“No onesies please as it makes the children in school jealous”

[Lemons1571]

A message from the head of our primary. Please could all parents at home please ensure their primary children are fully dressed in day clothes ready for their class 9am zoom. No onesies. Apparently the children actually allowed to go to school are annoyed seeing their classmates lounging at home in onesies / pj’s / loungewear.

Ummm, I’m sorry, I thought I heard you issuing instructions on what I must / must not do in my own house. What possible authority does a school have to do this? Kids forced out of face to face education. Being shown some lovely examples of the artwork done by the kids at school over zoom with the caveat “oh don’t worry I know you can’t do this at home”.

Read the room ffs. Just another request to put other people’s children before my own. As it happens my primary child gets dressed of his own accord, but if he wanted to wear a onesie then quite frankly anyone else’s opinion can fuck off.

Physically going to school = uniform worn as per school rules.
Physically barred from school = my house my rules.

No doubt I’m overreacting but it annoyed me!

Sorry but I think you are wrong on this OP.

I would not show up for a work Zoom call wearing a onesie, I don't think school is any different.

Mine are learning from home and struggling sometimes but I have to say I completely agree with this head teacher and not the OP - sorry.

Children should be properly dressed for school and for learning. A onesie is what you allow for a movie night, as a special treat. Whether DC are learning from home, or learning in the classroom, they need to be properly dressed. It's nothing to do with telling you what to do in your own home and everything to do with sensible psychology for learning.

My DC have to be dressed to log on for school by 8.30 during the week and I make them get properly dressed (admittedly much, much later, but they still have to get dressed) at weekends too. I would never allow a child to wear a onesie or PJs all day unless they are ill.

I think it's reasonable. On the days I'm WFH I get dressed to attend video meetings, this is no different. I saw a colleague in her dressing gown and while I didnt say anything i thought it was a bit unprofessional.

Ok they don't necessarily need to be washed/teeth brushed, but at a minimum dressed and if needed hair brushed.

@LadyWhistledownthe1st how about a jumper?

Though I'm not sure if I agree with kids being in uniform at home. All we ask for is no swimwear/PJs/costumes at my place.

Sorry I meant @LadyCatStark - lots of lady usernames on this thread!

No way is that a reasonable request.

I’m with you OP.

Our kids at home are struggling and so are us parents. At least let us struggle in our onesies.

And be grateful you have a school place - schooled kids.

@Benjispruce2 I was confused then and couldn’t remember what I had said 😂😂😂

We ask for clothed, not eating and ready to learn i.e turn the TV off in the background!

They need a flat rule or before you know it there'll be kidding in fancy dress .

OMG - some of these replies

This thread has really drawn in the -obey every rule mindlessly, goody two shoes gang hasn’t it.

We've been known to do a day of learning dressed as Sonic the Hedgehog.

No Zoom thankfully

@Lemons1571

We’re not being asked to do this so our primary children are ready to learn. We’re being asked to do this specifically for the benefit of the kids that are getting a classroom education.

Lemons, do what you want or rather, let your children wear what they want.

This was a request, it's not written in tablets of stone and cannot be enforced. Rubbish that children at school might be jealous of those in leisure wear at home.

I'm so glad I no longer have a school child at home. In the current situation I honestly think I would have taken them and gone awol, avoiding all the school zooms or whatever, and organised my own lessons. What a pain!

YABU would you turn up to a Zoom meeting with work colleagues in your onesie? No it would leave a bad impression wouldn't it - so why would you allow your kids to do it?

It's just bad manners IMO

@Blessex

How interesting it is listening to some women on here that if you even mention your job you are accused of bragging or being above yourself. Or being high.

Please explain the relevance That’s what we are saying

You were a very busy single parent with a global job involving negotiating contacts with Asia.

But you have secondary school aged children.

So genuinely wondering how the above is relevant.

@Dustyboots

OMG - some of these replies

This thread has really drawn in the -obey every rule mindlessly, goody two shoes gang hasn’t it.

Quite.

The kids are on camera on the online lessons? I thought this was a safeguarding issue so they dont have it switched on?

The situation is not the fault of the schools - they aren't forcing children to stay at home.

Absolutely true but, as evidenced by this thread, some schools are not being careful enough to make sure that the children at home are getting the same quality of education as those in school. And that IS their fault.

I don’t know why people keep bringing up work meetings. It’s not a work meeting. The teacher isn’t a client or a boss. It’s not the same thing at all.

@Jacketpotato84

The kids are on camera on the online lessons? I thought this was a safeguarding issue so they dont have it switched on?

It may vary by area or country. I'm not British so I can't speak to safeguarding rules there. In my school the whole school rule is that if you're in a lesson, your camera is on.

@TwelvePaws

I don't have a onesie, I'm feeling very left out...

Get an oodie instead. One size fits all. The stuff of many mumsnetters nightmares. 🤣

I did look at them a few months ago when I saw them posted about. At first I though the phones were autocorrecting hoodie

But I fancy a onesie. Have for years. I'd like one with feet in. Giant toddler. Or more like a Telly Tubby!! 🤣

YANBU. My son would give anything to be in school at the moment. It actually made me sad when the school tweeted photos of keyworkers’ kids doing something at school, because he is currently missing out on that social/play aspect of learning and is stuck at home with two working parents, who are struggling to work and homeschool him and his younger sister. He hasn’t attended a zoom call in his onesie yet, but if he wanted to, I would let him, because ultimately he’s not allowed to go to school at the moment so what difference does it make. I haven’t worn a suit in almost a year either.

The biggest theme to come out of any thread on schooling due to coronavirus seems to be the inconsistency.
From schools who do zoom calls all day for different subjects, to those that simply issue worksheets, the differences are staggering.
No two schools are even remotely similar. How are we nearly a year into this without any sort of concensus on how remote learning should be applied?

You're over reacting. Do you think schools want to cause themselves any further issues?

We have kids on my sons zoom barely dressed, there is evidence to support it helping kids to be in full uniform on zooms. They aren't even asking that, just get bloody dressed