“No onesies please as it makes the children in school jealous”

[Lemons1571]

A message from the head of our primary. Please could all parents at home please ensure their primary children are fully dressed in day clothes ready for their class 9am zoom. No onesies. Apparently the children actually allowed to go to school are annoyed seeing their classmates lounging at home in onesies / pj’s / loungewear.

Ummm, I’m sorry, I thought I heard you issuing instructions on what I must / must not do in my own house. What possible authority does a school have to do this? Kids forced out of face to face education. Being shown some lovely examples of the artwork done by the kids at school over zoom with the caveat “oh don’t worry I know you can’t do this at home”.

Read the room ffs. Just another request to put other people’s children before my own. As it happens my primary child gets dressed of his own accord, but if he wanted to wear a onesie then quite frankly anyone else’s opinion can fuck off.

Physically going to school = uniform worn as per school rules.
Physically barred from school = my house my rules.

No doubt I’m overreacting but it annoyed me!

[quote Blessex]@WorraLiberty maybe we should all come and live at yours worra. Sounds you are holier than thou[/quote]
No, I'm far too holy to allow internet randoms into my house during a pandemic.

Even if I blessed your feet with holy water.

@Blessex

Your children are secondary school age, yes?

I don't agree with the reasons the head gave but am 100% behind the wish for children to be in day clothes for school. Same for work calls for those wfh.

I'm sitting looking at my wall to wall Kallax. It would be so easy to remove or disguise a cube of booze bottles. You could drape a throw over the whole thing if you can't manage to move them. I'm sure you would manage if it was a work call. Your poor ds.

Surely, that's the joy of learning at home.
It's about time we stopped treating children like snowflakes with "it's not fair"
Mine wears her onesie as do those at school, who want to, tbh.

From what I can gather on loads of other threads, a substantial number of mumsnet years aren’t bothering to get dressed.

So not surprising that nor would their children

@mikejardine

Oh ffs, these responses are so depressing. This situation is absolutely shit for kids. We are facing a child and adolescent mental health crisis after this, putting kids in completely unnatural circumstances that without Covid as the justification would result in social services involvement, and people chip in with judgemental sanctimonious crap like

They should be up, dressed and ready to learn

Can people just open their minds a little and take perspective? Yes ideally kids will be dressed, ideally they will get up on time, ideally they will embrace learning on a device within the same four walls they spend 23hours a day in. But for the ones really struggling don't make it even fucking harder for parents

OP yanbu

This!

@peak2021

I don't agree with the reasons the head gave but am 100% behind the wish for children to be in day clothes for school. Same for work calls for those wfh.

The Head didn't give a reason. The OP made a clickbait thread title.

Please could all parents at home please ensure their primary children are fully dressed in day clothes ready for their class 9am zoom. No onesies

@Sexnotgender

Totally reasonable to request children are dressed appropriately.

only if the school provides appropriate education and support and doesn't treat the children at home unfairly.

It’s not an ideal situation for any of the children, those at school and those at home. I’m no sure that there are any distinct advantages for either group.

What I am sure about though is that children should be getting washed, fed breakfast and dressed in day clothes every school day unless they are ill. They need the routine and sense of purpose desperately.
To not get your children dressed for days and days is not a good idea and it’s a safeguarding concern. If people are too busy, ill or depressed to do this then they might benefit from a well-being call from school.

Honestly for me the most important thing is that the kids get educated. That is the most important thing. Full stop.

YABVU.

Plus the tone of your OP and language suggests you are quite argumentative generally. They are t trying to dictate. They are just asking for your kids not to be in jimjams FGS.

@Iknowwhatudidlastsummer

Perhaps the school is presuming the parents are rewarding their home educated child

so by the same token I can stop giving praise and bonuses to my staff working from home and give them only to someone who is in the office? They can get a reward from their partner at home.

Did the OP say the school isn’t giving any praise to any home schooled child at all?

Must have missed that

We do get dressed, we do go out everyday but if my kids school was as abysmal as some of the worst ones I've heard of, I would put my kids in a onesie just to make a point.

and I still would like to understand why @Hotelhelp thinks I am a twat. You can PM me if you like.

Did the OP say the school isn’t giving any praise to any home schooled child at all?

Must have missed that

You have, read the post you were replying to again.

My kids wear onesies, neither has been told to wear uniform didn't know was a problem for ppl.

@MizMoonshine

Nope.

We're not leaving the fucking house, we're not getting dressed.

My kiddo does his school work wearing whatever he has on and I'm not dragging him out of it to benefit kids in class.

Genuine question, not meant in a nasty way. What do you mean by “we’re not getting dressed”? Do you mean you wash every day and change into clean pyjamas every day? Or do you think of trackie bottoms as “not dressed”? Or do you really mean you wear the same pyjamas for several days?

My son wears what he wants and that will continue in my home.

I agree with you completely OP.
You are over-reacting.

We’ve been getting our 4 up and ready as if it’s a normal day I suddenly realised I was rushing about and then saw other dc on the online lessons eating cereal and in pjs etc and thought I had missed a trick 🤦‍♀️ But the the dc do seem to like the routine and at least they are then ready for the day I suppose

@Blessex

Honestly for me the most important thing is that the kids get educated. That is the most important thing. Full stop.

Agree

But doesn’t mean other things aren’t important too.

How old art your children Blessex? Because I remember you on another thread talking about your DD at high school. Is it really so intense parenting in the morning at this age?!

I’m a single parent, primary ages and in hoping against hope that I don’t have to go through same rigmarole at secondary school as I do now!

Why are people not leaving the house????? At all? No walks? No fresh air? Jesus

As I hate school uniforms anyway I would vote for YANBU

@pinktophat

I find it hard to understand the bitter resentment coming from people whose children don't have access to the hubs. They are hubs. Far from normal school. Far from a normal environment. The kids are there as they can't be at home. I know where I'd rather my kids were in a pandemic regardless of whether it's tough or not. I bet loads of parents using the hubs wish they didn't have to.

Because some are not currently actually operating as hubs but exclusive clubs for the chosen few, not difficult to understand the resentment that may cause?