though, I think all children are probably jealous of each other's situations right now as nobody has it easy.

Glitterbug76 · 31/01/2021 20:32

You also need to think your self as lucky not having to put your self as you put it a vulnerable covid situation, and have a bit of empathy for those who do and there families.

nannawend · 31/01/2021 20:33

By the way Glitterbug I think you mean ‘their’ rather than there. Children who have a normal education at school are ‘lucky’ particularly when compared to struggling single parents who are trying to do their best for their children with very limited resources and incomes. They can’t keep their children warm all day and can’t go to work to provide them with items which a lot of us consider as essential such as good food, heating and warm clothes.

Fembot123 · 31/01/2021 20:35

@Benhew

Our head sent an email asking for children to be out of their bed when on Zoom! We also got asked to not be eating or in pj's. It is obvious respectful behaviour to me, regardless of if they are at home or not. I know the people in my office who don't get dressed or make an effort in the mornings are the ones who are least motivated, it aids mental health as well as the ability to learn so I think there is a bigger picture rather than onesie or clothes. The wording of the request is off though, I think all children are probably jealous of each other's situations right now as nobody has it easy.
I don’t think it’s the children who are jealous.
Benjispruce2 · 31/01/2021 20:35

OP would be on to Ofsted if her child’s teacher appeared tomorrow morning in his/her onesie!

Original poster
Lemons1571 · 31/01/2021 20:37

@Flatoutonsofa

The OP isn't being entirely clear that the head actually used the word "jealous" in whatever communication they sent. Jealous is just in the title and she said "apparently" the kids in school are annoyed. I'd be interested to know what the head's actual words were, as I suspect from the whole tone of the post that it's the OP who is jealous.
Page 23- I have just rewatched the clip (it’s the head talking on a video update). Head said that the “kids in class were finding it tough as the kids at home looked relaxed in their onesies so could they get dressed please”. Three times it was stressed that this applied “particularly on afternoon zooms”.
OP posts:
LizFlowers · 31/01/2021 20:38

Benhew: Benhew Sun 31-Jan-21 20:32:02
Our head sent an email asking for children to be out of their bed when on Zoom!
.......
Easiest thing is not to go on Zoom. Technical problems but not to worry, they are still doing school work and learning.

Fembot123 · 31/01/2021 20:39

@nannawend

By the way Glitterbug I think you mean ‘their’ rather than there. Children who have a normal education at school are ‘lucky’ particularly when compared to struggling single parents who are trying to do their best for their children with very limited resources and incomes. They can’t keep their children warm all day and can’t go to work to provide them with items which a lot of us consider as essential such as good food, heating and warm clothes.
Oh Nanna, it’s swap not swop and Ball game not call game and don’t get me started on what ‘even if it is merely be ensuring that our colleagues are as safe as we can make’ means?? Before picking on someone else’s grammar, make sure yours is tip top.
nannawend · 31/01/2021 20:39

By the way Glitterbug I put myself in an extremely vulnerable Covid situation every day but don’t make a big deal about it as some people do and I do have empathy for those who put themselves in the same situation as me. We are supposed to be all in this together Unfortunately it is people like you who are trying to separate us from one another by thinking one human being’s life is more important than another’s.

Fembot123 · 31/01/2021 20:40

And anyone that thinks it’s a ‘normal education’ is deeply wrong.

LizFlowers · 31/01/2021 20:40

"...the kids at home looked relaxed in their onesies so could they get dressed please".

'Onesies' are 'dressed' aren't they? They are not underclothes.
Ridiculous.

Go on strike, op!

Glitterbug76 · 31/01/2021 20:42

I’m glad you have time to correct others spelling enjoy please re read my posts when your off tomorrow ! When I said about Bbc bite size ect

nannawend · 31/01/2021 20:43

Typos not grammar errors. Not all as perfect as you with the keyboard obviously

Fembot123 · 31/01/2021 20:46

@nannawend

Typos not grammar errors. Not all as perfect as you with the keyboard obviously
Whatever you say, that last sentence is gibberish You are being a hypocrite and if you had a leg to stand on you’d stick to the point rather than pointing out petty things. Your posts are hard to understand and full of holes but I would have been too polite to point it out before you went there first.
Glitterbug76 · 31/01/2021 20:46

Thanks fembot 123 I really appreciate your support and others.

nannawend · 31/01/2021 20:50

Well. My little one wears a onesie for warmth. Would she learn more and be happier if she wore her school uniform around the house all day and every day. Her morning routine is the same ie wash breakfast, get dressed etc and she would dearly live to swop her onesie and get me to take her school and enjoy her interaction with her friends but I’ll just tell her she’s lucky to be isolated at home in her onesie!

Fembot123 · 31/01/2021 20:50

@Glitterbug76

Thanks fembot 123 I really appreciate your support and others.
No problem, I feel for kids at home and kids at school and just kids in general, I don’t think for a second it’s them pitting themselves against each other, they are being used to by adults that should know better. I wish I could keep my ds at home and I’m sure you are the same.
Fembot123 · 31/01/2021 20:52

@nannawend

Well. My little one wears a onesie for warmth. Would she learn more and be happier if she wore her school uniform around the house all day and every day. Her morning routine is the same ie wash breakfast, get dressed etc and she would dearly live to swop her onesie and get me to take her school and enjoy her interaction with her friends but I’ll just tell her she’s lucky to be isolated at home in her onesie!
No one is lucky in this situation.