“No onesies please as it makes the children in school jealous”

[Lemons1571]

A message from the head of our primary. Please could all parents at home please ensure their primary children are fully dressed in day clothes ready for their class 9am zoom. No onesies. Apparently the children actually allowed to go to school are annoyed seeing their classmates lounging at home in onesies / pj’s / loungewear.

Ummm, I’m sorry, I thought I heard you issuing instructions on what I must / must not do in my own house. What possible authority does a school have to do this? Kids forced out of face to face education. Being shown some lovely examples of the artwork done by the kids at school over zoom with the caveat “oh don’t worry I know you can’t do this at home”.

Read the room ffs. Just another request to put other people’s children before my own. As it happens my primary child gets dressed of his own accord, but if he wanted to wear a onesie then quite frankly anyone else’s opinion can fuck off.

Physically going to school = uniform worn as per school rules.
Physically barred from school = my house my rules.

No doubt I’m overreacting but it annoyed me!

I let my kid wear pjs all the time at the minute but she’s not had live lessons. These start this week. The first thing she said was oh I’ll have to put proper clothes on! She’s 8. She understands the concept of getting dressed in sometime other than pjs for online school cos she sees me do it every day for online work. It’s not a big deal and I do think kids at home should wear clothes as opposed to onesies. Just stick a jumper over a PJ too if you have to!

@Iminaglasscaseofemotion my kids choose to shower before bed. Their choice.

The situation is not the fault of the schools - they aren't forcing children to stay at home.

no, but they decide on how much support they get and how large the gaps between classrooms and homeschool will be.

I think not getting dressed and not leaving the house for a full week, can be a slippery slope into depression actually.

Really not good for any of us.

The irony of this OP is just ridiculous. Railing against ‘judgement’ whilst being so judgemental.

Well I'm a primary school teacher (part time) and my daughter is putting on a fresh pair of pjs each morning when I am home. She is managing to do her home learning just fine in them. I just put a jumper on her for a zoom call as her school have said no pjs.

I have a little girl in my class who comes to the zoom calls dressed up as something different each time. Yesterday she was a cat. I didn't mind, it makes her happy and we are in tough times.

On the argument of children in school vs at home...it's not the children's fault they have keyworker parents. My own daughter has to go when myself and my husband are both working (he is also a key worker in food retail) She is missing her group of friends as none of them are in school, she misses her teacher and keeps asking me when school will be back to normal. I have key worker children in my bubble who are I'm a constant state of worry because of the jobs their parents are going out to do every day. One little girl was telling me all about how her mummy saved someone's life the other day.

Everyone is having a tough time, let's just be kind to each other and get through it.

@Hotelhelp errrr yes I would talk like that in real life. I am a women with a job that talks with Asia in the morning and the USA in the evening. You got an issue with that ?

Do you want individual teachers to make decisions on the dc's clothes - Lucy that onesie is fine, Alex those pyjama shorts are too short can you put some trousers on, Julie your my little pony nightie is sweet but please put a jumper on etc.
Of course not. A simple rule of wearing day clothes avoids any daftness and helps make the fact you are seeing children on video in their own homes seem a bit more professional and appropriate.
Some schools make them wear school uniform, now that might be worth complaining about.

All the

I’m a single parent and on important calls to Asia etc

I’m struggling to see the relevance to you having secondary aged children

@Blessex of course not. Well done on being so clever!

I don't quite understand why people keep saying it's a safeguarding issue and that the kids won't be washed? Just becauase someone is in a onesie or PJ's doesn't mean they are what they slept in. Getting up, washed and fresh PJ's on is a fab feeling and doesn't mean you aren't prepared for work/school.

[quote Blessex]@Hotelhelp errrr yes I would talk like that in real life. I am a women with a job that talks with Asia in the morning and the USA in the evening. You got an issue with that ?[/quote]
we get it, you have an important job

I am shocked @Hotelhelp. You clearly live a sheltered life if you think there are not women out there holding down global jobs.

My kids schools just say no cameras. Much easier than dictating what kids wear.
A friend of mine can’t afford to heat her house all day every day, so her kids get dressed and then wear a onesie or dressing gown over their clothes to keep warm. If the school want to pay her heating bill so her kids are warm enough without their onesie/dressing gown on, then I’m sure she’ll be willing to get the kids to just wear their normal clothes. Until then, I think they’ll keep their onesie/dressing gown on whilst getting on with their school work.

[quote Blessex]@Hotelhelp errrr yes I would talk like that in real life. I am a women with a job that talks with Asia in the morning and the USA in the evening. You got an issue with that ?[/quote]
I don't think the PP has a problem as such, more that it's just amusing you feel the need to keep mentioning it

We get it. Part of your job involves making telephone calls, just like millions of others.

@ItsIgginningtolooklikelockdown oh ffs only men can do that right

It's a tricky one.

My dd is year 7 and autistic, if she was to wear pjs all day she would mess about and wouldn't concentrate aswell.

I think it's good for them to get up and dressed for the day, dd wears joggers and a hoddie.

I wouldn't agree to wearing uniform though, I'd begrudge the washing and ironing!

Many schools insist on children being dressed for safeguarding reasons.
This also. Because if children are allowed onesies they may also wear other nightwear they doesn't cover so well and obviously that would be a big no-no.

If a man boasted about his job I'd think he was being an arse too, yes.

YABU. I don't think it's an unreasonable request!

Our teachers are teaching the kids who are lucky enough to be in school whilst the homeschool kids are on a computer screen trying to watch and listen to what the teacher says in the classroom. Glitchy school wifi means it’s nearly impossible. The lucky kids in school are getting feedback from teachers on their work. Nothing we’ve submitted online for my year 6 and year 3 over the past three weeks has had any feedback - don’t know why I’m bothering to submit it tbh and might stop.

Art day this week with homeschool kids having to make do with whatever’s in the house whilst school kids do the papier mâché, painting etc.

I think I’d respond to a message about onesies pointing out that the kids at home are jealous to the point of tears and tantrums that their friends are in school and receiving an education

[quote Blessex]@Hotelhelp errrr yes I would talk like that in real life. I am a women with a job that talks with Asia in the morning and the USA in the evening. You got an issue with that ?[/quote]
Ooooooooo get you!!! I'm a woman with a job who gets spat on, pooed on, kicked , hit, cuddled with hands that have just been down the toilet, dirty nappies thrown at me... AND I wear really nice full length black gothic dresses to work! You gotta problem with that?

This thread has taken a really weird turn 👀

If he used the word ‘jealous’, instead of the correct word ‘envious’, I’d be looking for a school with a headteacher who has a basic level of literacy -which yours hasn’t.

Sounds like the sort of person who uses ‘sat’ instead of ‘sitting’.

@Lemons1571

We’re not being asked to do this so our primary children are ready to learn. We’re being asked to do this specifically for the benefit of the kids that are getting a classroom education.

So fuck 'em and their feelings, eh?

YABU. And not very nice.