“No onesies please as it makes the children in school jealous”

[Lemons1571]

A message from the head of our primary. Please could all parents at home please ensure their primary children are fully dressed in day clothes ready for their class 9am zoom. No onesies. Apparently the children actually allowed to go to school are annoyed seeing their classmates lounging at home in onesies / pj’s / loungewear.

Ummm, I’m sorry, I thought I heard you issuing instructions on what I must / must not do in my own house. What possible authority does a school have to do this? Kids forced out of face to face education. Being shown some lovely examples of the artwork done by the kids at school over zoom with the caveat “oh don’t worry I know you can’t do this at home”.

Read the room ffs. Just another request to put other people’s children before my own. As it happens my primary child gets dressed of his own accord, but if he wanted to wear a onesie then quite frankly anyone else’s opinion can fuck off.

Physically going to school = uniform worn as per school rules.
Physically barred from school = my house my rules.

No doubt I’m overreacting but it annoyed me!

She is obviously very unkind and focused only on her own situation.

[quote Blessex]@RosesAndLemonade you are currently sounding like a jealous woman honestly[/quote]
Jealous of what?

A random anonymous name on a chat forum? 🤷‍♀️

I am support staff working in the keyworker classroom. School is a very small independent, age 3 to 11.

Every single child, whether at home or in school, is in full uniform - blazers, kilts and blouses, shirts and ties etc etc. They are following their normal timetable so all have to get changed into PE kit, dance kit etc etc. Nobody has complained as far as I'm aware.

I'm with you OP.

@WorraLiberty I am a very jealous woman

@RosesAndLemonade

Is *@Blessex* going to stop at any point does anyone think? Or will she only stop if I admit that I've a) murdered someone or b) told her I'm really fucking envious of her?

you are the one who is unable to stop here.

It's really becoming embarrassing for you. We got it a nerve was touched with you. Let it go.

Reception aged DS2 wore fancy dress everyday last week. To be honest if it got him up and ready to learn, I'm going with anything, I don't have time to fight with them these days. However neither of my kids (reception and year 8) have any time when they are on live camera (zoom/teams) in the school day. Senior school request cameras are off and primary all lessons are recorded but we do send in photos.
My family don't tend to wear pjs in the day even if they are poorly though.

@Iknowwhatudidlastsummer nah honestly I couldn't care less. She's just pretty odd in her responses and I am seriously bored. If I wasn't in hospital I wouldn't have even bothered, but I've got the sum total of absolutely nothing to do so.....

I can't believe anyone thinks this request is reasonable. Of course it's not. I'm with you OP.

I don't understand this dressed = ready to work. I am most able to work when I am comfortable. When I'm wfh I work in my pyjamas. If I have a zoom call I do stick on a jumper but wouldn't bother if I was a uni student for example. Don't see why children need to.

This lockdown is hard enough as it is without people placing additional unnecessary requests.

I would reply to the school that when you allow my child back into school they will be dressed in school clothing. Otherwise in my house it's my rules.

(and that's not a pity post that I'm in hospital. it is what it is. But I was just explaining why I've got a ton of time on my hands )

@Cattitudes

Can't understand why people can't think/work in pj/onesie. Takes all sorts I guess but wouldn't bother me what the teacher was wearing in their own house.

I can't think in uncomfortable office wear. I find the discomfort distracting. I think much better in comfy clothes.

I am genuinely interested though in the onesie safeguarding issue. I appreciate that it's from the LEA so I'm not saying anyone is wrong, I would just be really interested in the thought behind it!

I have an Andy Pandy onesie.

@Lemons1571

A message from the head of our primary. Please could all parents at home please ensure their primary children are fully dressed in day clothes ready for their class 9am zoom. No onesies. Apparently the children actually allowed to go to school are annoyed seeing their classmates lounging at home in onesies / pj’s / loungewear.

Ummm, I’m sorry, I thought I heard you issuing instructions on what I must / must not do in my own house. What possible authority does a school have to do this? Kids forced out of face to face education. Being shown some lovely examples of the artwork done by the kids at school over zoom with the caveat “oh don’t worry I know you can’t do this at home”.

Read the room ffs. Just another request to put other people’s children before my own. As it happens my primary child gets dressed of his own accord, but if he wanted to wear a onesie then quite frankly anyone else’s opinion can fuck off.

Physically going to school = uniform worn as per school rules.
Physically barred from school = my house my rules.

No doubt I’m overreacting but it annoyed me!

It's not putting other people's children before your own.

The ones who are in school are in their day in day out, working consistently, on the subjects they should be, with various teachers in and out and not a lot of help. Many are vulnerable. No walks, no "ooh pop through and have some lunch" no "awk we'll finish early and do a b and c".

They may be doing "lovely artwork" but you have no idea of their circumstances. Your child may have been forced out but they are stuck in. It is no better for them, and you are twisting this. It's you who needs to read the room.

If you have a problem with people telling you what to do in their own home, it's OK if the teacher wears her pjs, turns her camera off and watches the telly while she half teaches your child is it? Quite.

@Lucieintheskye

No child would be able to focus on a lesson whilst wearing a lion onesie. I wouldn't either tbh. It's unreasonable to think kids should be allowed to wear distracting clothes because they're in a pandemic. ffs

Are you being sarcastic?

Thank you @WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants and @Iknowwhatudidlastsummer my point has always been that it doesn’t matter what our kids wear for a couple of months of home schooling. The point is that they learn.

@Iknowwhatudidlastsummer

Also, please don't take your anger about not being able to send your child to school out on the school itself. It's tough for everyone but they're doing their best in an extraordinary situation

that's debatable.

What has been the most shocking of all is the difference between schools. I get the first month was a bit of a shock, but we are coming to a year. By now all schools should manage to be on the ball a little bit

I see far more posts on here, social media and in life from parents who are not managing to home school than teachers struggling to cope.

We just can't publicly air our worries because we will be told we get enough holidays its our job bla bla.

We are doing our best and your post is unecessary.

It's not just aimed at the children it's aimed at anyone in the home to be appropriately dressed.

@WorraLiberty

It seems like most of the 'being able to go to school' jealousy is coming from the parents here, not so much the kids.

This sums it up.

The ones who are in school are in their day in day out, working consistently, on the subjects they should be, with various teachers in and out and not a lot of help. Many are vulnerable. No walks, no "ooh pop through and have some lunch" no "awk we'll finish early and do a b and c".

what a lot of nonsense

It's actually insulting on the teachers. Not all school have "various teachers", in many schools it's the normal teacher and the usual TA.

Kids have access to all their outdoor activities, playtime, PE, games and so on

It's much better to be at school with your friends enjoying your normal education and activities than being stuck home. Seriously, what are you on about!

This is a reasonable request and has made me feel a little guilty! Our primary school head has asked children not to be wearing pyjamas or eating during zoom, which my dc never do, but they have sometimes worn onesies over clothes. I can see it could seem overly cosy to the children at school and I'll make sure they don't do it again. It's not a big deal to take them off just for the live sessions.

I think it is a reasonable request. It sets the tone for work. The clue is in the phrase 'working from home' and applies to school children as well as adults imo.

Not read the full thread, but I’m with you op. Your house, your rules. Its hard enough for dcs to see classmates in school - they would love to be able to go to school.
Our house rules are that we do get ready in the morning, so clothes (no onesies, but yes to joggers), teeth, hair done. Pjs / onesies are for relaxing in the evening after dinner time here. I just don’t think it’s up to school to say what children should wear at home. That’s up to parents.

My daughter's in school and her school don't have to wear uniform when attending. I didn't realise schools were still enforcing uniform wearing.

We are doing our best and your post is unecessary.

you as an individual might be, but you can't talk for the whole education system.

Some schools are completely neglecting and abandoning children at home, and making it really clear to them that they are left behind and the focus is on their friends at home.

It's not right, and pretending it's not happening remove all weight in your arguments.