Should I send my child to pre school

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My child's preschool is open as normal but given the current infection rates in England I'm wary of sending her. She's ambivalent, she seems to enjoy it, however she equally happy spending time with me (I'm a SAHM).
I'm also worried they may close all pre school settings as further covid reduction/control measures, and don't want her further disruption to her routine.
WWYD

[quote Ilovegreentomatoes]@Bumblebee1980a or maybe it's just a convenient way to excuse your actions when your being selfish.[/quote]
LOL so parents who are currently sending their children are selfish. Hilarious.

Again - why should that mean I should have an opinion on what you should do, with your own children? You clearly feel the risks are weighted more towards covid for your particularly circumstances. I feel the risks are weighted more towards PND for my circumstances. We are both convinced of our decisions. I have no opinion about your decision, you’ve done what works for you.

[quote Nicknamegoeshere]@HereComesATractor Also, fair play to you that you have no other contacts with others directly. But your child in nursery is having contact with other children so could pick up the virus and transmit that way?[/quote]
Ah ok. So you do want me to feel guilty about it? Is that the aim?

I’ve never said there were no risks to my family or others with nurseries open and me sending my child. See my previous post - I have no opinion about what you do with your children. I’m not sure why you would think I would.

@HereComesATractor Have you considered the safety of the other children and the nursery staff too? I'm sure you have, it's just a personal concern.

@HereComesATractor

Again - why should that mean I should have an opinion on what you should do, with your own children? You clearly feel the risks are weighted more towards covid for your particularly circumstances. I feel the risks are weighted more towards PND for my circumstances. We are both convinced of our decisions. I have no opinion about your decision, you’ve done what works for you.

I think the people who don't agree with children being in nursery want to shame us for sending ours in.

[quote Nicknamegoeshere]@HereComesATractor Have you considered the safety of the other children and the nursery staff too? I'm sure you have, it's just a personal concern.[/quote]
I think you're clutching at straws now. So pathetic.

[quote Nicknamegoeshere]@HereComesATractor Have you considered the safety of the other children and the nursery staff too? I'm sure you have, it's just a personal concern.[/quote]
Have you read my posts on this thread? You might find some answers there. What is your motive for grilling me? You are doing what you believe offers least risk to you and those around you. I am doing the same.

@pinkpip100

I don't need to justify it to anyone.

No one has asked you to justify it. But lots of people (you included) were very quick to tell the OP to send their child to pre-school, irrespective of the fact that there doesn't seem to be any reason to - and in that case the most responsible position would be to keep them at home.

That’s an opinion not fact. Parents also have responsibilities to their children. Only each person can weigh up the detrimental impact on their child from not going (and not being able to do anything else like toddler groups) versus the risks posed (which again do depend on how careful you are). If you have no support bubble, no childcare bubble and getting your shopping delivered plus your child is miserable at home all day every day, then I think it’s a responsible choice.

@Itsnotlikethiswithotherpeople

Couldn't agree more.

@Bumblebee1980a some are selfish yes.
Glad you find it hilarious.

[quote Ilovegreentomatoes]@Bumblebee1980a some are selfish yes.
Glad you find it hilarious.[/quote]
It's not selfish doing the best for your child.

I have a feeling you either don't have children or your kids are older now. I'm thinking the latter as this is 'Mumsnet'. I think it's easier to sympathise when you have kids and you see first hand how the virus is affecting them.

Have a good evening.

plus your child is miserable at home all day every day, then I think it’s a responsible choice.

The OP clearly said their child was happy at home. Therefore - given the risks of sending a child to nursery at present - the sensible and responsible thing would be to keep her at home.

You are not the arbiter of sensible and responsible however.

@pinkpip100

plus your child is miserable at home all day every day, then I think it’s a responsible choice.

The OP clearly said their child was happy at home. Therefore - given the risks of sending a child to nursery at present - the sensible and responsible thing would be to keep her at home.

It is up to the parents to judge that, not you.

Shall we ask all parents (who send their children in nursery (when they're allowed)) to explain their circumstances to you so you can tell them whether their responsible or not.

Full of your own self of importance much?

@Bumblebee1980a No wonder this country is in such a mess is it?

MNers: “I don’t have to justify myself to you!”
MNers: spends ages posting about how it’s ok

FWIW, I fully recognise some children will be actively disadvantaged by not going to nursery but I suspect they are vulnerable anyway.
Parents who can only work out of home in critical roles are being screwed over by the open nurseries. If nursery is open to everyone, the higher the likelihood of covid infection and settings closed. I have heard of 2 local settings from friends who needed to temporarily close due to Covid. One is a single parent and she’s a hospital nurse and another is a child of 2 full time working SEN teachers. Of course it might have happened anyway but the more people there, the more the chance. It’s not fair on them. I have no DC in nursery so no skin in the game.

[quote Nicknamegoeshere]@Bumblebee1980a No wonder this country is in such a mess is it?[/quote]
Yes must be because I send my little boy to nursery 🤨😆

@Haenow

MNers: “I don’t have to justify myself to you!” MNers: spends ages posting about how it’s ok

FWIW, I fully recognise some children will be actively disadvantaged by not going to nursery but I suspect they are vulnerable anyway.
Parents who can only work out of home in critical roles are being screwed over by the open nurseries. If nursery is open to everyone, the higher the likelihood of covid infection and settings closed. I have heard of 2 local settings from friends who needed to temporarily close due to Covid. One is a single parent and she’s a hospital nurse and another is a child of 2 full time working SEN teachers. Of course it might have happened anyway but the more people there, the more the chance. It’s not fair on them. I have no DC in nursery so no skin in the game.

Sorry who are you?

@Bumblebee1980a What if we all said that? What happened to collective responsibility?

@Haenow

MNers: “I don’t have to justify myself to you!” MNers: spends ages posting about how it’s ok

FWIW, I fully recognise some children will be actively disadvantaged by not going to nursery but I suspect they are vulnerable anyway.
Parents who can only work out of home in critical roles are being screwed over by the open nurseries. If nursery is open to everyone, the higher the likelihood of covid infection and settings closed. I have heard of 2 local settings from friends who needed to temporarily close due to Covid. One is a single parent and she’s a hospital nurse and another is a child of 2 full time working SEN teachers. Of course it might have happened anyway but the more people there, the more the chance. It’s not fair on them. I have no DC in nursery so no skin in the game.

Surely Covid is more likely to spread from those with key worker parents, so that argument is pointless.

I send mine. They want to see their friends. It's the one external thing that has stayed normal for them. They need it.

@AnnaSW1 I don't send mine because seeing their friends is less important than getting Covid.

@OnlyFoolsnMothers

Critical workers often don’t have a choice about needing childcare. A happy, engaged child with a SAHM is a whole different kettle of fish.

@Bumblebee1980a

Excellent retort, it added a huge amount to the discussion. I didn’t name call and I did recognise the need for vulnerable children to access childcare.
You’re on the attack and justifying yourself all over the place. If you’re totally confident with your decision, there’s no need to bite the heads off everyone. If you feel it’s justified, surely you should be able to say your view without snipe and spite. I know someone sending her child to nursery because she is struggling with her mental health at home. She isn’t snapping at everyone who might ask why. It’s possible to disagree!

“ I have no DC in nursery so no skin in the game”

No, but that also means you’re proposing that parents who do have children at nursery but aren’t key workers who work outside the home should be doing the crazy thing they had to do back in the spring which is attempt to work with a toddler around. You will not be asked to do that, will you? I completely get that many aren’t on board with people in my situation (on ML) sending children to nursery, but if you don’t have a child at nursery then you’re not going to be put in the position of choosing between neglecting your child and keeping food on the table, are you? So easy for you to say