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Should I send my child to pre school

218 replies

HearMeRawwr · 21/01/2021 10:22

My child's preschool is open as normal but given the current infection rates in England I'm wary of sending her. She's ambivalent, she seems to enjoy it, however she equally happy spending time with me (I'm a SAHM).
I'm also worried they may close all pre school settings as further covid reduction/control measures, and don't want her further disruption to her routine.
WWYD

OP posts:
pinkpip100 · 22/01/2021 20:33

I disagree with you.

Which bit?

Nicknamegoeshere · 22/01/2021 20:34

Yes send them even if a SAHP. Don't worry about the staff getting it.

Fortherosesjoni70 · 22/01/2021 20:37

There is NO way now ( considering the variant is more deadly, that I would send him. NO WAY.

Nicknamegoeshere · 22/01/2021 20:38

@HereComesATractor May I ask why? Just that I'm on mat leave too and have two other children at home. Can I send them in?

Bumblebee1980a · 22/01/2021 20:41

@pinkpip100

I disagree with you.

Which bit?

You said that it was more responsible to keep them at home. Now that is a very generalised statement. You don't know what everyone's circumstance is so how could you know that keeping them at home is the most responsible option.
Bumblebee1980a · 22/01/2021 20:42

@Fortherosesjoni70

There is NO way now ( considering the variant is more deadly, that I would send him. NO WAY.
Research WHO and find out where they say the new variant is more deadly.
Fortherosesjoni70 · 22/01/2021 20:44

Well it was in the news. Are you suggesting they are lying?

Fortherosesjoni70 · 22/01/2021 20:45

[quote Nicknamegoeshere]@HereComesATractor May I ask why? Just that I'm on mat leave too and have two other children at home. Can I send them in?[/quote]
If I was pregnant then I wouldn't take the chance.

pinkpip100 · 22/01/2021 20:45

You said that it was more responsible to keep them at home. Now that is a very generalised statement. You don't know what everyone's circumstance is so how could you know that keeping them at home is the most responsible option.

In the OP's case - from the information given on their particular circumstances - I definitely think the responsible (and sensible) decision at this point in time would be to keep their child at home. And for most SAHP I would say the same - of course, there will always be exceptions (and usually they would fall under the broad 'vulnerable' category, so those children would be offered a place). But in most circumstances, if one parent isn't working, that would be my response.

Bumblebee1980a · 22/01/2021 20:46

@Fortherosesjoni70

Well it was in the news. Are you suggesting they are lying?
I'm saying they aren't correctly informed
Ilovegreentomatoes · 22/01/2021 20:46

Everyone needs to send their kids in to save their mental health it seems.
Never seen a term so over used.

Bumblebee1980a · 22/01/2021 20:47

@pinkpip100

You said that it was more responsible to keep them at home. Now that is a very generalised statement. You don't know what everyone's circumstance is so how could you know that keeping them at home is the most responsible option.

In the OP's case - from the information given on their particular circumstances - I definitely think the responsible (and sensible) decision at this point in time would be to keep their child at home. And for most SAHP I would say the same - of course, there will always be exceptions (and usually they would fall under the broad 'vulnerable' category, so those children would be offered a place). But in most circumstances, if one parent isn't working, that would be my response.

Gov website

Multiple COVID-19 variants are circulating globally:
In the United Kingdom (UK), a new variant called B.1.1.7 has emerged with an unusually large number of mutations. This variant spreads more easily and quickly than other variants. Currently, there is no evidence that it causes more severe illness or increased risk of death. This variant was first detected in September 2020 and is now highly prevalent in London and southeast England. It has since been detected in numerous countries around the world, including the United States and Canada.

Bumblebee1980a · 22/01/2021 20:48

@Ilovegreentomatoes

Everyone needs to send their kids in to save their mental health it seems. Never seen a term so over used.
Probably because the current situation is magnifying / causing mental health problems 🙄
Nicknamegoeshere · 22/01/2021 20:48

@Fortherosesjoni70 I'm not pregnant, I'm on mat leave. Just wondered why the poster said she had to send her other child in? I have two other kids. At home.

HereComesATractor · 22/01/2021 20:51

Nicknamegoeshere I have explained my circumstances in later posts. Are you asking in good faith or do you want to try to make me feel guilty about it? Send your children to nursery if you feel you need to, it’s not up to me.

pinkpip100 · 22/01/2021 20:51

@Bumblebee1980a was that meant for me? Not sure how it relates to my post?

HereComesATractor · 22/01/2021 20:53

@Ilovegreentomatoes

Everyone needs to send their kids in to save their mental health it seems. Never seen a term so over used.
So you don’t care about parents’ mental health? I don’t expect you to tbh, it’s not your job, you have enough to worry about. But saying “what about nursery workers’ mental health?!” is also neither here nor there. The government is not making decisions about which settings should be open or closed on the basis of mental health.
Ilovegreentomatoes · 22/01/2021 20:53

@Bumblebee1980a or maybe it's just a convenient way to excuse your actions when your being selfish.

Bumblebee1980a · 22/01/2021 20:56

[quote pinkpip100]@Bumblebee1980a was that meant for me? Not sure how it relates to my post?[/quote]
Sorrryyyy I'm overtired.

Bumblebee1980a · 22/01/2021 20:57

@Fortherosesjoni70

Well it was in the news. Are you suggesting they are lying?
Copy and pasted form gov website

Multiple COVID-19 variants are circulating globally:
In the United Kingdom (UK), a new variant called B.1.1.7 has emerged with an unusually large number of mutations. This variant spreads more easily and quickly than other variants. Currently, there is no evidence that it causes more severe illness or increased risk of death. This variant was first detected in September 2020 and is now highly prevalent in London and southeast England. It has since been detected in numerous countries around the world, including the United States and Canada.

Nicknamegoeshere · 22/01/2021 21:01

@Herecomesatractor Fellow sufferer. But I'd never forgive myself if my children caught Covid at nursery/school or if they infected a member of staff. Especially if the consequences were not good. That's just my opinion.

HereComesATractor · 22/01/2021 21:04

Indeed it is. I’d never forgive myself if my PND had a significantly negative effect on my child which could have been alleviated by a single day at nursery per week. We have no other contacts with others in order to reduce the risk of transmitting covid or any other infectious disease. Just my opinion.

HereComesATractor · 22/01/2021 21:06

Nicknamegoeshere Out of curiosity why did you ask me if you should send your children to nursery? Why would you think I should have an opinion on your circumstances?

Nicknamegoeshere · 22/01/2021 21:07

@HereComesATractor Because I am in a very similar situation?

Nicknamegoeshere · 22/01/2021 21:09

@HereComesATractor Also, fair play to you that you have no other contacts with others directly. But your child in nursery is having contact with other children so could pick up the virus and transmit that way?