“No onesies please as it makes the children in school jealous”

[Lemons1571]

A message from the head of our primary. Please could all parents at home please ensure their primary children are fully dressed in day clothes ready for their class 9am zoom. No onesies. Apparently the children actually allowed to go to school are annoyed seeing their classmates lounging at home in onesies / pj’s / loungewear.

Ummm, I’m sorry, I thought I heard you issuing instructions on what I must / must not do in my own house. What possible authority does a school have to do this? Kids forced out of face to face education. Being shown some lovely examples of the artwork done by the kids at school over zoom with the caveat “oh don’t worry I know you can’t do this at home”.

Read the room ffs. Just another request to put other people’s children before my own. As it happens my primary child gets dressed of his own accord, but if he wanted to wear a onesie then quite frankly anyone else’s opinion can fuck off.

Physically going to school = uniform worn as per school rules.
Physically barred from school = my house my rules.

No doubt I’m overreacting but it annoyed me!

So would it be OK for a child to sit in a coat at home then? Children might “manage” in school but why leave children at home to be cold when there’s a perfectly simple solution?
If they wanted to. Or wear whatever they want with a jumper or hoodie over the top. It's not appropriate for them to be on camera in nightwear.

@Overoptimistix

YABU it's a safeguarding issue and should be part of the home-school agreement and risk assessment for online learning. It doesn't sound very well worded but maybe the head thought he/she would try a more 'friendly' approach.

Yes, those ultra revealing onesies.. definitely a safeguarding issue 🙄🙄🙄

The post says “award”
Not praise

I agree with the school...it puts the children in the right frame of mind for work !

YABU.

DD’s school has had this in place since the start. Kids on screen have to be dressed.
Personally I wouldn’t let DD do a zoom in her onesie/pjs anyway.

@Seth41 they are at primary school. They make their own breakfast. I am on a call with Asia. If they are doing their maths lesson with their onesie on then so be it.

@Seth41 sorry I meant secondary school!

First thoughts was that it was a reasonable request, but by the end of your post I had changed my mind and agree with you.

@WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants I'm an sen teacher so I mean I'm all over safeguarding but I'm really struggling to see the safeguarding issue around a onesie . Please could you explain I'm absolutely intrigued

Oh so sorry @WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants you were replying to the comment! Tagged you in error ignore me; I'll try again!!

I agree OP. Your house, your rules, if the onesie is offensive they could always offer to bring said child in to school as not to upset the others.

Your house, your rules.

I think getting dressed is a good thing, puts them in the right mindset.

[quote Blessex]@Iminaglasscaseofemotion yes they are. And if they don’t and I am on a call with China? I am not going to lose my shit about it.[/quote]
No one asked you to lose your shit. Calm down. Sticking some clothes on in the morning isn't a big deal. So many people saying their kids go for a shower in the morning then put a clean onsie on, well why not put some clothes on instead.

I don't let my kids stay in their PJs all day, lockdown or not. You get dressed in the morning. If I'm "too busy" to dress them then I'm not getting up early enough.

@Overoptimistix I'm an SEN teacher so I'm all over safeguarding. But I am very very much struggling to see the issue in a onesie. Now if it was a teeny weeny bikini sure... But could you please explain the issue I'm intrigued.

@dottiedaisee

I agree with the school...it puts the children in the right frame of mind for work !

Agree.

Wearing pyjamas is fun for a day or two, but not weeks and weeks.

The situation is not the fault of the schools - they aren't forcing children to stay at home.

@LadyWhistledownthe1st we can go the full week not leaving the house. I am busy working full time. Kids are schooling. Dog walker takes the dog. I feel so bad for the kids as it is. If they want to do their lessons in the morning wearing their PJs then honesty I am not going to chastise them.

Blessex, if you don't care, your senior school kids don't care and the school don't care, then there isn't a problem is there?

Asia or not.

The whole 'I'm too busy' thing is probably what threw people off track.

Completely reasonable request by the school. The kids might not physically be in the school building but they are “at school”. I don’t see any problem with this at all.

@WorraLiberty you are right. They don’t care. All they care about is their grades. Me too.

I find it hard to understand the bitter resentment coming from people whose children don't have access to the hubs. They are hubs. Far from normal school. Far from a normal environment.

said who?

Some schools might be providing emergency childcare.

Other schools have a normal day, with the usual teacher, but a smaller group as some of the kids are home.

Children at school have their usual routine, their usual play times, their usual activities and their normal lessons but with more attention from a teacher who only has to deal with half the class, say 15 kids instead of 30.

And parents playing the "keyworker" card when they work from home, or even better one of them is a SAH parent.

The only ones missing out are the ones left at home.

@Blessex read your own posts! ‘If I’m on a call with Asia’ ... give me strength! Would you talk like that in real life?

The other part of my post was just a general reply to this thread - not to you.

There haven't been requests from our primary about onesies as far as I know, but my son always gets dressed for online school and none of his classmates are in nightwear (although my 13 year old is usually still in PJ bottoms and Oodie as they have strict rules about no cameras on), The younger one would no more want to be seen in class in his nightwear than we would! As a parent I don't understand how anyone would think it's appropriate.

@Mumofsend

Own clothes are fine but they should be dressed in day clothes.

Well that's good, as I'm sure the neighbours would get pissed off with your kids wearing theirs