Supermarkets need to get real!

[Justa47]

When will supermarkets stop being a day out and only allow single parents in with kids and not families and couples?

Why doesn’t one parent wait in the car?

Lots of couples could be someone with a carer. Trouble is shop staff can’t ask for proof of someone’s disability.

"When will customers stop being idiots and not take their entire family in for a stroll around the supermarket?"

Fixed it for you OP

@Purplethrow
If I have him a list he would be in the supermarket even longer than we would if we did it together he doesn’t do shopping he isn’t incapable I think your being rude not everyone is perfect u know !

Kind of sick of the 'it's not ableism', 'why don't you do whatever solution would work for me?', 'what makes you so special?' brigade. I don't take my entire family. I do take an able-bodied teenager with me to slash the number of trips I'd otherwise have to make. If you don't like that, I'll take your delivery slot. I can't get one.

I go with my Mum as she is elderly, and I pick her up, take her to the supermarket, whizz round for my stuff at the same time, and then drop her home.

When it was the first lockdown, I was shopping for us, her and the elderly lady across the road, so it got complicated!

It shouldn't be up to the supermarket staff to police this. My friend has taken so much abuse it's not fair. Many of her colleagues have been assaulted. They are paid a pittance. The police or army should be sorting this out.

100%. People need to be a bit more understanding.

On MN anyone who isn't in the exact same situation as another poster is wrong. People posting from their mortgage free home, probably while they are comfortably remotely working, that others who dont just stay at home are selfish morons and how x job isn't actually essential so all those people should be furloughed. People with a fully stocked pantry and freezer berating others who have to go to the shop more than once a fortnight. Anything that they dont personally avail of should be shut or banned (takeaways, support bubbles etc). Understanding was part of the "old normal" it seems like and has no part in a post covid world. It's getting ridiculous.

@peak2021

I agree, but would most women trust their DH to do the shopping and get everything correct?

Meanwhile, back in the 21st century.....

Unless you have actually done an in-depth survey on a representative sample of those going as families you have no idea of the reasons why.

Going for a shopping is the only time I get out at the moment. Can't even walk the dog alone. If I didn't go to the shops with dp at night after his work, I think I would go off mad. I'm heavily pregnant and can hardly walk, get very faint (especiallywith a maks on). I have been out the house twice in the last 3 weeks, and that was to go and get some shopping. I don't go everytime we need something, just when we need a bigger shop and I want a look around.
Last time I went alone I almost fainted at the checkout. That would be worse than the 2 of us going. Or 3 if I take youngest ds because I don't like leaving him in the car, and he doesn't like it either.

I go with my DP as we don't have a car and I wouldn't be able to carry everything back on my own. You need to stop being so judgey

If trust dh to shop. But I joke that I don't.
I know he'd get everything we need. But last time the wally went when hungry. He has a very sweet tooth. Spend an extra £48on random, cakes, choc, gateaux, cheesecakes chocolate, sweet. You name it. Lasted ages tho.
However he works long days so we think it works that he gets in to be with kids and I go. As I get to 'escape the madness of bedtime' and he gets to see dcs and sort them out.
However there are sometimes occasions when he's working late or a reason j have to take the dcs. Or at least 1 of them when 1 at pre school. But he's strapped in a trolley not running around or touching things. But this is rare.

I wasn't talking about people with young families/small children.
I've seen a lot of lone parents with their children, shopping, most of who have said their other half was at work.
I was talking about one or two parents with three teenaged kids.
Groups of adults (six in one case) buying booze and snacks, presumably because there's nowhere else to go. I get that. But why come in mob handed? Why not decide what they want, and one or two get the shopping?

Parkperson I agree with you, l've seen a LOT of men doing the family shops. Some regulars have been doing it for months, some since last March.
Some have lists, some don't. One guy l know is a long distance lorry driver. He does a big shop every Sunday, and judging from what he buys, that's the only shop they do in the week. He has small children and his wife is at home with the little ones.
One other man (older guy) has come in every week, his wife is shielding. He does all their shopping.

EsquireFuss
What does QFT mean?

Quoted For truth?
Quit Fucking Talking?
Quantum Field Theory?

But one could wait outside? One shop then carry it back together?

Yeah also can't get a delivery or collection slot here for up to a week, and if you can it costs more than the petrol to get to the bloody shop. Perhaps that's all the selfish people I read about a few months ago holding delivery and collection slots with random items in their baskets for days until they are ready to use them?

In lockdown 1, my DH was shopping for five households at a time. 5 lists, all rewritten on a piece of A3. This isn't a humble brag... Just evidence of what CAN be done when you put your mind to it.

@HoppingOnSteppingStones

But one could wait outside? One shop then carry it back together?

Maybe fine in the summer but not when it's -1 outside

I did notice ASDA have a min order of £40 for delivery, plus delivery costs which have gone up significantly.

Mine was £4.50

Not good for anyone with a limited budget.

Waitrose minimum Delivery or Collection is £40 but no delivery charge.

Op i agree last lockdown we had security guards at aldi who handled things brilliantly someone kicked off because he was wanting to bring everyone in the guard said one and stuck to it so one it was this time families of five groups of adults shopping the place is rammed the staff are stressed out more than before

I noticed in our local Waitrose today only single people. In fact I cannot remember any couples even although perhaps there were one or two. It was not every busy either.

I’m not sure Waitrose would be great for a limited budget either.
It must be really depressing to spend 10% of your food budget on delivery.

There are many legitimate reasons why people can’t shop alone, but equally there are many people shopping as couples or families for convenience or by choice.

We should show the supermarket workers respect and only do it if it is totally necessary. Why should their exposure be increased because somebody fancies a change of scene or wants to get their kids out the house?

@Belinda554

I’m not sure Waitrose would be great for a limited budget either. It must be really depressing to spend 10% of your food budget on delivery.

I think it depends what you buy TBH it has a reputation for being ££s but not everything is. But delivery is free so that's great.