Should I send my child to pre school

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My child's preschool is open as normal but given the current infection rates in England I'm wary of sending her. She's ambivalent, she seems to enjoy it, however she equally happy spending time with me (I'm a SAHM).
I'm also worried they may close all pre school settings as further covid reduction/control measures, and don't want her further disruption to her routine.
WWYD

It is not selfish for parents to choose what is best for their child among the minimal options currently available. It is not selfish for nursery workers to push for nurseries to be key workers only if that is what they feel will be safer for them. People are doing their best I think.

It is not selfish for parents to choose what is best for their child[...]
People are doing their best I think.

This thread is exactly the definition of selfish.
SAHM with a child in preschool.

If SAHP are thinking if they should send children to preschool what chance do we have?

People need to stop thinking they know more than the scientists - assuming OP is not a virologist.

Government and scientific community are asking us to stay at home to stop the spread.

The thousands of lives lost are obviously irrelevant to the selfish people here, but even from that selfish point of view:

Allowing the spread to continue prolongs the situation for everyone, harms the economy, harms those who need hospital care for WHATEVER reason (and yes that can be you and your children), and more importantly, the more people the virus is allowed to infect, the more chances it has to mutate into something that WILL hurt YOU and YOUR children.
The new UK variant spreads more and is more deadly, others may affect the vaccines.
What will it take for people to take this seriously?

By all means carry on being selfish, but stay at home if you can.

[quote Haenow]@Bumblebee1980a

Excellent retort, it added a huge amount to the discussion. I didn’t name call and I did recognise the need for vulnerable children to access childcare.
You’re on the attack and justifying yourself all over the place. If you’re totally confident with your decision, there’s no need to bite the heads off everyone. If you feel it’s justified, surely you should be able to say your view without snipe and spite. I know someone sending her child to nursery because she is struggling with her mental health at home. She isn’t snapping at everyone who might ask why. It’s possible to disagree![/quote]
Just suddenly appearing on here and summarising our conversation!

We have discussed it all evening and it's getting rather repetitive.

Who are you to judge?

And you don’t even have kids in nursery.

Go away.

@Sayitasitis2020

*It is not selfish for parents to choose what is best for their child[...] People are doing their best I think.*

This thread is exactly the definition of selfish.
SAHM with a child in preschool.

If SAHP are thinking if they should send children to preschool what chance do we have?

People need to stop thinking they know more than the scientists - assuming OP is not a virologist.

Government and scientific community are asking us to stay at home to stop the spread.

The thousands of lives lost are obviously irrelevant to the selfish people here, but even from that selfish point of view:

Allowing the spread to continue prolongs the situation for everyone, harms the economy, harms those who need hospital care for WHATEVER reason (and yes that can be you and your children), and more importantly, the more people the virus is allowed to infect, the more chances it has to mutate into something that WILL hurt YOU and YOUR children.
The new UK variant spreads more and is more deadly, others may affect the vaccines.
What will it take for people to take this seriously?

By all means carry on being selfish, but stay at home if you can.

The same old thing keeps being said.

You cannot judge another mum for sending their children in nursery. You do not know everyone's circumstance. Children are currently allowed to go to nursery so who are you to say otherwise.

Do you have a child of nursery age?

@HereComesATractor

It is not selfish for parents to choose what is best for their child among the minimal options currently available. It is not selfish for nursery workers to push for nurseries to be key workers only if that is what they feel will be safer for them. People are doing their best I think.

Let's just focus on what we are doing and forget justifying why we are sending our nursery children in. Everyone's circumstances are different and everyone has the right to chose what is best for their child (like you've said I think).

It's really none of their business anyway. Most of them posting don't even have nursery children!

This was suppose to be answering the original posters question on whether she should send her child in. I think that's been answered.

Sayitasitis2020 I can see that you are someone who is dealing with the stresses of the current situation by trying to make everything black and white, good or bad. I lost a second relative to covid this week, I know how hard it is.

@Bumblebee1980a, I can judge the situation because the OP posted voluntarily asking for opinion, so I voluntarily gave mine.

I have children yes, at home, and I work full time, which is absolutely irrelevant for the OP, but there you go.

The more people the virus has a chance to infect the more chance it has to mutate into something that will affect my children, your children, the OPs children.

Not sure how being the same old thing or new thing makes a difference. Do you have anything to offer other than sarcasm?

@HereComesATractor, I am sorry for your losses.
With regards to me dealing with the stresses of the current situation by making things black and white, not at all. I am very lucky in my personal situation but what I posted are just facts.

[quote Sayitasitis2020]@Bumblebee1980a, I can judge the situation because the OP posted voluntarily asking for opinion, so I voluntarily gave mine.

I have children yes, at home, and I work full time, which is absolutely irrelevant for the OP, but there you go.

The more people the virus has a chance to infect the more chance it has to mutate into something that will affect my children, your children, the OPs children.

Not sure how being the same old thing or new thing makes a difference. Do you have anything to offer other than sarcasm?[/quote]
We were discussing this all evening and then you came to the conversation very late and I didn't want to keep repeating myself. It was late.

I am getting so sick of people banging on about why children shouldn't go in.

You make your own decisions after waying up the risks. I could explain my circumstances and what we do to minimise the risks but it's really none of your business.

I am Masters level. I know how to research. I research it and don't listen to the news (it's scare mongering for the really stupid people so I get why they do it).

Look at WHO and other relevant sources and research it properly. I will be doing so with the new variant and I will then make another informed decision.

There are three of us in my family including my DS and we don't leave the house apart from DS going to school 3 days a week. Some of the other parents have actually upped their children's days but I guess their circumstances dictate that but who I am to judge.

Let's stop judging other people's decisions. It already an immensely stressful situation for us all.

I've just seen pictures of hundreds of people at Heathrow airport. Oh my goodness!!! And some of you are saying the virus is rising because of nursery children!!!! Take a look at the pictures. Absolutely astonishing!! We have cancelled 2 holidays because of the virus and rightly so!

@Bumblebee1980a, I am not "banging on" about anything.

However you can't argue the facts.
You obviously are taking this personally and I am sorry you are struggling due to your personal circumstances.
I would be happy to not "judge" if other people's actions didn't affect everyone else.
Research more.

@Nicknamegoeshere good for you. As an ex medic I also care for my children's mental wellbeing. They are going in

I work in a nursery and I’m certainly not happy to be there but I wouldn’t tell any parent that
I would smile and lie through my teeth because that’s it’s not good for business for parents to think the staff are unhappy
I have worked with children for many years and assume that every child has nits, so don’t do head to head contact, I also assume that every child has threadworms so I never hold their hands, I hold round their wrists instead. I now am beginning to assume every child could have Covid, so that massively affects how I deal with them, it’s much more hands off than it used to be
People can send their children if they need to but don’t expect the same level of care

What facts Sayit?

@insancerre

I work in a nursery and I’m certainly not happy to be there but I wouldn’t tell any parent that I would smile and lie through my teeth because that’s it’s not good for business for parents to think the staff are unhappy I have worked with children for many years and assume that every child has nits, so don’t do head to head contact, I also assume that every child has threadworms so I never hold their hands, I hold round their wrists instead. I now am beginning to assume every child could have Covid, so that massively affects how I deal with them, it’s much more hands off than it used to be People can send their children if they need to but don’t expect the same level of care

I also assume that every child has threadworms so I never hold their hands, I hold round their wrists instead.

Wow. So glad you aren't working at my DS school. Actually you wouldn't last 2 minutes!

@Bumblebee1980a
I might work there
You have no idea of how the staff are feeling

[quote Sayitasitis2020]@Bumblebee1980a, I am not "banging on" about anything.

However you can't argue the facts.
You obviously are taking this personally and I am sorry you are struggling due to your personal circumstances.
I would be happy to not "judge" if other people's actions didn't affect everyone else.
Research more.[/quote]
It is personal when you're talking about decisions regarding your children.

In my last post I said I am researching the new variant and then your reply was telling me to research more 🤨

My child will still be going in unless my research says otherwise. Thank you for your concern.

[quote insancerre]@Bumblebee1980a
I might work there
You have no idea of how the staff are feeling[/quote]
Irrelevant. I'm not repeating myself. Read all posts before you reply.

My child is going in nursery regardless of how staff feel. Children are allowed to go in nursery at the moment. Our staff are allowed PPE.

[quote insancerre]@Bumblebee1980a
I might work there
You have no idea of how the staff are feeling[/quote]
Let's narrow it down. Do you work in a private school?

I would take her out for a little while. A month or two from now, once the weather warms up, flu season is over and the vaccine has been rolled out, it will be safer to put her back in.

@Bumblebee1980a
Do I work in a private school?
Yes

[quote insancerre]@Bumblebee1980a
Do I work in a private school?
Yes[/quote]
Ok well it's very unlikely to be the same one. The staff at DS nursery are wonderful and I see them carrying the children never mind holding their hands.

You don't sound very caring.

@Bumblebee1980a

I've just seen pictures of hundreds of people at Heathrow airport. Oh my goodness!!! And some of you are saying the virus is rising because of nursery children!!!! Take a look at the pictures. Absolutely astonishing!! We have cancelled 2 holidays because of the virus and rightly so!

Well yes, we’re all going to think the sacrifices we personally have made are the more important ones. Someone who has decided not to send their child to nursery, and probably still has to pay fees to keep their place, is likely to be resentful of those who haven’t made that decision and perceive it as them being selfish in not choosing the same “sacrifice”. It suits the government very well of course to be accusing each other of selfishness and not doing our bit.

I’m not going to explain my circumstances any more than I already have, or try to detail what “sacrifices” I have made over the last year, or explain what contribution I have made in tackling covid or supporting others because I don’t need to. And in consideration of how things currently stand in my area and in consideration of the people around me, including nursery staff, the decision to send my child into nursery is the right one. If things change my decision might change.

It's a difficult one. I'm sending my LG but I am working from home currently and would really struggle to work with her here (actually I would find it impossible). I am also 28 weeks pregnant and struggling with my mobility so even if I wasn't working I'd be tempted to send her in as I'm struggling to get on the floor and play games with her, go out for a walk, push her on the swings etc. She would be miserable if she had to spend all her time with me and she is a very social little girl. The risk I am taking is catching covid at 28 weeks pregnant though. I keep going back and to with my decision but my partner, family and friends all think it's a no brainier and she should go in.

I also assume that every child has threadworms so I never hold their hands, I hold round their wrists instead.

I don't think you should be working with children....