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“No onesies please as it makes the children in school jealous”

954 replies

Lemons1571 · 30/01/2021 15:43

A message from the head of our primary. Please could all parents at home please ensure their primary children are fully dressed in day clothes ready for their class 9am zoom. No onesies. Apparently the children actually allowed to go to school are annoyed seeing their classmates lounging at home in onesies / pj’s / loungewear.

Ummm, I’m sorry, I thought I heard you issuing instructions on what I must / must not do in my own house. What possible authority does a school have to do this? Kids forced out of face to face education. Being shown some lovely examples of the artwork done by the kids at school over zoom with the caveat “oh don’t worry I know you can’t do this at home”.

Read the room ffs. Just another request to put other people’s children before my own. As it happens my primary child gets dressed of his own accord, but if he wanted to wear a onesie then quite frankly anyone else’s opinion can fuck off.

Physically going to school = uniform worn as per school rules.
Physically barred from school = my house my rules.

No doubt I’m overreacting but it annoyed me!

OP posts:
WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants · 30/01/2021 18:58

@Pyewhacket

I have an Andy Pandy onesie. Grin
Do they make them in short & wide?

I don't have a onesie, I'm feeling very left out...

crumpet · 30/01/2021 18:58

@Blessex but if the children were all in school you’d have to get everyone up and dressed in time to get to school - at least home schooling just means a commute downstairs. How does this leave you less time to get dressed!

crumpet · 30/01/2021 18:59

(I am a single mum working full time)

BringBiscuits · 30/01/2021 19:00

I can completely see your point. Yanbu

PurBal · 30/01/2021 19:00

My friend (sahd) insists his children put on their school uniforms for school. Makes getting ready for the day far easier and the children seem to focus more in school clothes.

Avidreader12 · 30/01/2021 19:01

I think children should be up dressed and ready to do school work even if they are at home. Kids don’t turn up to the start of a school day in their pjs or onesies when schools are open so why would anyone think this is ok for zoom school lessons. The headteacher is right. My work if they video call me don’t expect to see me in bed or pjs or onesies as I’m working I’m still expected to dress within the same standards of the office.

Seth41 · 30/01/2021 19:03

@Blessex

Thank you *@WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants and @Iknowwhatudidlastsummer* my point has always been that it doesn’t matter what our kids wear for a couple of months of home schooling. The point is that they learn.
So how did you manage to show horn in that you had a global job that involves negotiating contracts with Asia

Especially given your children are secondary school age

TwelvePaws · 30/01/2021 19:04

I don't have a onesie, I'm feeling very left out...

Get an oodie instead. One size fits all. The stuff of many mumsnetters nightmares. 🤣

Blessex · 30/01/2021 19:04

How interesting it is listening to some women on here that if you even mention your job you are accused of bragging or being above yourself. Or being high.

IMissFrance · 30/01/2021 19:06

I agree with the school.

A onesie isn't day wear.

I'm all for leggings and a hoodie. But needs to be actual clothing by 8:30am Mon-Fri.

MiddlesexGirl · 30/01/2021 19:10

Entirely reasonable request.
Gets the kids in the right frame of kind.
Makes them wake up a bit earlier as need to make time to get dressed hence more alert when school starts.
Fewer issues with flimsy/inappropriate clothing.
And as the HT said.

Mucky1 · 30/01/2021 19:10

My kids went to school in the last lockdown but they're with my mum this time. My daughters school don't require children in school to wear a uniform because the kids at home aren't wearing them. She was in a mixed Bubble doing the work sent home on class room google from her teacher that I'd printed off and sent in with her. This time it's a lot more organised. After seeing both sides of this I can tell you neither is winning Blush

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MiddlesexGirl · 30/01/2021 19:12

All cameras on policy at dc school to ensure kids are paying attention.

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 30/01/2021 19:14

@Blessex

How interesting it is listening to some women on here that if you even mention your job you are accused of bragging or being above yourself. Or being high.
Bloody hell you're obsessed. You've shoehorned your job and how much other women are jealous of you into just about every post. No ones jealous. No one even knows what you do Confused
LizFlowers · 30/01/2021 19:15

I think it is ridiculous and why are the children who are at school seeing those who are not, on zoom?

In your own home, you wear what you want.

I didn't know 'onesies' were still a thing :-).

Next time your kids are on zoom, put dressing gowns on them and make sure you are wearing your best pyjamas.

Pathetic.

Bettydot · 30/01/2021 19:15

Our primary school specified at the beginning that children should be appropriately dressed for zoom lessons with no sleepwear or fancy dress. I don’t see the issue with the request. I wouldn’t wear my pyjamas for a work zoom call despite being at home because it’s inappropriate, this is no different.

Chocolateandamaretto · 30/01/2021 19:16

Oh fuck off with the “poor little children in school feel jealous” my kids are jealous of them so are you going to send them home to make my kids feel better? No? Of course not. So jog the fuck on. No one is in an ideal situation here, if it makes a kid happy to work in a sodding onesie then just bloody let them, Jesus Christ. Seriously if school was telling me what my kids could wear in their own bloody home I would lose my shit. Fortunately my kids teachers are busy and have better things to do!

RootyT00t · 30/01/2021 19:17

@Blessex

How interesting it is listening to some women on here that if you even mention your job you are accused of bragging or being above yourself. Or being high.
Blessex what on earth are you going on about?
SycamoreGap · 30/01/2021 19:18

Cameras on at our school and all children in uniform.

WanderingMilly · 30/01/2021 19:18

Actually, I tend to agree with you, OP. I would be irritated too. In my home, my child would wear what they wanted, assuming it was decent. Of course they learn just as well in a onesie, what makes a school uniform so magic that it aids learning?? Bonkers.

To those saying, 'Well you wouldn't take a client call yourself in a onesie' the answer is no, that's because if I'm working from home I'm an adult, in a paid position and have a certain responsibility to my company and clients in return for a salary. That's very different from a child learning to read/count/do history or whatever as schoolwork.

tillyandmilly · 30/01/2021 19:19

Just wear a jumper over the onesie - feel sorry for kids at school shivering!

SionnachRua · 30/01/2021 19:20

@MiddlesexGirl

All cameras on policy at dc school to ensure kids are paying attention.
Same where I work. I've only had to send one child off to get dressed and the parent emailed to thank me... apparently getting up on time was becoming a battle. The child knowing that teacher expected them to be online and presentable made a big difference!
WanderingMilly · 30/01/2021 19:20

Oh and well said, Chocolateandamaretto, you said it much better than I did!!

Benjispruce2 · 30/01/2021 19:20

Totally reasonable. Children are at school whether online or not.