“No onesies please as it makes the children in school jealous”

[Lemons1571]

A message from the head of our primary. Please could all parents at home please ensure their primary children are fully dressed in day clothes ready for their class 9am zoom. No onesies. Apparently the children actually allowed to go to school are annoyed seeing their classmates lounging at home in onesies / pj’s / loungewear.

Ummm, I’m sorry, I thought I heard you issuing instructions on what I must / must not do in my own house. What possible authority does a school have to do this? Kids forced out of face to face education. Being shown some lovely examples of the artwork done by the kids at school over zoom with the caveat “oh don’t worry I know you can’t do this at home”.

Read the room ffs. Just another request to put other people’s children before my own. As it happens my primary child gets dressed of his own accord, but if he wanted to wear a onesie then quite frankly anyone else’s opinion can fuck off.

Physically going to school = uniform worn as per school rules.
Physically barred from school = my house my rules.

No doubt I’m overreacting but it annoyed me!

YABVU.

I think nana has a real issue with the children in school , it’s her who wants to divide and penalise these children.

Exactly. No one is lucky in this situation and I am happy that children who are vulnerable deserve to have their place in a school environment.

Mine have to wear uniform

How is what a child wears a safeguarding issue. The zoom itself is part of safeguarding to check the kids are ok. We've had a several doorstep visits for my youngest son to help with his anxiety. She had no problems with the children choosing to wear onesies in the school day as the clean and dressed in fresh onesies. The only safeguarding part would be if they were dirty and not following basic hygiene, or signs of abuse, ect.

Also as far as doing it off their bed in their room, they may not have a desk in their room, I know I couldn't fit a desk in my childrens room as it's too small, and that might be the only quiet space they have and they may have multiple kids. I'm lucky I've been able to set up a desk space in the kitchen next to mine and my other son can use the dining table. If I had 3 kids then one would have to do it from their bedroom sitting on the bed.

Also I fully sympathise with those working from home during this I know it's really hard as I am also trying to do the same, very difficult to get work done without getting distracted and whilst trying to educate your kids.

Nothing is ideal atm but everyone is doing what they can do to get through this pandemic and feels like alot of people condeming each other for the way they are doing things. Everyone needs to look at whats best for their families and do the best they can instead of picking at what everyone else is doing and how everyone else is coping.

@nannawend

Exactly. No one is lucky in this situation and I am happy that children who are vulnerable deserve to have their place in a school environment.

Well phew 😅 and what about Keyworkers children are they acceptable to you as well?

And people are correcting each other on grammar .....

Maybe some adults should take a lesson from their children in the current climate .

Children hearing the news yet not really knowing what it means or how to process it, missing their social interaction with friends they don't have social media outlets like many of us . Missing grandparents , missing that structure and routine, watching their parents getting stressed out more than usual . Our children are all going through it and they are doing amazing in my eyes !

They are suffering every child !! onesie , no onesie just turn off your camera on the laptop easily done and wear whatever makes them happy and your child's mental health healthy! .

When you see people on here arguing over spelling when people are dying in the world you should actually tell your children how lucky they are and how lucky you are to have them no one is guaranteed tomorrow !

@wildchild554

How is what a child wears a safeguarding issue. The zoom itself is part of safeguarding to check the kids are ok. We've had a several doorstep visits for my youngest son to help with his anxiety. She had no problems with the children choosing to wear onesies in the school day as the clean and dressed in fresh onesies. The only safeguarding part would be if they were dirty and not following basic hygiene, or signs of abuse, ect.

Also as far as doing it off their bed in their room, they may not have a desk in their room, I know I couldn't fit a desk in my childrens room as it's too small, and that might be the only quiet space they have and they may have multiple kids. I'm lucky I've been able to set up a desk space in the kitchen next to mine and my other son can use the dining table. If I had 3 kids then one would have to do it from their bedroom sitting on the bed.

Also I fully sympathise with those working from home during this I know it's really hard as I am also trying to do the same, very difficult to get work done without getting distracted and whilst trying to educate your kids.

Nothing is ideal atm but everyone is doing what they can do to get through this pandemic and feels like alot of people condeming each other for the way they are doing things. Everyone needs to look at whats best for their families and do the best they can instead of picking at what everyone else is doing and how everyone else is coping.

My DS’s school did a PJ day where the kids at school could wear nightwear and the kids at home didn’t have to to get dressed either, there isn’t an edict at his school that dc at home have to get dressed though.

I have 3 home schooling. My youngest has ASD. My husband works out of the home. If I I can get them dressed, I do. Because we’re in a different environment and out of routine, sometimes they won’t be dressed as such. My middle child is very hard work and he takes most of my time up. The last thing I’m concentrating on is what he’s wearing, other than insuring he is wearing clothes (because that’s an issue too 😬). My mental health and my children’s is what’s important. I think getting him to do the work set each day is far more important than getting fully dressed in day clothes. I don’t see the problem with them shoving a hoodie on though if it helps the in school kids, personally. It is just a request and of course there’s nothing they can do about it. If they push the issue of simply inform them you’re switching off the camera tbh.

@lms2017

And people are correcting each other on grammar .....

Maybe some adults should take a lesson from their children in the current climate .

Children hearing the news yet not really knowing what it means or how to process it, missing their social interaction with friends they don't have social media outlets like many of us . Missing grandparents , missing that structure and routine, watching their parents getting stressed out more than usual . Our children are all going through it and they are doing amazing in my eyes !

They are suffering every child !! onesie , no onesie just turn off your camera on the laptop easily done and wear whatever makes them happy and your child's mental health healthy! .

When you see people on here arguing over spelling when people are dying in the world you should actually tell your children how lucky they are and how lucky you are to have them no one is guaranteed tomorrow !

Not arguing over spelling, pointing out the hypocrisy of picking on someone’s grammar rather than answering their points. Everyone should be grateful for what they have yes, the whole ‘people in the world are dying and you’re discussing this’ argument is so tired, put it to bed.

In the whole scheme of things, this request I think is out of order, as long as the children are online, prepared to listen and learn and do the school work then that is what matters. They are at home through no fault of their own and are really missing out of a proper education, their friendship group, if they still have their pjs/onesie on then get a grip they are children.

Same with my kids thankfully, they are very understanding and done alot to help us. They did supply a timetable which they would like parents to stick but at the same time they understand if it's not possible, as alot are working from home. From what I've everyone is doing the best they can.

@wildchild554

Same with my kids thankfully, they are very understanding and done alot to help us. They did supply a timetable which they would like parents to stick but at the same time they understand if it's not possible, as alot are working from home. From what I've everyone is doing the best they can.

Working from home and homeschooling young dc is bloody hard I’d imagine and right minded heads recognise that.

@BiscoffAnythingIsTheWayForward I'm glad I'm not the only one, my son hates clothes on his bottom half another good reason for a onesie it means no chance of an accidentally flash lol

YABU. Home schooling should be taken as seriously as going to school. Not bothering to getting dressed properly is lazy and likely to result in a lazy attitude towards schoolwork.

Definitely not easy for any one , fembot 123 just kindly defended my spelling, I am highly dyslexic and don’t always recognise on a small screen. I just couldn’t believe it was some ones focus.

[quote wildchild554]@BiscoffAnythingIsTheWayForward I'm glad I'm not the only one, my son hates clothes on his bottom half another good reason for a onesie it means no chance of an accidentally flash lol[/quote]
Yup 🤦🏻‍♀️🤣 it’s all I can do to get pants on him most days, even in the dead of winter. Their dads Australian so I’m blaming it on him. 🤭🤣

@Glitterbug76

I’m glad you have time to correct others spelling enjoy please re read my posts when your off tomorrow ! When I said about Bbc bite size ect

:-)

YABU. Not exactly onerous to get your kids dressed in the morning. There is no excuse to be be PJs or a onesie all day; would you wear this to a work meeting?

They are forced to stay at home they can wear what they want.

YABU

onesie all day; would you wear this to a work meeting?
Yes I have done, on a zoom where you can only really see from the chest up, it just looks like a hoodie.
What's the difference between wearing a hoodie and trousers or a onesie for kids on a zoom lesson? Why does the connecting fabric make them suddenly unprepared for work that day but a hoodie and leggings or tracksuit is prepared and ready for work

@Talkwhilstyouwalk

YABU. Home schooling should be taken as seriously as going to school. Not bothering to getting dressed properly is lazy and likely to result in a lazy attitude towards schoolwork.

My dc is taking it very seriously, complete every task in time and regularly getting reward points from teachers for works he has submitted. But he does that on sofa sometimes, wearing dressing gown. So, I don't believe that apply to everyone.

Top private school yet you struggle to ensure your kids have a basic morning routine? Too busy to make sure they’re dressed? 🙄

Not sure how you manage such a high powered job when even the most ordinary parenting tasks are beyond you.

Kids at school may not be having such a great time there. And I think expecting pupils to get dressed sends the message that it's still school and they should take it seriously.