“No onesies please as it makes the children in school jealous”

[Lemons1571]

A message from the head of our primary. Please could all parents at home please ensure their primary children are fully dressed in day clothes ready for their class 9am zoom. No onesies. Apparently the children actually allowed to go to school are annoyed seeing their classmates lounging at home in onesies / pj’s / loungewear.

Ummm, I’m sorry, I thought I heard you issuing instructions on what I must / must not do in my own house. What possible authority does a school have to do this? Kids forced out of face to face education. Being shown some lovely examples of the artwork done by the kids at school over zoom with the caveat “oh don’t worry I know you can’t do this at home”.

Read the room ffs. Just another request to put other people’s children before my own. As it happens my primary child gets dressed of his own accord, but if he wanted to wear a onesie then quite frankly anyone else’s opinion can fuck off.

Physically going to school = uniform worn as per school rules.
Physically barred from school = my house my rules.

No doubt I’m overreacting but it annoyed me!

@SionnachRua

I like the fact that someone has obviously thought it possible that someone may turn up in their swimwear to put it in the policy that they can't

Oh it's because they have! Happened a few times last summer! We sent them off to change every time 😂

Now it's unlikely they'd be in swimwear in January but you never know...

Oh that is brilliant !!!

My kids happen to be jealous of the kids in school. Can I request they don't attend?

I have zoom meetings with both colleagues and clients. I think it is a curtesy to them to dress appropriately for a meeting whether on line or face to face. I deal with some very sensitive situations and it is important to appear professional. Kids also need to learn that lesson in life.

I agree with you. Your house your rules. If your kids work in a onesie than I don't see a problem
with it.

As long as they're not crawling out of their bed in their onesie and then siting in front of zoom. I only say that for their sakes though as they would benefit from the routine of getting washed and in different clothes but I'm sure you're doing that anyway.

It's hard enough without worrying about what other people want / think.

@Xerochrysum

Iminaglasscaseofemotion, when I'm sitting at the dining table with my laptop, my legs are really cold so I carry hot water bottles and use blankets. I don't have onesie but it may actually solve the problem. But wearing jumpers won't. So I can totally see why the children wants to wear onesies over the clothes to stay warm.

So when you wear a onsie, you wear trousers underneath? Because unless you are.layering up on your legs, I can see that a onsie will be any warmer than some trousers.

Strongly agree OP . Being able to wear whatever she wants is the only upside of this for DD. Neither she or I wish her to have her camera on anyway so it's of no consequence to anyone else. (Plus the camera is broken anyway !) She does all her work and is working at 100% so as not to miss her education, what she wears is irrelevant .

Op - OP sorry if youve answered this and I've missed it.

Did the headteascher give the instruction and use the words the children are jealous or did they just give it and you/others think thats the reason?

It kinda matters.

Nevermind what school thinks, I want DC to get up and get dressed for the same reason that I don't stay in pyjamas all day - my mental health would slide if I stayed in pyjamas all day, I'd struggle to get into 'the zone' for work, etc. Sundays are a pyjama day here, weekdays we try to have a normal routine.

For those saying the school has no right to say what happens in your own home, if you are taking part in zoom calls etc with them, then for safeguarding reasons they do. What happens if you are a household that's quite happy to wander about in your underwear, would that be acceptable to be seen by the teacher/rest of the class?

@lemonysnickett88

My kids happen to be jealous of the kids in school. Can I request they don't attend?

Where have the kids in school requested home kids attend?! or don't stay at home?! or anything equatable to that comment?

This is all a non issue.

The headteacher has asked children at home to be ready for 9 clothed and sorted for school.

Unless OP corrects me I don't blieve the bit about "APPARENTLY (key word here) children are jealous" coming out of the headteacher's mouth, more likely parents that are speaking to each other as to why this rule has been put in.

It's a reasonable, acceptable rule and people need to follow it.

Whether or not teachers are or aren't showing art work or whether parents are finding it hard at home is irrelevant here.

ineedaholidaynow
Their kids, their house, their rulez hun.

I'd love to know how many of them would be doing their own work meetings in their pyjamas, or whether they would be happy with their children's teachers teaching in their pyjamas. Somehow I dont think they would.

Definitely reasonable. Lots of secondaries stipulate uniform.

Completely unreasonable. My kids have dance onesies. They often wear them out and about during the day. They live in them at dance festivals. They aren’t slept in, they are day wear. So my kids couldn’t wear these? (Actually they both wear them for their online schooling, no one has ever said anything).

I absolutely hate being told what to do.
Times 10 if it’s about my DC
Times 100 if it’s in my own home.

I understand how you feel, but I do think it would be better for your children & the children in school if they were all dressed appropriately.

My daughter is in school and I dont think she cares what the other kids wear. She's enjoying it at sxhool

I bought dd an Oodie specifically for home learning! I bundle up day time to reduce heating bills so she needed something suitable for working at home - which that is. I wear hoodies on zoom calls, so does everyone else.

My kids get dressed for their lessons - a jumper or hoodie etc, there is no way they want their peers to see them in their PJs. If the school told us the children needed to wear uniform then I'd wonder why that was necessary.

I’m with you OP. But then I feel that my child at home is at a disadvantage to those in the classroom.

I just can't believe that a child would complain about this - I reckon the head is just using it as an excuse because they think kids should be dressed. Personally I don't care what anyone wears as long as they're doing a good job - I just really don't see the relevance. I work best in what's comfy, if a teacher wants to wear a onesie and teaches brilliantly then I have absolutely no problem. I'd much prefer that to one who dresses professionally but is absolute crap.

My child gets dressed FWIW and not in a onesie.

Why do the kids at school even care?! This sounds unlikely!

@Lemons1571 can you confirm whether the head said the onesies thing or just to be dressed and parents have added in the blanks?

@YouKnowItsTrue

I’m with you OP. But then I feel that my child at home is at a disadvantage to those in the classroom.

There are disadvantages and advantages on both side. School in school at the moment is nothing like what it usually would be.